If you're an academic failure, your life is destroyed.

[PrincessMeow]

I'm from India. We have too much cut-throat competition here due to overpopulation, less resources and development, and corruption. To have access to a decent life in India (by decent I mean buying your own flat in a tier 2 city, able to afford basic amenities without hesitation and affording healthcare without a hole in pocket) you need to have either of these 3 things:

1. Political power
2. Money
3. Great academic success

I was born in a middle class, very normal family so I don't have the former two. About the third...

I bombed my college entrance exams and got into a real shitty college in a tier 2 city, that too in electronics engineering program (mind you, there's very little scope for electronics in India). My parents were hellbent on me taking engineering, and also would beat me, pressurize me into getting good grades since I was little. I had 95% in 10th grade, and my downfall started from there. I understand my parents expectations in a third world country is for my own good, but now I shiver at the slightest thought of failure.

Anyways, I once again bombed my first semester, with a 6.2 sgpa out of 10. And a backlog in Maths exam. Tomorrow is my mathematics re exam, and I couldn't prepare for it at all as I got severely sick. I can't tell my parents either, I'm going to fail miserably tomorrow and I can't think of anything other than suicide.

My luck also has always been really bad. My university is a shitty one where the papers they check are so fucking random. My friends passed in maths despite having less studied than me. I know someone who got a 7.0 sgpa despite not studying at all. The checkers may sometimes grant marks based on how many pages you filled, and this 7.0 friend of mine filled entire answer copy with 9th grade formulas.

Because of overpopulation, academic failure is a huge setback as your opportunities to get a job is nearly zero. Once you graduate, your failures haunt you forever.

 

[PrincessMeow]

Lol i survived, although I bombed my maths paper. Lol

 

[eupdplishlp]

I agree the system is rigged in that sense of not having qualifications is limiting to life. that is unless it's a creative endevour. Creative careers don't need qualifications to be sucessful.

I'm deeply sorry for the pain and suffering in your life. I can only imagine what it's like in india right now. my pms are always open if you need

 

[kopebaldy]

Also if you chose the wrong major because you're 18 how the fuck would you know what you want to do until the end of time?
How the fuck did some ppl prepare for this shit when they're only 16? 15? 14? What?

 

[The_Hunter]

hi there; i'm very sorry to hear you're in such a rocky spot, that has to be hell. i can understand feeling like you're screwed into a certain hole after failing an exam, feeling like you're failing from grades, and feeling like there's no way out. i just wanted to suggest a few things in hope of it quelling your pain. have you considered any non-graduate jobs or trades in india, perhaps? i know i don't know your situation so sorry if this sounds trite, but i just wanted to add it for good measure.

• 52% of math majors switched to another major
• 50% of engineering majors switched

—Student Research Group

i understand you feel fucked being in the current path you are in right now... and i know its not going well... so... perhaps a different major could be more fruitful?

hope this helps. (and my apologies if it didn't.) (i hope you're able to find moments of solace amongst all the pain you're in right now, in whichever ways you find most heartening.)

best wishes.

—from hunter

 

[notreallybored]

ב''ה,
Worldwide it seems plenty of people with degrees are fucked and without one it's even more limiting.

The tuition game is nuts and the proving your financial life / getting strapped into debt to even play is also nuts.

 

[lookingglassinsect]

In Russia, you get drafted when you turn 18. If you don't want to go, you can stay in university. But if you get kicked out, the army's waiting for you.

 

[Worndown]

Well, in the US, we need mechanics, electricians, plumbers, carpenters, roofers and just about every other trade that involves getting your hands dirty.
If you are good, you make more than those people with the degree.
(We only have so many CEO's)

Now we are hell bent on tossing out anyone that did not have their ancestors thrown out of Europe between 1600 and 1900. That will be a problem.

If you cannot go forward, go left or right.

 

[kiti0711]

 

[claracatchingthebus]

i'm so sorry about this.

you know, so many people struggle in school to get a good job working for someone else. but a lot of times the people who don't go to school or finish school end up making companies. it's probably bad advice and you should try to finish school. the route everyone else does is often safer. but if that doesn't work out, you could try something on your own.

if you learn full-stack development and coding, you can sort of do anything if you have the idea and it can just be coded.

i did a lot of education and don't do anything with it, wish i had never done any education, and wish i had just gotten a regular job and saved constantly. it's hard to predict how things will go, but it's probably good to keep studying.

 

[Worndown]

Plus, if you get a job in the trades...NO MEETINGS.

