I feel there’s no love left for me

[Steamm]

I'm almost 30 years old and no women ever looked at me. It's a mix of hate and envy of the others. This is really get into me lately and making me feel thoughtful. Do you think some people are born to be lonely? How can we accept loneliness and be happy with it?

 

[Ulisses]

become MGTOW. research into this lifestyle. hugs

 

[LastRide]

@Steamm - look at it that way, if no woman has ever looked at you, you probably have been spared terrible pain and deception. Yes, you feel lonely, but maybe being alone is better than being made ridiculous and totally heartbroken by a woman. I am subscribing to voluntary celibacy !

 

[Ulisses]

receive crumbs for pussy, I'm out. each who goes his own way. I was born alone I will die alone

 

[Sensei]

I'm almost 30 years old and no women ever looked at me. It's a mix of hate and envy of the others. This is really get into me lately and making me feel thoughtful. Do you think some people are born to be lonely? How can we accept loneliness and be happy with it?

I don't think it necessarily must be over for you. Most people would probably say that meeting their partner was unexpected, so it could very well happen to you too. There are of course no guarantees, but I don't think you should give up just yet. She might be around the corner.

 

[HelensNepenthe]

Mgtow nao quer dizer para odiar mulheres, mas sim seguir em frente sem precisar de validação feminina. no caso dele pagando uma puta resolveria o problema.

(Translation provided by DeepL)

Os homens jovens têm actualmente um problema de auto-realização, pelo que recorrem a estas comunidades tóxicas. Ao contrário do seu comentário "não significa que as mulheres odeiem", este subtítulo que é uma parte vocal do MTGOW é muito misógino.

Defina: Misoginia
"antipatia, desprezo ou preconceito arraigado contra as mulheres."

Defina: Preconceito
"opinião preconcebida que não se baseia na razão ou na experiência real."

Você estaria mentindo para si mesmo se não achasse que MTGOW é uma comunidade centrada em torno do ódio às mulheres.

Traduzido com a versão gratuita do tradutor - www.DeepL.com/Translator

Young men currently have a problem self actualizing so they resort to these toxic communities. Contrary to your comment "does not mean for women to hate", this subreddit that is a vocal part of MTGOW is very misogynistic.

Define: Misogyny
"dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women."

Define: Prejudice
"preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience."

You would be lying to yourself if you do not think MTGOW is a community centered around hating women.

 

[s1mplem3]

I'm almost 30 years old and no women ever looked at me. It's a mix of hate and envy of the others. This is really get into me lately and making me feel thoughtful. Do you think some people are born to be lonely? How can we accept loneliness and be happy with it?

I am 30, never had friends or family, never felt love. The only feeling I have in my life is loneliness and I don't know how to overcome it. I'm tired to be home alone 24/7 and wake up every morning in empty and lifeless room. I don't know if I born to be lonely, but I am and I just want someone to hold my hand when I die.

 

[Nem]

Sorry to hear that. Relationships can be awesome or painful, maybe you can look at it like that and feel neutral about it. Wish I had avoided my last relationship
Peace/hugs

 

[Steamm]

@Steamm - look at it that way, if no woman has ever looked at you, you probably have been spared terrible pain and deception. Yes, you feel lonely, but maybe being alone is better than being made ridiculous and totally heartbroken by a woman. I am subscribing to voluntary celibacy !

I just wish I could experience what looks so easy to the others...

 

[Oyoy]

Your sweet and whoever is smart will appreciate your heart

 

[Gregorius]

I'm almost 30 years old and no women ever looked at me. It's a mix of hate and envy of the others. This is really get into me lately and making me feel thoughtful. Do you think some people are born to be lonely? How can we accept loneliness and be happy with it?

I always thought if I find love, I'm happy. Now I found her months ago and I still have a hole in my soul.

I was always looking for a reason why it was mine shit went. There are many good ways to get out of loneliness. Do not make your luck dependent on a partner, I advise you my friend. =) Everyone is lovable if you have no friends, I recommend that you look for them. They often know singles. On the internet you can meet people you can meet with, (no dating sites everything Superficial garbage!)

I was then when I was still was divided over CTB or no CTB in open church meetings. I am an atheist but was kindly received, which helped me a lot at the time. I wish you the best

 

[LastRide]

I just wish I could experience what looks so easy to the others...

It might LOOK easy but believe me it's NOT ! And more often instead of a loving relationship you experience more pain, more harrassment, more overall stress in your life than if you had stayed on your own ! Honestly, staying single is a way to protect yourself ! I am a very vulnerable und psychologically unstable person, and I have chosen deliberate celibacy to basically protect myself....it's been too hard in the past to digest the broken relationships, there is already enough pain in my life, I don't want to add even more to it ! Your friends are here for you if you need us !

 

[Darkhaven]

Well, for me there never was any love. I have been hated since day one. I think it's my personality and overall caracther that makes it impossible for other people to enjoy being with me. It's like i have some sort human reppelent.

