Imagine if we made friends instead of goodbye threads

[Sweet emotion]

I think that we would all be complainig to each other non stop that we would depress each other even more and drive each other crazy. And we might not actually like each other. I know this sounds negative but it's reality. It wouldn't do anything for me because I need to actually stay away from people due to my physical pain.

But on the other hand people with mental health issues could really support each other and be there for each other and people wouldn't feel so awkward around others. It's never going to happen anyway but I know a lot of people have thought of this.

 

[Moonicide]

I've thought about that as well, but even with all the love and support I don't think it would change my decision to ctb. There's just so much damage there that can't be undone... I'm always in so much pain. Maybe in another life it could have been sustainable for me. I'd love to make friends in this community, but it's also difficult as we are temporary. It's hard to get close to people that will be ending their lives soon, you know? I'm careful and guarded, but I do love and support afar. I think we all do. There are definitely members here that bring provide me with warmth and comfort through their responses.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

If I was surrounded by a loving family, friends, community and partner- I certainly would not want to die, but society here in the West/USA doesn't support it to the extent I need it, I should have been born in a communal tribe in a jungle somewhere.

For me the social isolation was the last nail in the coffin.

I would have needed to grow up with an organic community/family/long-term freinds. Its impossible to manufacture overnight decades long history of well developed relationships over the years. I missed out on this and I am finally okay with it. I am so happy I will be at peace soon.

 

[Mr2005]

This thread doesn't need my cynicism. It's been covered already. Don't think love isn't in my heart it's just usually followed by disappointment

 

[Jean4]

The people on this site don't know each other, though. We express compassion from a distance, but we only have surface level and generic interactions on a website. Human nature causes extreme instability in interpersonal relationships. The divorce rate is nearly at 50%. Humans are not magical, sadly. I honestly believe that survival instincts are incredibly irrational, and I'm shocked that suicide isn't the leading cause of death yet.

Suicide would actually be the leading cause of death if all attempts were successful.

Suicide is a leading cause of death even though the vast majority of attempts are failed. The only thing that stops it from being the leading cause of death is lack of reliable methods for most people.

I apologize, but I disagree. For the first time in my life have I developed friendships who I talk with off the forum.

I have said if we met outside life would be different.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I have sometimes wondered what would happen if a bunch of suicidals moved to the same town. Would they still want to die? Or would they experience positive effects from it and suddenly feel like life is worth it? We know that homosexuals have done that. There are places with large homosexual populations because many of them moved there to live around other homosexuals. It seems to have worked at least for some of them.

We did a thread on this
It sounded like a fun place

 

[imstillhungry]

If I was surrounded by a loving family, friends, community and partner- I certainly would not want to die, but society here in the West/USA doesn't support it to the extent I need it, I should have been born in a communal tribe in a jungle somewhere.

For me the social isolation was the last nail in the coffin.

I would have needed to grow up with an organic community/family/long-term freinds. Its impossible to manufacture overnight decades long history of well developed relationships over the years. I missed out on this and I am finally okay with it. I am so happy I will be at peace soon.

I think about that a lot, if I hadn't been born into this so called 'civilisation' my life might have been better/worth living. For a while I even considered moving to the Amazon rainforest, but sadly I think it's too late now and changing my location wouldn't change anything else. I completely relate to your comment. Sending you love

 

[ReneeSuicideAccount]

I just think it would be the town known by other people as the town with the highest suicide rate ever. ;)

So SN is sold by the pound for a reason.

 

[Nem]

There are suicides that have reasons that go deeper than loneliness, that even support and care can hardly help. When one has a problem with life itself and the concept of being alive, there isn't much love and support can do. But you have a good point, a majority of people could get fine if they had people in real life that could be physically present and care the same way. It'd at least soothe the pain.

Agreed. It's not loneliness that has brought me here...it's damage and realization that nothing is going to improve. Otherwise I'd want to stick around.
Peace/hugs

 

[c824767]

Has anyone else realised that every goodbye thread on here is full of SO much love and support? Imagine if we all became friends and gave each other that love and support in real life, maybe it would stop a lot of suicides. A common theme in 99% of goodbye threads is loneliness... Maybe this is just my optimistic side coming out once in a blue moon, but since we're pretty much all lonely and surrounded by assholes, imagine if we were surrounded with each other instead. People who understand and support us

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[APharmaDestroyedLife]

Has anyone else realised that every goodbye thread on here is full of SO much love and support? Imagine if we all became friends and gave each other that love and support in real life, maybe it would stop a lot of suicides. A common theme in 99% of goodbye threads is loneliness... Maybe this is just my optimistic side coming out once in a blue moon, but since we're pretty much all lonely and surrounded by assholes, imagine if we were surrounded with each other instead. People who understand and support us

What an absolutely wonderful statement.