Venting I love seeing my friends up but I can’t do it myself

[LucifersIntrovert]

My entire friend group is doing pretty well off as of now. We've all known each other for 9 years now and grew up since middle school and we are all 20 now. It's starting to dawn on me that all my friends are doing really well and I'm actually so happy and proud of all of them seeing where we all came from to now. Like I couldn't comprehend how well they were doing until yesterday. Like I knew they all made good money and everything. But yesterday it just clicked one of my friends does cards for a living buying and reselling sports cards and actually makes a crazy amount of money for his age let alone reselling cardboard. He casually pulls out 7k in cash and tells me to count it for him before putting it into his safe where another 30-40k lies inside. It blew my mind knowing he had that much just in pure cash I didn't even ask how much he had in total. Then I have a friend working for his uncle selling gold with him at all 3 of his businesses his uncle owns. Then I have a friend who works for Disney, Nickelodeon, Netflix, Warner brothers. Etc… doing voice acting since he was 3 so you know he's well paid off. But then there's me struggling to go out with them because they have constant money to spend I try and keep up. But I'm in college I major in law and keeping up tuition is already a lot for me. Let alone getting to see them, and since we all live in Cali and live around Hollywood don't even get me started on the prices on bull shit around here. It's just a pain because I don't have a job I've applied and done plenty of interviews but none that would work around my schedule for my classes since law school is demanding I'm taking as many classes I can with attempting good gpa and grades overall. I'm literally down to just $70 in my bank account and we try and hang out every weekend together it just sucks because I know finances is going to be the reason I CTB. I already have my SN ready for when that time comes. Since I have no faith in myself in getting anywhere near their levels of income and success. Sure I might be a bit jealous of them but I wish nothing but the upmost success for them and will always look down on them from the afterlife with nothing but a smile knowing their winning at life. But if anyone has some good ways of making money online please let a brother know

 

[bankai]

Don't try to keep up with them, it will ruin you financially . Just talk it over with them. But don't let them spend money on you either. I had a friend in college who would spend $1000 a night on weekends at clubs. It used to be just me and him. He'd come over to my house, pick me up in his car and we'd hit the town. I had like a $100 allowance for the month or something

He knew I couldn't really spend for myself, so he would spend for me. But I remember being so ashamed about that. I actually started wanting to just do smaller things , like just playing games at home with him,etc.

Today I am doing way better than him.Don't assume your situation will be the same forever.

 

[LucifersIntrovert]

Don't try to keep up with them, it will ruin you financially . Just talk it over with them. But don't let them spend money on you either. I had a friend in college who would spend $1000 a night on weekends at clubs. It used to be just me and him. He'd come over to my house, pick me up in his car and we'd hit the town. I had like a $100 allowance for the month or something

He knew I couldn't really spend for myself, so he would spend for me. But I remember being so ashamed about that. I actually started wanting to just do smaller things , like just playing games at home with him,etc.

Today I am doing way better than him.Don't assume your situation will be the same forever.

I'm trying to just keep up with them in food wise atleast to just be able to eat with them. I let them do their own spending and I love seeing them blow crazy amounts of money I just find it funny like I literally went with my card friend and he just casually spends 3k on a card. But i definitely don't let them pay for me they offer occasionally but i never let them because i also feel way to guilty for it. To me it's like asking for handouts and like im back as a kid asking my parents for money it's degrading to me. I mean we still all play the game every night and talk it's just seeing friends is something that stops my suicidal ideation for a bit until finances get brought back into it. But thanks for the advice and I'm glad to hear you're doing well off ‍

 

[bankai]

I'm trying to just keep up with them in food wise atleast to just be able to eat with them. I let them do their own spending and I love seeing them blow crazy amounts of money I just find it funny like I literally went with my card friend and he just casually spends 3k on a card. But i definitely don't let them pay for me they offer occasionally but i never let them because i also feel way to guilty for it. To me it's like asking for handouts and like im back as a kid asking my parents for money it's degrading to me. I mean we still all play the game every night and talk it's just seeing friends is something that stops my suicidal ideation for a bit until finances get brought back into it. But thanks for the advice and I'm glad to hear you're doing well off ‍

Yeah, it will cause resentment down the line too if they pay for you. And it spoils the friendship later on. Mixing relationships and money is never a good idea with family or friends.