Discussion Is hating yourself always childish?

[Eren]

I mean, is it childish to hate yourself? Although you can objectively say that you are inferior to the rest in almost all aspects?

It is what happens to me.

 

[Thinking Beyond]

Depends on what you mean by hate and yourself.

Edit: and what it leads to.

 

[Dead beat dad]

Maybe it is. Hate is an immature and fairly raw emotion. I can relate a lot, I hate myself very deeply and it is a spiralling sensation. If you are feeling this to brother you're not alone. They say that love will beat hate, not every time but hate cannot beat hate and I try and take comfort in that that's why I try my hardest even though I cannot love myself to try and show love to others.
Peace friend
DBD

 

[Ardesevent]

It's not. Everyone has things they don't like about themselves, and if you don't like any part of yourself at all, it's harsh, but it's not childish at all. It makes you more mature than people who see little to nothing wrong themselves, really.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Absolutely not. Hate in itself isn't immature depending on the someone's personal circumstances. A life time of mistakes, what ifs, regrets and sorrow can most certainly cause someone to hate themselves and there is nothing childish about it. What brings one person down might not for another so it's all subjective. Since we cannot go back in time and fix what we hate about ourselves or life, the self hate and low feeling are just normal responses. Also if someone is bullied, or belittled about their appearance or personality then hatred of things we can't fix becomes ingrained. It's not childish it is that we were traumatized and therefore the hate is just a normal response to the situation.

 

[a_strange_day]

I'm getting old and I hate myself a bit more everyday. For me maturity means being able to see myself for what I trully am and face it.

 

[Chronicillness]

I hate the unfairness of the world

 

[departing]

It isn't childish. The world can be a cruel place.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

I will put it this way. How we experience the world around us shapes our attitudes not only towards the world, but toward ourselves as well. Now, if all or most of what we have experienced in life is negative or destructive, it is therefore natural to see it in a negative light, subjectively. And since emotions are a purely subjective ideal, how can one be immature for feeling how they do? Objectivity on the other hand is based on facts, therefore it means nothing to any given emotional state since emotions are purely a subjective ideal. In short, it's not immature. Simply a by product of too much bad shit happening to crush one's self esteem.

 

[BabyYoda]

Nah.
This world sucks.

 

[sadgirl2002]

Not at all, I hate myself with an extreme hate. I hate myself even more now than I did around five years ago. I would do anything to go back. I know I'm inferior to everyone in all aspects, I know how it feels. There's not much we can do about it, it mostly comes from trauma and our live experiences. Everyone hates something about themselves. I know I can never love myself.

 

[Mr2005]

Feeling sorry for yourself, blaming the world, not giving a shit about anyone else, thinking this makes you superior, thinking this is cool. All those things are childish. Being genuinely sorry for what you've done and trying to be a better person is growing up

 

[BaconCheeseburger]

I wouldn't say it's childish. If anything you're mature enough to identify your faults. I hate myself in terms of how my brain works and how I interact. Not fussed about my body or appearance but I do hate my existence and the way I think

 

[Darkhaven]

i had a girl in my highschool class that, whenever someone complemented her, she would always start a discussion just to dismiss and prove that she didn't actually deserve the compliment that was made.
She was kind of a nerdy girl but in her nerdiness, she had a cute face, and she had ridiculously wide hips and a wide and fat ass which attracted the boy's attentions. She was also one of the best students in our class and her english was perfect. There also 2 or 3 boys interested in her. With this status she was a bit envied by the other girls.
However she had compulsively low self esteem (apparently at the very least) and would almost get buthurt when complimented and felt like she had to refuse any compliment made to her. For example: Someone complimented her hair in a certain day and she would be like: "No, that's not true. My hair sucks and i hate it! Stop sayin my hair looks good please!" That kind of behaviour always seemed childish to me.
i mean there's limits to hating yourself and to low self esteem. Just because you don't like yourself, or, at least, a certain trait of you body or personality i don't think you should become obssessed with it and start behaving like some maniac and make that become the bane of your existence. In that way, sure it can be childish.
As a minimum you should be able to, at least, accept other people's compliments (even if you suspect they are fake or bad intentioned) without bringing out all your frustrations.

 

[Apathy79]

Hate is pretty much always a mistake, wherever it's directed, including internally. There comes a point very quickly where it no longer serves you or anyone else and is 100% destructive. At that point, it needs to be let go.

 

[Sensei]

I think that when supposedly normal people feel inferior and miserable, they direct their hatred outwards, but for some reason, we direct it inwards. They explode, we implode.

 

[PhilosOfDoom]

It often is. A monumental amount of people self-hate due to childhood experiences, and thought patterns of being undeserving of help. In addition, many retreat away from any mention of help or self-improvement, it's a very sad occurrence for someone to be in such deep struggles, and to have learned helplessness, even when recovery is within grasp. Childish, irrational, whatever you want to call it. There's a decent chance that a lot of them could recover shall they seek it out, or they received help. Most have experience childhood experiences which reinforced or caused this train of thought, and they just can't seem to get away from the self-diminishment.

Sorry for the rant.

 

[Eren]

i had a girl in my highschool class that, whenever someone complemented her, she would always start a discussion just to dismiss and prove that she didn't actually deserve the compliment that was made.
She was kind of a nerdy girl but in her nerdiness, she had a cute face, and she had ridiculously wide hips and a wide and fat ass which attracted the boy's attentions. She was also one of the best students in our class and her english was perfect. There also 2 or 3 boys interested in her. With this status she was a bit envied by the other girls.
However she had compulsively low self esteem (apparently at the very least) and would almost get buthurt when complimented and felt like she had to refuse any compliment made to her. For example: Someone complimented her hair in a certain day and she would be like: "No, that's not true. My hair sucks and i hate it! Stop sayin my hair looks good please!" That kind of behaviour always seemed childish to me.
i mean there's limits to hating yourself and to low self esteem. Just because you don't like yourself, or, at least, a certain trait of you body or personality i don't think you should become obssessed with it and start behaving like some maniac and make that become the bane of your existence. In that way, sure it can be childish.
As a minimum you should be able to, at least, accept other people's compliments (even if you suspect they are fake or bad intentioned) without bringing out all your frustrations.

But what happens when you are objectively inferior in many ways? In my case, I have a very low tolerance for frustration and I can't stand it because I can't move forward.

 

[Darkhaven]

But what happens when you are objectively inferior in many ways? In my case, I have a very low tolerance for frustration and I can't stand it because I can't move forward.

In those cases i think it´s not childish at all. I was refering more to those persons that make things worse than they really are.