Venting I wish I could help people.

[CFLoser]

If I could care about others more, instead of being so self obsessed, I could help people.

I've relied on others so much, but anytime someone relies on me, I act as if I can't carry that weight.

 

[StillWaiting]

Same here. That's why I posted a thread regarding how can I start. Every time I talk to someone, I feel as if I am always talking about myself instead of listening to others.
Dont know how to change/

 

[ReverendGreen]

I feel that way too but I'm convinced I only want to help people so that they will like me more in the end. It's impossible to genuinely care about another person's problems.

 

[Mr2005]

I honestly think that's why I'm still here, I know nobody can help me. This place hasn't been kind to me because the truth hurts. I don't really care what they think of me what I say is in peoples best interest. Maybe I am just doing it for me to try and forgive myself.

 

[cryptic_cynic]

Don't bother. I have been too nice and helpful to others my whole life, while never asking anything from anyone. I even went out of my way to help others while broke and homeless myself. It never got me anywhere. I just end up being used and taken advantage of by lazy, needy idiots who have no shame in constantly begging for shit. I'm convinced I could have been much more successful in life if I was just a selfish asshole like the majority of people.

 

[Mr2005]

Be both. Don't do it for them, do it for you

 

[Wayfaerer]

I wish that I could help myself...

 

[CFLoser]

Don't bother. I have been too nice and helpful to others my whole life, while never asking anything from anyone. I even went out of my way to help others while broke and homeless myself. It never got me anywhere. I just end up being used and taken advantage of by lazy, needy idiots who have no shame in constantly begging for shit. I'm convinced I could have been much more successful in life if I was just a selfish asshole like the majority of people.

I think theres a balance.

You can't give all the time and you can't take all the time either. Every individual person has a difference level of how much they can give, and how much they can take.

When you can help someone, it shows you're capable of listening to someone and to think through what they need.

 

[Mr2005]

Lifes definitely easier if you only care about yourself. It's also emptier. I don't care about myself so I don't have that problem. It might sound corny but all we have is each other.