"I'd like to feel a bit better/ I'd like to recover" Support Group Megathread

[ConfusedClouds]

Sorry, I can't help anyone today.

I need to know how can I grieve properly. Ended a relationship too abruptly, and I've kinda been in shock for too long. Every time I need to move on, I regress back to denial, that it can't be happening, etc. I want to man this up and get over it.


Would mass-venting here help? You can always create your own thread to rant all you want there, it's very common in The Sanctuary. You can in your profile as well.

Oh that sounds brutal at your end. Wish I could offer some words of suggestion back to you. I'll send a (with consent) big hug.

Thanks for reading and your thought and ideas. You have helped - you've read/listened, which means a lot to me.

I tried venting on my profile a load a few months back but I find it just spirals me more where I pick more and more holes in what I am thinking. And made even less sense than if stopping to think and trying to communicate something to the 'wider world' not just ranting to myself stuff I already know but can't work out. I also feel like I need some sort of external input to try and even attempt making sense. Which isn't so viable.

The ball of string analogy is often used with therapy 'helping to untangle and organise thoughts'. But I feel like mine is a ball of elastic - everything goes straight back to how it was no matter how good a particular session feels with 'progress' - unless the next session was virtually right away, thats too much time and I ruminate/over analyse all over back to the beginning. But I think the best description is 'consistently inconsistent' - no matter how I try to understand or use logic or pick up on patterns, all theories are busted before long at all.

 

[stillunemployed]

good morning

 

[stillunemployed]

another morning

 

[stillunemployed]

i cant find any energy anymore, i just want to stare at my ceiling forever

 

[Tesha]

i cant find any energy anymore, i just want to stare at my ceiling forever

I hope there's some nice patterns or marks on it, that you can use your imagination on to make into a semi-positive picture

 

[stillunemployed]

I hope there's some nice patterns or marks on it, that you can use your imagination on to make into a semi-positive picture

it just becomes another drug

 

[HighFlight]

It seems like forever since I've posted anything here. I been having a tough few weeks between family and work issues coupled with my own problems. But recovery is about working through the tough times and looking for more positive moments.

The whole 'talk to a professional' is well and good but so limited to just 50mins a week. The other end is ranting nonstop to a friend - being a clear burden. But you also hear about people being advised to have boundaries when supporting friends/family to look after themselves. In my mind does that then just highlight being a burden

Boundaries are important when helping others. They establish limits on what you as the provider can reasonably do to help. Professionals establish their boundaries, but it easier because they can build them on time and money.

As a friend and family member, it becomes tougher to build those boundaries. But where do you draw the line? You have to take care of yourself and avoid situations that could trigger yourself.

ConfusedClouds, it sounds like you put up your own boundaries by saying you weren't going to deal with people who won't provide you feedback. Now you're looking to reconnect and are worried about feeling like a burden on them.

Maybe try talking to them about that. Establish the boundaries up front so you don't have to feel like a burden on them. In return, they can tell you what triggers them and causes them to shut down and not provide feedback.

And @Proteus is right. You can create a threat to simply vent, or use your profile posts. However, this idea of getting irl support and setting boundaries would be a great topic for a thread in the Recovery Forum.

Sorry, I can't help anyone today.

^^^ Said that, and then went on to help someone. Just saying.


@Tesha - I hope you're feeling better.

@BurgundySnap - Welcome back. I glad to hear from you, although wish it was under better circumstances.

Unfortunately, I have been out walking in a few days, so no new pictures. But I'll try to take some new ones this week.

Wishing you all a little peace within this crazy world.

 

[Edistrying]

Lo siento, no puedo ayudar a nadie hoy.

Necesito saber cómo puedo hacer el duelo de forma adecuada. Terminé una relación de forma demasiado abrupta y he estado en estado de shock durante demasiado tiempo. Cada vez que necesito seguir adelante, vuelvo a negarlo, a pensar que no puede estar sucediendo, etc. Quiero hacerme cargo de esto y superarlo.

Lo siento, no puedo ayudar a nadie hoy.

Necesito saber cómo puedo hacer el duelo de forma adecuada. Terminé una relación de forma demasiado abrupta y he estado en estado de shock durante demasiado tiempo. Cada vez que necesito seguir adelante, vuelvo a negarlo, a pensar que no puede estar sucediendo, etc. Quiero hacerme cargo de esto y superarlo.

If you find the answer.. pls tell me. I'm broke with my ex almost two years ago and I still love her. I think everyday in a future with her. It's crazy, I have been in a relationship before and i never felt this way..

 

[stillunemployed]

Wednesday morning

 

[HighFlight]

I took a short walk in a different location, and grabbed a few more pictures with some friends...

 

[stillunemployed]

Thursday

 

[BurgundySnap]

Hello! Your pictures are amazing, @HighFlight ! They make me see that ducks are not the smallest...