 

[PI3.14]

Well, in the US, we need mechanics, electricians, plumbers, carpenters, roofers and just about every other trade that involves getting your hands dirty.
If you are good, you make more than those people with the degree.
(We only have so many CEO's)

Now we are hell bent on tossing out anyone that did not have their ancestors thrown out of Europe between 1600 and 1900. That will be a problem.

If you cannot go forward, go left or right.

It depends on the country u live in. In mine, those professions pay peanuts. They're flooded with cheap labor immigrants that probably get overworked and compensated very little.

 

[Ijustcantanymore]

Disclaimer: I use sasu on my phone only, so I'm sorry for both spelling and grammatical typos. I'm was honors/AP English student. But I got shaky hands. So I don't worry about it too much. If clarification is needed just let me know)

Definitely feel that here in the US. I hated school because of ADHD. And at the time, the treatments we're not great. I struggle to do anything school related because of the tediousness of it all. Homework? Fuck that. I'm not going to sit there for hours staring at paper and writing. That's torture.

So I didn't. I did the bare minimum to pass every year and that was it.

Until I got to high school. We're my BPD really blew up. After 6th grade. They basically had just pushed me through because all of the teachers hated me. No one wanted to deal with me because I had mental health problem due to the constant abuse I was suffering at home that no one cared enough to save me from.

So I graduated highschool. Even though I was expelled 1 month into the school year. Which is a while side story. And sent it a special needs high school.

So even though I have a diploma, I probably shouldn't. And math? Fuck that shit. Stupid. Tedious bullshit. I struggle with even the basics most of the time. And you know what? Who cares. None of the math they tried to teach me, or anything I learned in school has had any relevance on my life. Ever. So I basically wasted 12 years of my life learning nothing of value when I could have been preparing for adult life in practical ways that actually matter.

Because you know the horrible truth? School is nothing more than a way for them to prepare us to enter the workforce. Where we get to sell our lives for the bare minimum in return to make rich people who couldn't care if we are alive or dead, richer.

Fuck. That.

Academic intelligence isn't the only kind of intelligence that matters. Its only top of the list because of our shitty capitalism. And humanity's stupid belief that suffering is good for us. And that any relief to that suffering makes us weak.

Personally, I value emotional intelligence above all. And that's the kind I am good at. Other people have creative intelligence.

I'm sorry you feel so pressured by all this stupid bullshit that's forced on us.

 

[99th Dalmatian]

I'm from India. We have too much cut-throat competition here due to overpopulation, less resources and development, and corruption. To have access to a decent life in India (by decent I mean buying your own flat in a tier 2 city, able to afford basic amenities without hesitation and affording healthcare without a hole in pocket) you need to have either of these 3 things:

1. Political power
2. Money
3. Great academic success

I was born in a middle class, very normal family so I don't have the former two. About the third...

I bombed my college entrance exams and got into a real shitty college in a tier 2 city, that too in electronics engineering program (mind you, there's very little scope for electronics in India). My parents were hellbent on me taking engineering, and also would beat me, pressurize me into getting good grades since I was little. I had 95% in 10th grade, and my downfall started from there. I understand my parents expectations in a third world country is for my own good, but now I shiver at the slightest thought of failure.

Anyways, I once again bombed my first semester, with a 6.2 sgpa out of 10. And a backlog in Maths exam. Tomorrow is my mathematics re exam, and I couldn't prepare for it at all as I got severely sick. I can't tell my parents either, I'm going to fail miserably tomorrow and I can't think of anything other than suicide.

My luck also has always been really bad. My university is a shitty one where the papers they check are so fucking random. My friends passed in maths despite having less studied than me. I know someone who got a 7.0 sgpa despite not studying at all. The checkers may sometimes grant marks based on how many pages you filled, and this 7.0 friend of mine filled entire answer copy with 9th grade formulas.

Because of overpopulation, academic failure is a huge setback as your opportunities to get a job is nearly zero. Once you graduate, your failures haunt you forever.

I hear you. And population problems don't have solutions. You just have to be selfish and help yourself and yours and hope that future generations will have the courtersy to limit how many kids they have.

I still can't believe China managed to solve their overpopulation problem though. It just blows my mind to this day. and now, in the case of China, rumor has it that college undergrads are in high demand at jobs that pay a living wage, and then some.

I wish some places, including my country, could just enforce that 1 child policy that China had. But I don't have the patience to wait a generation or two to see the fruits of that effort :sadpepe: :feelsbadman: