Discussion Is gender transitioning worth it? Sorry if it's a weird question

[sleeplessboyinbed]

I mean both social and medical.
I really want to be a man, be seen as a man. But the only way (in this life) for me to be a man is to be trans. In a perfect world i wouldn't mind being trans and transitioning medically and socially, i really want to actually. Im just not sure how it will be in real life. In my country it's not really common to see trans people at all, so everything i know is from the internet, American one to be exact. And the problem is, i don't know if im being realistic here. I watched so many happy trans men just live their lifes, but they're all American. I don't know how it will translate into my reality, i really just feel delusional for ever thinking i could be one of them.
I also feel really selfish for it. Who do i think i am? Do i even deserve happiness? Am i asking for too much when i say i want to be a man? I feel like a man and i want everyone to see it too, is it wrong? Im genuinely asking because i don't know anymore. Should i just accept my misery? I feel like i don't deserve to live.
Sorry im imposing a role of a therapist to you, i just don't have anybody else to ask. I hope it's appropriate to ask this. It's really a problem i cant solve on my own. I need input from other people :⁠-⁠!. And sorry for being so negative, i would never think and say this to another trans person.


Also, i think my ctb is soon but im not sure, so briefly mentioning it here. Should be April 8th, if not you can shame me

 

[wannabeangel]

even tho i detransitioned for a multitude of personal things, i still found it worth transitioning socially and medically (i was on T for quite a few months, socially transitioned for quite a few years) and i was happy doing what i wanted with myself, and what made me feel good and more like myself. i dont think it's delusional to be able to see yourself being happy after transitioning, nor is it selfish or wrong. you always deserve what makes you happy, everyone does, and it isnt fair that not everyone gets the good they deserve. it's never wrong to want people to see you how you see you, and how you know you are

 

[paranoias64]

it's always worth it! it's not a big ask at all to be a man! u do deserve happiness! happy trans ppl exist in every corner of the world. and if they don't, then they're fighting to be trans and happy and that is one that's been won before, one that's being fought now, and one that's always worth fighting.

https://diyhrt.info

 

[OtterFromTheCosmos]

I feel like you should go for transitioning if you want to be a man
It's your life, you deserve to be the choice-maker in it

 

[buriedinmyhead]

If you feel that it'll make you happy, then it's worth it. Having to hide your true self will only cause more pain, and this is something that can ease that.

 

[K14~♡]

It's only natural to be yourself, and to want others to see you as what you are. It's not too much and it's not wrong at all. I think it'd definitely be worth it. Though socially, you might not be accepted, but well it has always been that way anyway...I think it's more important to be who you wanna be, regardless of anything that'll reject it