It's honestly infuriating how many people's trying to "save" you is just guilt tripping

[lanax09]

When I confide to people about my suicidality, I've noticed that most of the responses are just how it will affect them or how I will be leaving my younger brother without someone to protect him from my parents; one time I was even told about how it would destroy my parents' reputation! I mean ffs, they're the reason I'm like this, I WANT their reputation to be destroyed.
It's stupid really, do they not realise that I know all these things? I have thought through it and of course I realise that my death would affect others, but I can't go through all this shit just so other people won't feel sad, and all their arguments will ever achieve is to make me feel worse if I ctb.

 

[WornOutLife]

That's why I don't talk about ctb with anyone.
It's kinda hard because after my failed attempt last year, they're still suspicious of me and ask me if I'm still thinking of suicide.
I just put a smiling face and say I love life now lol.

 

[FuneralCry]

This is why I would never tell anyone. It always does more harm than good. People panic when someone close to them is suicidal which may explain the way they are acting. I hope you find relief.

 

[blue_muse]

I can empathise with the OP; people's concern often comes from a place of pondering what they will lose from the suicidal person, rather than genuinely wanting to help by putting themselves in that person's shoes.

 

[N2Narcosis]

Same here. And people seem so shocked that some of us refuse to "get help".

 

[Superdeterminist]

Too many people are just unable to imagine how bad suffering can be, that it can be so bad as to motivate death. Often these people think suicide is just someone trying to make a statement to others, the very real agony of the suicidal doesn't occur to them for some reason. I think these people have probably never experienced such abjectly low moods, so it's hard for them to understand it.

 

[N2Narcosis]

Too many people are just unable to imagine how bad suffering can be, that it can be so bad as to motivate death. Often these people think suicide is just someone trying to make a statement to others, the very real agony of the suicidal doesn't occur to them for some reason. I think these people have probably never experienced such abjectly low moods, so it's hard for them to understand it.

The sickest thing is the people who by all means should understand why somebody want want to ctb, and still gaslight, guilt, and manipulate others into staying alive. It just seems to absurd to me that people who have apparently gone through everything I've been through telling me that I have no right to ctb.

 

[Jumping_realms]

It pisses me off to the level when they down play the severity and such, I only tell immediate family(about my plans anyway), but while I'm suffering 24/7 in fucking bed, I just get to hear them actually have drive, motivation, laughs, love etc.

Fuck off with that shit, I'm now in my 40s and will suffer no longer due to how it will make other's feel when I go. It's long overdue, and I'm lucky the 4 prior attempts left me able to actually be here with a functional brain to plan correctly. 3 were stupid illicit drugs and pharma meds attempts.

I'm sick of the "what if we were saying that to you question"...if it was this bad I'd fucking likely take the 5 years and assist. I've had 2 "major incarcerations" any way. So yeah, very infuriating because they are in denial and everything else.

 

[ChaseBees]

I hate when people respond I that way. I don't mind when they say I'll miss sunsets or happy things. But this isn't about other people, don't make me feel guilty for trying to find peace

 

[Rabbit]

Its a viscous circle. It's perspective and we can't see the other side nor they can see ours.

 

[Badluckhardtimes]

Yeah, i figure it's best to just tell nobody and figure it out.

After 39 years here in purgatory, I know that people can't help, and don't want to for the most part. They think they can help.

I do myself the favor of not putting so much pressure on people by broaching the topic. They will feel obligated to help and that's not fair to them. They also have no idea how, so it just turns into a guilt trip or sitting there being criticized for everything.

I'm just going to shut up, do my research, make sure all is well, and be ready to leave as peacefully as possible, because this place sucks.

 

[Eternity]

Oh yes, i can relate. Had an appointment with the psych today and she was convincing me that I should share my suicidal thoughts with my parents.
Me: I don't want to be a burden to them
He: You are not a burden. You'll be a lifelong burden to them if you commit suicide.

Thanks for the guilt trip indeed. It wasn't my choice to be born, although I do feel very sorry for my parents.

 

[demuic]

Oh yes, i can relate. Had an appointment with the psych today and she was convincing me that I should share my suicidal thoughts with my parents.
Me: I don't want to be a burden to them
He: You are not a burden. You'll be a lifelong burden to them if you commit suicide.

Thanks for the guilt trip indeed. It wasn't my choice to be born, although I do feel very sorry for my parents.

The obvious assumption here is that instead you should be the one to carry the burden of being suicidal and wanting to die indefinitely just so someone else won't be burdened by grief (which is always assumed to be a worse burden than whatever is making someone suicidal).

 

[tieiwi]

Or when you're told to forget or ignore when people have wronged you. Makes me start to doubt myself and think I've gone insane. Other people meant to love and care for me treating me like shit is the reason I'm suicidal. Now I'm being told to "let it go". Or that "they had a lot to deal with". That's why I keep things to myself.