I’m the least successful person I know

[sserafim]

I'm the least successful person I know. I'm probably the least successful graduate of my college…everyone else has gone on to do great things or make something out of themselves and here I am, a shut-in waiting to die. Lmao

 

[annointed_towers]

Me too and I went to Harvard

 

[sserafim]

Me too and I went to Harvard

I'm not gonna say where I went but it was a very good school. I failed to launch after though…I just think it's so sad that I went to such a good school and my life turned out like this. I never saw a future for myself anyways after college because I thought I wouldn't live that long but it's still sad that I'm a failure. Ugh, I just never made the proper transition to adulthood. I wish I could've stayed in college forever tbh

Me too and I went to Harvard

Wait really?

 

[annointed_towers]

Yes rly

 

[Zegers]

Are you from NAmerica? obssesion about material success is brutal there.

 

[Worndown]

Success is at best an internal assessment. We may think you the most successful person ever. You may think you are a complete failure because you have not done or attained something unseen by us. Add to that any personal issues that may distract or inhibit you, and you find no two people are equal.
This is so subjective...

Do what you can with what you have and that is true success.

 

[sserafim]

Are you from NAmerica? obssesion about material success is brutal there.

Yes, unfortunately

 

[Ashe]

I felt this and I never even made it all the way through high school, I dropped out and got my GED while my younger siblings have gone or are going to college for shit that they're passionate about. I'm just about as much of failure as they come, I have no asperations, no goals, no savings, I live paycheck to paycheck from a dead end fast food job.

 

[Greyscale]

I went to college as well. Sadly, I had to drop out due to financial reasons.

 

[ikadasui]

No higher education here. I have a HSDP but really I got spoonfed it. I 100% should og died in the womb as I'm neither interested or capable of surviving long term in our modern climate

 

[sserafim]

No higher education here. I have a HSDP but really I got spoonfed it. I 100% should og died in the womb as I'm neither interested or capable of surviving long term in our modern climate

I was in a car crash when I was like 7 and I honestly think I should have died then. I think I wasn't meant to reach adulthood tbh, maybe that's why I feel so overwhelmed and not fit to be an adult. Honestly the "real world" scares me, I'm scared of being a "real adult". Same, I'm just not interested in surviving long term but because I don't want to enter the workforce or working world. I don't want to actually adult, and I'm probably not even capable of really adulting due to neurodivergences (3 A's).

 

[rainseahorse]

i'm going to a good school for my major and this means that people around me have already secured jobs paying 200-400k out of college. it's whatever though, i can only focus on achieving my own, admittedly less impressive, goals.

 

[sserafim]

I felt this and I never even made it all the way through high school, I dropped out and got my GED while my younger siblings have gone or are going to college for shit that they're passionate about. I'm just about as much of failure as they come, I have no asperations, no goals, no savings, I live paycheck to paycheck from a dead end fast food job.

Omg I'm sorry to say this but this is my biggest fear. I'm scared of ever living like this…

 

[heavyeyes]

I'm a complete failure too. I had to drop out of high school due to mental health reasons and because I wasn't going to graduate by the time I turned 21. Eventually I got my GED a few years later and I was going to go to college but those plans fell through. I can't work (I'm disabled for now), I have no money or savings, I hardly leave the house (social anxiety and agoraphobia), I barely have any friends. Overall I'm a huge disgrace and it's shameful I haven't succeeded in life

 

[sserafim]

i'm going to a good school for my major and this means that people around me have already secured jobs paying 200-400k out of college. it's whatever though, i can only focus on achieving my own, admittedly less impressive, goals.

$400k out of college? That's insane…honestly one of my biggest regrets is what I chose to major in. Worst investment ever. I should've chosen something else instead

 

[EternalShore]

I hate how college is so encouraged and practically required for everything yet it can still screw you over so substantially in the end! >_<

$400k out of college? That's insane…honestly one of my biggest regrets is what I chose to major in. Worst investment ever. I should've chosen something else instead

What'd you major in? :(

 

[chuerdhmproton]

I'm the least successful person I know. I'm probably the least successful graduate of my college…everyone else has gone on to do great things or make something out of themselves and here I am, a shut-in waiting to die. Lmao

I think I would definitely be considered less successful than you my friend. In fact, I don't think the word successful would even relate to me at all, only the word failure fits my situation

 

[sserafim]

I hate how college is so encouraged and practically required for everything yet it can still screw you over so substantially in the end! >_<

What'd you major in? :(

Not gonna say on here, but something in stem. It's basically useless except for graduate or medical school tho

 

[ChiseHatori]

This is so me. I've been hit with this really hard lately.

It's especially rough for me because... I live with and around a fair amount of people, all very successful in different ways in what they do. And I'm just commonly referred to as "the traumatized one in pain" and I'm not even really kidding. I know they pity me because I can read it on their faces. And they bring it up a lot, mostly to excuse my behavior...

I can't be too detailed but some of those I know closest include... a published children's book author and illustrator, a somewhat well known group of artists and writers with fairly large fan bases (these hurt more because I'm a bit of a failed artist myself)... doctors, business owners... etc.

Might as well also mention I am also a dropout (not completely by choice though) and I never got a GED. I'm in my mid twenties.

