I'm no one's favorite person.

[HeckingHecked]

It's painful. So painful. I wish someone loved me. Just one person. But, I'm always a backup.

 

[Itsallover123]

Pick one person in your life and try to interact with them and talk to them more often, just spending more time with people will make them like you more. I hope you find happiness with someone

 

[FuneralCry]

I can imagine that must be a painful feeling. People can be so disappointing. It is why I stay away from others as then they cannot upset me. In general, I cannot stand people. I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish you the best.

 

[waterstrider]

I used to have a best friend but she doubled-crossed me (told everyone I was about to ctb) and we don't talk to each other anymore.
So I feel just like you: all alone and nobody cares about me. Probably never has.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I was someone's favorite person, but he died 9 years ago.

My other half died in a way I imagine most of us wish we could--a brain aneurysm in his sleep. No awareness, no pain, just gone.

 

[Snake of Eden]

I wouldnt want to be someone's most favourite person. Thats alot of pressure

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

I get you. It's awful and and it hurts. I was recently reminded of how dangerous it is (for me anyway) to even get hopes up about another person. Condensed story is that I reconnected in June with a guy I briefly, casually dated almost 30 yrs ago. He told me he was in the process of divorcing/ leaving his unhappy marriage (red flag there, I know) and moving back to our home state so he could be closer to family. I bought it because I know how his wife was even years ago and I just did NOT ever see him the lying type. So we texted and spoke on the phone and he showed interest and I was interested, and it was fun to talk to him and I thought something good had finally happened to me. HOPE reared it's stupid head. Then he abruptly changed his behavior, demeanor and how he spoke with me and the interest obviously waned from his end -- (not) coincidentally, after he learned more about me and my current life, many health problems, etc. On his wife's social media, pictures of them together, clearly smiling and happy, kept appearing. He'd lied to me, played some sick game with my emotions and my head for the past 4 or 5 mos and I feel so stupid for thinking someone actually was happy to be in touch with me and cared about me, in some kind of way. But instead it all imploded and now we don't talk anymore at all (I technically 'ended' our interaction but I know he was already distancing himself anyway. And he's married anyhow, sooo, not my thing to mess with married guys....)

TLDR: I understand how it feels to be no one's favorite person and to feel rejected and alone. I'm sorry you're feeling that pain too. :(

 

[VoidDesirer22]

Yeah being someone's favourite person seems impossible. I got damn close as a teenager. I put everything into it, but ironically that prevents it from happening.

It cannot be forced, it requires charisma, humour and many other components in a compatabile mix.

 

[StarryStarry]

I used to want to be just even one person's favorite person. Years have gone by and I realize that the majority of human beings are selfish, self-centered, egotistical assholes who want to use others for their own purposes. I also believe that even being someone's friend is too hard. The expectations are too high and once they find out I have depression and other mental health issues they're out the door. I'm sorry you're going through this pain, I understand how you feel.

 

[forgotten15]

I feel your pain because I'm in the same boat, never was someone's favourite person and never managed to form friendships for some reason. But just like a member said on an earlier post, people are extremely selfish and can be very cruel so maybe it's for the better we are alone. Forming relationships is just a window to disappointment and pain. But I understand your need for love and being cared for, I feel that too even though I realise most people are shit and will eventually cause pain.

 

[busybee28]

I feel this so hard. I am so sorry you are feeling this way. It is so exhausting to always feel like a backup plan. It's small comfort, but you are not alone in this feeling. We are here for you.

 

[PDAnnie2610]

It's painful. So painful. I wish someone loved me. Just one person. But, I'm always a backup.

I feel you, so all the more we should try to love and support each other in our pain. Sending hugs to you..

 

[StarryStarry]

I feel you, so all the more we should try to love and support each other in our pain. Sending hugs to you..

PD Annie2610 - Great response. Take it from someone who had one person love me - she was murdered. I haven't had anyone else in my life since. Maybe I'm a marshmallow and I'm too soft, but I am what I am ... I find compassion here - thank you

 

[PDAnnie2610]

PD Annie2610 - Great response. Take it from someone who had one person love me - she was murdered. I haven't had anyone else in my life since. Maybe I'm a marshmallow and I'm too soft, but I am what I am ... I find compassion here - thank you

We have only each other here, we know the pain we carry, different but all the same, so taboo that it isolates us from others. The only way to carry on is to support each other, alone we are not much, but hopefully together, it helps us to heal.