Venting Isolated and Lonely

[EveWants2Die]

This is my first post and I'm a new user to the site. This is just a vent because I genuinely can't find any community that seems empathetic or willing to listen and I guess knowing someone reads this will be of solace to me :P

I'm transfemme and I've faced so much hate because of an online community I was in, that still won't leave me alone to this day. I've been doxxed, had the cops called, get sent videos of gore, called transphobic slurs and get told to end myself about twice a day or more, which doesn't help when I already have SI.

I just feel like I am surrounded by nothing but loneliness and it frustrates me greatly that past me withdrew from my IRL friendships because I figured 'if they wanna be around me they'll reach out first' and no one ever did. And then the same pattern happened with online friends too. I lost my group of real friends because I was depressed, so I isolated. Now I am just painfully lonely and feel like I'm only surrounded by hate and it really hurts. I can't figure out how to make any friends. I've tried, and tried, and have carried conversations through countless attempts at creating new relationships but it feels like no one ever wants to be around me in the end. All the relationships never lead to anything. I think I am the problem.

I. am. so. lonely.

Thanks for reading my vent I guess

 

[timf]

We live at a point in history where there is unprecedented isolation. Fewer and fewer people are even bothering to marry or have children. As a result there are sub cultures that form and people try to make relational connections through those cultures. However, even within those cultures it can be difficult to find acceptance.

The Goth culture of a few decades ago seems to have vanished today. The urban black gangsta rap culture is one that is not very transportable.

Most large cities have a section of town that is loosely called "artistic". Sometimes people like painters, musicians, writers, and sculptors make connections with others that might be called outliers. However, the artistic community can have a higher number of people who are so self-involved that they can be even more rude to each other than those in the larger society that they eschew.

As each of us tries to navigate through life, we can make discoveries that may be unpleasant, but also help us know better what paths are open and which ones are closed.

 

[historiaegiptu]

Im Sorry all of that happened to you. Being trans really is a prison sentence lol. People nowdays are only focused on themselves it so hard to make friends.

 

[HeyBoogahJr]

This is my first post and I'm a new user to the site. This is just a vent because I genuinely can't find any community that seems empathetic or willing to listen and I guess knowing someone reads this will be of solace to me :P

I'm transfemme and I've faced so much hate because of an online community I was in, that still won't leave me alone to this day. I've been doxxed, had the cops called, get sent videos of gore, called transphobic slurs and get told to end myself about twice a day or more, which doesn't help when I already have SI.

I just feel like I am surrounded by nothing but loneliness and it frustrates me greatly that past me withdrew from my IRL friendships because I figured 'if they wanna be around me they'll reach out first' and no one ever did. And then the same pattern happened with online friends too. I lost my group of real friends because I was depressed, so I isolated. Now I am just painfully lonely and feel like I'm only surrounded by hate and it really hurts. I can't figure out how to make any friends. I've tried, and tried, and have carried conversations through countless attempts at creating new relationships but it feels like no one ever wants to be around me in the end. All the relationships never lead to anything. I think I am the problem.

I. am. so. lonely.

Thanks for reading my vent I guess

I'm sorry that you have to still deal with people from that community you were in. It sounds painful to deal with that.

I get how you feel, wanting others to reach out first, to choose to talk to you. Yeah. I've dealt with that feeling many times. I don't think your the problem, it just seems like you haven't met someone who wants to interact with you in a similar manner, you try to meet people and form relationships and that takes a ton of courage and effort. Do you not have a supportive family? Can you not go to any queer or trans groups in your area?

Me. Too.

Thank you for sharing, I hope it felt better to let that out.

 

[Dejected 55]

Society is becoming increasingly anti-social. Whether by ineptitude or choice or lack of concern for others or irrational hatred... most people just don't seem to want to make real, meaningful connections. I've seen this develop over my lifetime. People just want surface level connections or whatever fills their immediate need right now. It's compounded by the fact that as society is becoming increasingly anti-social, society is evolving in a way that actually requires more interaction than ever before to survive.

You can't just plop down on some unowned land and grow your own food and dig a well and be self-sufficient. It's just not possible in most of the world to do this. So, besides our natural need for connections we developed a society that requires interactions and connections to work and live, but we actively discourage meaningful connections that we all inherently need to survive.

It's beyond you or I having issues of our own. Even the people who don't have our issues aren't connecting with others meaningfully anymore.

 

[EveWants2Die]

I'm sorry that you have to still deal with people from that community you were in. It sounds painful to deal with that.

I get how you feel, wanting others to reach out first, to choose to talk to you. Yeah. I've dealt with that feeling many times. I don't think your the problem, it just seems like you haven't met someone who wants to interact with you in a similar manner, you try to meet people and form relationships and that takes a ton of courage and effort. Do you not have a supportive family? Can you not go to any queer or trans groups in your area?

Me. Too.

Thank you for sharing, I hope it felt better to let that out.

Much thanks<3

 

[unluckysadness]

I'm isolated too. Living alone with my old silly cat. I hope this forum will help you to find some relief

 

[Zizouaax]

I'm isolated too. Living alone with my old silly cat. I hope this forum will help you to find some relief

 

[sinnrr-sistrr]

This is my first post and I'm a new user to the site. This is just a vent because I genuinely can't find any community that seems empathetic or willing to listen and I guess knowing someone reads this will be of solace to me :P

I'm transfemme and I've faced so much hate because of an online community I was in, that still won't leave me alone to this day. I've been doxxed, had the cops called, get sent videos of gore, called transphobic slurs and get told to end myself about twice a day or more, which doesn't help when I already have SI.

I just feel like I am surrounded by nothing but loneliness and it frustrates me greatly that past me withdrew from my IRL friendships because I figured 'if they wanna be around me they'll reach out first' and no one ever did. And then the same pattern happened with online friends too. I lost my group of real friends because I was depressed, so I isolated. Now I am just painfully lonely and feel like I'm only surrounded by hate and it really hurts. I can't figure out how to make any friends. I've tried, and tried, and have carried conversations through countless attempts at creating new relationships but it feels like no one ever wants to be around me in the end. All the relationships never lead to anything. I think I am the problem.

I. am. so. lonely.

Thanks for reading my vent I guess

If you're interested in making queer friends, most cities have queer organizations, communities and meet-ups where you can meet other gays from around you. I made a lot of friends through those kinds of avenues when I realized I was lesbian.