 

[fedupwithlife]

This thread hits different, makes me really sad

 

[Ashe]

Omg I'm sorry to say this but this is my biggest fear. I'm scared of ever living like this…

No offense taken, not much I can really do about it. SI has stopped me twice now or otherwise i would've been long gone awhile ago.

 

[ButterToast]

I'm the least successful person I know. I'm probably the least successful graduate of my college…everyone else has gone on to do great things or make something out of themselves and here I am, a shut-in waiting to die. Lmao

I will not discount your feelings or emotions, those are valid. However, aren't you being too hard on yourself? Most people don't live a very glamorous life, and even if you do think that you're doing worse than everyone else, I think is it likely that there are people like you, you don't notice them much. Comparison is one hell of a thing, since it is natural for us to conduct a self-assessment through benchmarking our own live in comparison to other people's.

One thing I'd like to add is that you should know that not everything is your fault here. People develop a certain way depending on their life experience. Sadly, some of us may not have the ideal developmental period during childhood, and this can really screw most people up. It seems like you have a severe self-esteem issue and possibly social anxiety and avoidant behavior as well. Im not sure that you've experienced in the past, but I' sure a good deal of it was greatly influenced by factors outside your control. If you think that you still contributed to your own 'failure', you still need to understand that everyone fails, inevitably. However, some people might not have the chance to come back from that, a disadvantaged position. There could be people who screwed up more than you did, but they were in a position to get back on their feet.

Also, ask yourself whether the assessment you've done to yourself is fair. I suffered with something similar, sometimes I hold myself to a standard that even I won't hold against other people. This is a known effect from childhood trauma/neglect. Also just because you don't know the possible childhood trauma/neglect that you might've experienced that doesn't mean you have no 'cause'. Psychological disorders are very complex and can be very subtle and can be easily scoffed at as merely an unfortunate minor experience.

I'm not saying that you are not allowed to feel a certain way, here's my opinion on that.

There could be hope left or you, and I believe that is. The desire to pursue it or not is up to you. However, it is important to have a more objective (although fully objective might be impossible) assessment of your own situation and decide to the best that you could what path forward you want to wish to pursue.

 

[Mr.Tristesse]

Lol I dropped out 3 times. Hopefully that makes you feel somewhat better.

 

[flakeyknight]

I myself am being outclassed by students who had a lower GPA than me. Students I used to tutor are making 150k a year and I'm stuck with my 20k a year job living with parents. Theyre working for Apple, Microsoft Amazon etc. I fail every interview and stutter and cant BS on the spot and it just becomes awkard.

 

[Murt]

I'm a complete failure too. I had to drop out of school due to mental health reasons and because I wasn't going to graduate by the time I turned 21. Eventually I got my GED a few years later and I was going to go to college but those plans fell through. I can't work (I'm disabled for now), I have no money or savings, I hardly leave the house (social anxiety and agoraphobia), I barely have any friends. Overall I'm a huge disgrace and it's shameful I haven't succeeded in life

Me too. My mental health things came out later in life. But I'm a social recluse. I've tried so hard to connect to people but something in me just doesn't work. You're not alone feeling like this if that helps?

 

[heavyeyes]

Me too. My mental health things came out later in life. But I'm a social recluse. I've tried so hard to connect to people but something in me just doesn't work. You're not alone feeling like this if that helps?

It's comforting in a way but also sad

 

[rainseahorse]

I myself am being outclassed by students who had a lower GPA than me. Students I used to tutor are making 150k a year and I'm stuck with my 20k a year job living with parents. Theyre working for Apple, Microsoft Amazon etc. I fail every interview and stutter and cant BS on the spot and it just becomes awkard.

We must be in the same major lmao. Yea, I maintained a really high gpa but those around me with lower gpas are working/going to work at Google/Amazon/Microsoft/Meta etc to earn 200k+. Some others are starting in high-frequency trading companies like Jane Street/Optiver/Hudson River Trading to earn 300-400k as new grad.

I'm literally just applying everywhere, mainly jobs paying 50-120k instead. Thankfully interviews are remote, so I write out 10 interview stories and rehearse them over and over to remove stutter and just spit them out to fit interview questions. Ideally the job would be remote as well, but I can't be picky yet.

 

[Mr.Tristesse]

Not gonna say on here, but something in stem. It's basically useless except for graduate or medical school tho

Do you have any interest in pursuing those routes or advancing your education in any way?

 

[sserafim]

Do you have any interest in pursuing those routes or advancing your education in any way?

I'm too burnt out to pursue any further formal education, and I don't want to stay in the field of my major. I don't want to go to medical school because being a doctor would be like hell for my personality, I'd hate to have to interact with people/patients all day. I'm as introverted as they come. I do want to try to transition to a different field though…maybe through self study or something

 

[jessisme]

I'm the least successful person I know. I'm probably the least successful graduate of my college…everyone else has gone on to do great things or make something out of themselves and here I am, a shut-in waiting to die. Lmao

You must not know any homeless drug addicts that prostitute to feed their drug habits then. I do.

You must not know any homeless drug addicts that prostitute to feed their drug habits then. I do.

Even then I consider her to be successful because she is making it on her own using her own assets and devices every single day.