 

[LastRide]

Well, for me there never was any love. I have been hated since day one. I think it's my personality and overall caracther that makes it impossible for other people to enjoy being with me. It's like i have some sort human reppelent.

Maybe it's better if people hate you outright than pretend they love you but then just toy with you, and use and abuse you? I'd prefer it if someone honestly told me I am hateful than having to find out from their diaries when they proclaim how much they love me every day....

 

[Steamm]

I am 30, never had friends or family, never felt love. The only feeling I have in my life is loneliness and I don't know how to overcome it. I'm tired to be home alone 24/7 and wake up every morning in empty and lifeless room. I don't know if I born to be lonely, but I am and I just want someone to hold my hand when I die.

I wanna quit life but I'm just to coward to do that

 

[somedude123]

I'm almost 30 years old and no women ever looked at me. It's a mix of hate and envy of the others. This is really get into me lately and making me feel thoughtful. Do you think some people are born to be lonely? How can we accept loneliness and be happy with it?

Before I answer your first question, let me ask you this, are you sure no woman has ever looked at you? I find it quite hard that someone is so repulsive that not even the thirstiest of the opposite sex would even spare a passing glance. This has to be hyperbole right? Of course I don't know you, what you look like, etc. but I do want some confirmation on this. But to answer your first question: it depends. If determinism is true, then yes some people will stay lonely and this was decided the moment the universe came into existence, however if it's not true, then objectively no. Either way we can't empirically predict someone's entire life in advance, so until we can, from a scientific standpoint the answer is no.

Your second question seems to assume that the answer to your first question is yes. Was the first question rhetorical, please clarify. In order to answer this question however, you must consider a few things: is it bad to be lonely, are there other things in life that bring you joy, if so why not focus on those instead? As someone who has been isolated both physically and mentally from everyone my whole life, I've never had a problem enjoying things by myself, in fact I prefer it. You seem to have a very defeatist attitude towards the idea of being lonely, but what's the evidence that you're going to be lonely for the rest of your life? If being with someone means that much to you, the logical solution would to be to spend as much time and effort improving yourself, your social skills, etc. as possible. As well as putting yourself in more social situations to give yourself more oppurtunities for success. If it doesn't mean that much, then try and focus on other things in life, who knows, maybe you'll meet someone along the way. If not, then at least you got to spend time doing the things that make you happy in life, I'd consider that a win-win.

 

[PhilosOfDoom]

You shouldn't give up companionship due to the lack of activity so far. I have to ask, do you pursue? The people who sit in the corners, keep their heads down, etc. A lot of people do not initiate, of both genders. If you have confidence, walk up to women, either gradually or more boldly become partners. Simply make an observation regarding clothing, hair, etc and make conversation. Later on say if she wants to go to the movies or anything else. The worst she can say is "no." Hi, my name's x, I noticed your x and I really like x about it...*conversation carries on* Make observations that you really find curious, then it'd be genuine and easier to seem interested. Be open and ask open ended conversations. If she is barely contributing, drop the convo. She obviously isn't interested, e.g staring at her phone, giving one or two worded answers, etc. For example, a band on a shirt.

Otherwise, you could devote yourself to your fun, your hobbies, your work, your lifestyle, etc. Some people can deal without love and only have friends, not being romantically involved is okay. Play video games with your buds, have pizza, have a good time. Making friends is a similar process to companionship asides from asking on dates, you ask to play video games, or actually just hang out friendly.

 

[Lastravel]

Your main problem is you're not genetically good wired enough. We live in a feminist society (which is fucked up by the way), so your only choice is too lower your expectations in order to find a partner/improve yourself at the same time.
Otherwise maybe try to get a pet companion (like a dog) or wait for female robots

Of course humans are not made to be alone, we are made to be social.

Here is what is going on in our feminist societies on right, it's the actual trend :

 

[UberYeets]

Your main problem is you're not genetically good wired enough. We live in a feminist society (which is fucked up by the way), so your only choice is too lower your expectations in order to find a partner/improve yourself at the same time.
Otherwise maybe try to get a pet companion (like a dog) or wait for female robots

Of course humans are not made to be alone, we are made to be social.

Here is what is going on in our feminist societies on right, it's the actual trend :

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God forbid a man stands up and demonstrates objective facts from okcupids website itself, only to have the page deleted then reposted again in another part of the internet. It's obvious they desire for a more genetically fit partner. Either you are a 5 in 1 Nescafé blend of Brad Pitt, Jim Carrey, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Albert Einstein and Eminem all in 1 person or you are just another punk hehe. It's tough out there, but I don't blame or hate the women, it's just that I can see thru the veil now and opt out of those games for my own safety, ironically saying that on this forum. This place is beautiful though, people that actually understand true agony, pain echelons greater than what the average Joe couldn't even begin to comprehend to compute or formulate into words being spoken about in such an environment. God bless this website and its people.