Is it better for family to have a body for their greiving process?

[kiko]

Im feeling ready to jump, there is a cliff by the sea at the other side of the country thats a hotspot for suicide that's calling me.

Been thinking this week about the impact of family no lt having a body to properly dispose of do any of you have any insight?

 

[Rachel74]

For me I'd like a body to grieve over, I took much comfort at seeing me mother and my brother after they died. But that's me, I'm not a parent so I can't say what a mother would want but maybe holding onto you and kissing you one last time could help the grieving process.

 

[Quitter]

Having something to bury probably brings your family closure, and that way the police etc. doesn't need to waste resources on trying to find you.

Tbh I think open casket stuff with makeup etc is somewhat perverse and deathphobic, but I'm biased because that's very very rare in my country.

 

[k75]

I really think it is better. It brings a lot of closure, because it makes it real and gives them something tangible to say goodbye to. I think it's important because without that, there could always be a tiny bit of hope, doubt, like... maybe you could somehow, against all odds, be alive out there somewhere. And that's the kind of thing that keeps emotional wounds open and makes it difficult or impossible to move on from for a lot of people. You know what I mean?

 

[Rachel74]

Having something to bury probably brings your family closure, and that way the police etc. doesn't need to waste resources on trying to find you.

Tbh I think open casket stuff with makeup etc is somewhat perverse and deathphobic, but I'm biased because that's very very rare in my country.

We don't go for open caskets (coffins) in the U.K. but you can view an open coffin at the funeral directors.

 

[Jen0804]

Is this "the head" ?

 

[DepressionsAHo]

Yes, I won't ever understand why people think its better to not be found or that that somehow makes it easier. Leave a body for them, not doing so rips a hole in their chest that won't ever be mended. The wondering and the hope that you may be alive may very well kill them or leave an unrelenting amount of stress in their lives.
To be clear, I'm talking about people with families and friends that care about them.

 

[TAW122]

For my family, yes it would preferable. However, given that my life sucks and how restrictive as well as difficult it is to successfully go through with suicide, I would not sacrifice my reliability and availability of doing such just for the mere fact of their convenience. In short, if I do end up committing suicide someday, yes, it would be nice to have a peaceful method and have a body, but if not, then it is unfortunate. Personally, I don't mind if I am going to exit this hellish world, whenever the time and day comes (in the future), I just want to permanently stop suffering when it gets too much.

 

[k75]

I guess it really comes down to each person's relationship with their family or other loved ones. For me, it's extremely important to make things as easy as possible for everyone I'm leaving behind. They are good to me, and I love them. They do not deserve what I'm planning to make them go through. So I don't want to make it harder than necessary.

 

[LastFlowers]

Yes, it is. However, I wish to request that my remains are cremated as soon as humanly possible after one of my parents identifies me (if need be). I don't want anyone else seeing me or touching my body. No wake.
I hide away in life in order not to be seen, and I wish no differently in death. Hopefully my wishes will be respected, I worry endlessly about it. I don't like to know that this body will be in anyone else's control. As it is, it is barely in mine.
I suppose ashes are better than nothing. My family has no care or interest in me, except my mother periodically, so she will get to see the body before it is burned.

It's just my opinion but I do not think most families will bode well with not even any type of remains to hold onto or weep over. But it's up to you. Worse is if they have to question whether you are actually even dead or not. I dissuade people from becoming a "missing person" unless you are absolutely alone in this world.

 

[justanotherday]

Closure is very important to me

 

[ThriveOrDie]

Im feeling ready to jump, there is a cliff by the sea at the other side of the country thats a hotspot for suicide that's calling me.

Been thinking this week about the impact of family no lt having a body to properly dispose of do any of you have any insight?

Yes. Seeing the body is important for the grieving process.