 

[Perdition]

going back and forth between making plans to ctb, and having a glimpse of hope for my situation & planning to make my life tolerable enough that I won't want to end it.

I know that if I ctb, it will destroy my parents. especially my dad, and the thought of this as well as my need to take care of my cat, has kept me here. I don't wanna do that to them… if I can get out of my current situation, I think there's a chance for me.

Anyhow, i wish for everybody here to keep being hopeful. even if your hopes are small, like looking forward to a show or game or movie (whatever you like), you should grab on to that hope and hold it tightly.

 

[stillunemployed]

friday

 

[HopingOnaMiracle]

Good morning @stillunemployed

@arnxxx, how is the ketamine working for you?

Hi just back from vacation. My ketamine treatment starts in an hour. Hope it will do something.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Hi just back from vacation. My ketamine treatment starts in an hour. Hope it will do something.

Good luck!

 

[stillunemployed]

Saturday

 

[stillunemployed]

sunday

 

[stillunemployed]

and we win another week!

We start off on a monday. Don't you just love mondays.

Had an interview, went relatively well.

 

[HighFlight]

Hi just back from vacation. My ketamine treatment starts in an hour. Hope it will do something.

How'd the treatment go?

 

[HighFlight]

Had an interview, went relatively well.

Sounds like you had a potentially good Monday. Hope this works out for you.

BTW - Good morning, and happy Tuesday!

I do enjoy your pictures. It seems you're in a more mountainous region than I. Where I am is relatively flat with most elevation changes the result of ice ages and glacier movements 10s of thousands of years ago.

 

[HighFlight]

going back and forth between making plans to ctb, and having a glimpse of hope for my situation & planning to make my life tolerable enough that I won't want to end it.

I know that if I ctb, it will destroy my parents. especially my dad, and the thought of this as well as my need to take care of my cat, has kept me here. I don't wanna do that to them… if I can get out of my current situation, I think there's a chance for me.

Anyhow, i wish for everybody here to keep being hopeful. even if your hopes are small, like looking forward to a show or game or movie (whatever you like), you should grab on to that hope and hold it tightly.

Hi @Perdition and welcome to the thread.

I know I started in that gray area of which path to choose. It's why I joined to begin with. For me, it wasn't so much the hope of something, but the amazing people I've met since joining.

However, I'm glad you've been able to find some hope to hang on to. Maybe you can use that energy to escape your current situation. Hopefully for yourself, but also your parents and your cat.

I hope that you can find some peace while you figure out your path. We're here for you!

 

[stillunemployed]

Sounds like you had a potentially good Monday. Hope this works out for you.

BTW - Good morning, and happy Tuesday!

I do enjoy your pictures. It seems you're in a more mountainous region than I. Where I am is relatively flat with most elevation changes the result of ice ages and glacier movements 10s of thousands of years ago.

yeah, lots of hills and valleys.
good morning, everyone

today i get a tooth extracted

 

[Placo]

I have an appointment on the 2nd, I wonder if I can get a prescription for esketamine.

 

[Perdition]

Hi @Perdition and welcome to the thread.

I know I started in that gray area of which path to choose. It's why I joined to begin with. For me, it wasn't so much the hope of something, but the amazing people I've met since joining.

However, I'm glad you've been able to find some hope to hang on to. Maybe you can use that energy to escape your current situation. Hopefully for yourself, but also your parents and your cat.

I hope that you can find some peace while you figure out your path. We're here for you!

Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate them. wishing you happiness.

 

[stillunemployed]

good morning

 

[BurgundySnap]

Hello everyone, best wishes for us all

On my main social medias and art accounts, I am gaining a bit more attention from others slowly. It just is not the same with other people, here is much more understanding and comfortable. Or, maybe it is only familiarity

 

[HighFlight]

I have an appointment on the 2nd, I wonder if I can get a prescription for esketamine.

If you're in the US, its protocol is for treatment in a doctor's office. Usually, they'll suggest the treatment for people with treatment-resistant depression. FDA guidance is something like "has tried 5-6 different antidepressant treatment and or medication without relief". Hopefully you can get what you're looking for.

I was able to find a provider that prescribed daily ketamine (low dose) for me. It helped at the beginning, but I've hit a plateau. Right now it's keeping me from sliding backward.

today i get a tooth extracted

I hope all went well and you're on the road to recovery.

here is much more understanding and comfortable.

I am glad you are able to find some comfort here. If you ever feel extra comfortable, we'd love to see some of your art.

@lita-lassi, we don't get the beautiful sunsets you've been able to capture, but I was able to capture the impending storm...


Wishing you all a less-stormy day.

 

[stillunemployed]

good morning

I hope all went well and you're on the road to recovery.

was a dead tooth and ive been postponing it for years.

 

[FlufflesAway]

Help. I can barely move. I feel trapped in my own body ha ha ha have mercy kill me