"I don't want to talk about it"

[Life_and_Death]

My "husband" always upsets me to the point it's become a psychological problem. Without even talking to him I know what he's going to say so I end up going off about it in my head. Without even saying a single word to him now, he can break me down into anger and tears.
I'm trying to move out and I just know how the day is going to go.
"everything's been fine. What's going on?"
But it hasn't been fine. You abuse me. And I know if I try to tell you this you're going to deny it. You're going to say sorry. You're going to say you'll stop but the problem is I've been telling you what's wrong for years and you've never done nothing. Instead I've just sat here watching my mental health deteriorate. So from now on "I don't want to talk about it" I don't want to talk about it with real you and I don't want to talk about it with psychological you. When I move and you go to ask why, "I don't want to talk about it" is the only words you're going to hear. I'm not going to tell you. I have every right to not talk about. Especially considering the fact that I know you're going to gaslight everything I say, therefore I'll give you nothing to gaslight.

 

[Foresight]

Yes. You have the right to hold your silence when you've already given the explanation over and over with no change coming through.

I wish you healing.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

It's really tough when our partner doesn't meet our needs or is jeopardizing our mental health. My own is a very poor communicator and often makes me unhappy but I try to muddle through. Mostly because I can't afford to live alone and would go crazy from being by myself 100% of the time.

Hopefully you can make progress with or without him. Good luck.

 

[Life_and_Death]

It's really tough when our partner doesn't meet our needs or is jeopardizing our mental health. My own is a very poor communicator and often makes me unhappy but I try to muddle through. Mostly because I can't afford to live alone and would go crazy from being by myself 100% of the time.

Hopefully you can make progress with or without him. Good luck.

I certainly won't make any progress with him. He won't do anything and makes false promise after false promise.
"you'll make new friends" he told me
"I prefer to be alone, I don't like people" is something he's always said

"we can go out more after we move" he said
"I don't like traffic, I don't want to go out" he's also said

(I don't want to talk about it)
Before I go into a rant and get upset, I'm sure you can understand.

He also has a dynamic problem. Never hitting me or anything but intimidating. Repeating himself, backing me into a corner, to get me to say whatever he wants to hear even though its a complete lie.

He's no good for anyone and should die alone because he's never going to change.