I really can't stand it when people say nobody can help you but yourself.

[Thanatonaut]

It's a phrase that's overused. Sure, people can self-sabotage and be their own worst enemy, but the phrase has just become a tool to be used by people who want to sound helpful without actually being, you know, fucking helpful.

 

[Outsider]

It is also said because whole mental health system is based on ideas that the problem lies mostly in invidual like brain chemical imbalance or some negative thinking. Where reality is we are social animals evolved to live in a group, certain environment and lifestyle. So to help person they would have to do much more or maybe finally admit that our way of living, society, capitalism is sick and producing most mental health problems.

 

[motel rooms]

our way of living, society, capitalism is sick and producing most mental health problems.

Capitalism plays an important part, but it's the dysfunctional families that break most of our minds

 

[Joplin]

People who say "Nobody cares about you" can go f themselves. Lets just get that clear. People also frequently say we should ask for help. So I understand your frustration. We need to ask for help but we can only help ourselves. Yeah pffft... wish there was a handbook for life. LAwwwd.

But hopefully what these people really mean is that you have to find that thing inside yourself that wants help. (I know... *rolls eyes) Then you find someone that doesn't say things like " nobody cares about you" and you rather tell someone who says "we care about you, we are sorry you are going through this".

I am sorry people are being insensitive to you. Sometimes people are just assholes. You will find many of them in this life. One of the best things to learn is to ignore these pricks. Its hard but it gets easier the more often you practice.