If you want what you can’t have, is life even worth living?

[Nowilltolive90]

I don't know. But it definitely feels like that. Maybe that's depends on the nature of the thing you want become some things are wired in our brain biologically and we can't reason ourselves that it's not important or not necessary for happiness.

This hits me hard, honestly if I could manipulate my brain or fully convince myself I don't need something to be happy I wouldn't be here but I just can't shake it so I don't want to be alive.

I worked and made sacrifies to get a PhD and I got entangled with a bunch of vindictive people who hated me and spread negative information about me so I couldn't get a job. I limited my career so I could be close to someone I loved. He then dumps me without so much as telling (ghosted me for weeks) after fifteen years. I am too old to find a job much less than have a career. All I left is thinking about suicide.

Then I get told people people have a career, a home, and friends that I am a horrible selfish person for wanting to commit suicide.

I know it's hard but don't listen to them, focus on what you want and nothing else whether it be to hang on or ctb

 

[TimeLawyer]

I think the answer is a very individual thing, and maybe sometimes wants are actually needs and vice versa or maybe even both. That being said, this thread reminds me of that famous Forrest Gump quote, "You know Forrest, life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get" We live in a random universe. The universe doesn't owe anyone anything, but that's because it can't. It has no sense of either justice or mercy, it just is. But I wish we could all be happy.

 

[the_inbetween]

Imposing your belief of what life should be can lead to hurt. Like life just comes as is. Its up to us to adjust. Having a hard time adjusting though.

 

[patheticpartner]

If I want something material that I can't have, life is still worth living. If I want someone I can't have, life isn't worth living.

 

[HappyMstake]

Imo no. I've spent my whole life searching after something I can't find/have. I would rather die than hope that one day things would change.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Almost everyone wants what they can't have, otherwise nothing would progress. To be content with what you have is to be extremely lucky, enlightened or blissfully ignorant.

 

[GoBack]

It's not easy to let go of what you want and can't have, but it's worse not having what you need, whatever that may be

 

[lostangel]

My wants do change regularly. So what I want now is not what I will want in a years time. I want to love and affection. I may never receive that so then life is not worth living.

 

[ManWithNoName]

That's the crux to the whole Human condition right there...put on this Earth with important wants out of grasp—one might argue it's a big joke played on us by the cosmos.

 

[ssaaahmo]

I'm not sure. Right now, my answer is no.

 

[lululoo]

I have spent most of my life wanting what I couldn't have. You can get by if you have hope. But if hope is gone and there really is no chance of getting what you want, and especially if those wants are fundamental things like love or health, then life is not worth it in my opinion.

 

[LastFlowers]

Depends how bad you want it and how much that want mimics a need. I would say usually not.