Is anyone ever sure?

[cherry7]

Is anyone ever 100% sure that they're ready to do it? Or does the doubt and fear always show up no matter what? And people who do it just override that?

 

[Lobster_Toast1281]

Some people are 100% sure that they want to die, though humans are biologically programmed to survive, so your primal instincts will make you fear death regardless of how sure you are. There are some that are not entirely sure if they want to die or not, either because they don't want to leave someone/something behind or if they have something that they still want to do.

 

[unabletocope]

Nope, that's life I guess

 

[FuneralCry]

If I had access to a peaceful method like Nembutal that lead to guaranteed death I know that I wouldn't have any fears, I never have any doubts that I wish to permanently be free from this undesirable existence anyway, I'd be relieved if I had the option to reliably die in peace.

 

[Return2themoonlight]

It's a case by case basis. Some go through with it without a second thought while others go back and forth on going through with it. I believe it depends on the individuals support system and the trauma that is currently affecting them.

 

[Blank_Slate]

Certainly sometimes people are 100% sure in a moment (whatever 100% really means, in that moment they believe they are sure) - but if you take it over a longer period of time the typical state of human psychology is a strong desire to stay alive. Beyond philosophical exercises, for a person to genuinely lose that psychological imperative for life, some combination of internal and external factors has to very powerfully interfere with very fundamental human psychology.

If a person has the unfortunate knowledge that due to illness, injury, or perilous circumstances, death or intense suffering are imminent - even if they don't really "want" to do it, they can still be ready/accept the situation.

 

[losing hope]

Having kept an eye on SN goodbye threads for the last 2 years. 80% of the time, ppl seem "certain" they want to ctb. When they are making that goodbye thread. I can remember the 20% of ppl who weren't sure, like @Fulminare who I remember was drunk during his SN attempt around Feb 2023 was it?

I've put "certain" in quotation marks, as I agree with OP in that I don't believe anyone is 100%, but 99% is the best one can aim for. The one remark that I will always remember from all the goodbye threads I've seen, is someone (can't remember who now) said..."I'm not sure what I am about to do is the right thing, but I am gambling on whatever happens after death is better than what I have now."

I think that is the mindset I'll be using if I ever ctb.

 

[fantastic_unicorn]

If a person has the unfortunate knowledge that due to illness, injury, or perilous circumstances, death or intense suffering are imminent - even if they don't really "want" to do it, they can still be ready/accept the situation.

This is what I'm contending with. Been a few months and I'm just starting to accept it.

 

[rotciv]

If I had access to a peaceful method like Nembutal that lead to guaranteed death I know that I wouldn't have any fears, I never have any doubts that I wish to permanently be free from this undesirable existence anyway, I'd be relieved if I had the option to reliably die in peace.

Nembutal isn't the only "peaceful" method. You have other barbiturates, opioids and even tricyclic antidepressants.

 

[Forveleth]

I was 100% sure I was ready to TRY. I had the mindset of "If it works, great! If not, I'll have supplies and some practice for next time." I was definitely nervous about dying but not about attempting, if that makes sense? Kind of like I had nothing to lose either way.

I think it helped I knew my method would most likely not lead to permanent damage in case of failure so I was way less nervous about just giving it a go.

 

[AnonymousL]

Nembutal isn't the only "peaceful" method. You have other barbiturates, opioids and even tricyclic antidepressants.

You can die peacefully with a tryciclic antidepressant ? Like Nortriptyline?

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I'm 100% sure I want to die soon . What's to fear about Death, we all will die anyway.

The only thing holding me back for now is how risky a diy suicide is and the fear of failing and remaining alive in an even worse situation or condition

Plus I'm sure after death is nothing non-existence forever no pain no problems no suffering ever. I don't see how anyone could not want that or fear it, no pain no problems no suffering no bad memories ever...

 

[Fulminare]

Having kept an eye on SN goodbye threads for the last 2 years. 80% of the time, ppl seem "certain" they want to ctb. When they are making that goodbye thread. I can remember the 20% of ppl who weren't sure, like @Fulminare who I remember was drunk during his SN attempt around Feb 2023 was it?

I've put "certain" in quotation marks, as I agree with OP in that I don't believe anyone is 100%, but 99% is the best one can aim for. The one remark that I will always remember from all the goodbye threads I've seen, is someone (can't remember who now) said..."I'm not sure what I am about to do is the right thing, but I am gambling on whatever happens after death is better than what I have now."

I think that is the mindset I'll be using if I ever ctb.

Hey. I was sure of my attempt. I very much wanted to pass away in that moment. Just to clarify.

 

[losing hope]

Hey. I was sure of my attempt. I very much wanted to pass away in that moment. Just to clarify.

Cool & thanks for clarifying. I remember reading your thread at the time thinking I hope the booze hadn't made him act impulsively. All the best with your future plans

 

[Fulminare]

Cool & thanks for clarifying. I remember reading your thread at the time thinking I hope the booze hadn't made him act impulsively. All the best with your future plans

Thank you so much.