I don't understand how people move on.

[Listenlow]

I am still so in love with my ex and I think about her all the time. I don't understand how people just move on to another partner. She was perfect and i can't imagine life without her.

 

[cutelamb22]

i dont

 

[iwkmsssb]

i don't understand either, my ex was my person and my whole world. but we broke up in the worst way possible, over text and no closure. i haven't been coping well because i was so dependent on him for more than 2 years, i relapsed over and over. but i try to remind myself that the person that i love so much is actively and consciously making the decision to not have me in their life. and i remember that pain. i still think about him everyday and im tormented by the memories, eventually you will get tired and exhausted from the pain and you're forced to move on with what little will to live you have.

i hate when people say it just takes time because they don't understand how unbearable it feels in the moment, i understand it very well. but therapy helps, distractions help, talking to anyone helps sometimes. do whatever it takes to push every thought away, easier said than done i know. but you will learn to adapt eventually. wishing you the best stranger.

 

[wannabeangel]

i dont understand it either, i pretend to "get over" him after the divorce distracting myself with people yet all i really wanna do is just die without him, i've just been a wreck since feb from it, my life ended when i left his

 

[Forever Sleep]

I haven't experienced it myself. Either having a partner or, getting over them. I think it can take years though. It was six years after my Mum died that my Dad started dating again. Even then- I'm not so sure a person ever entirely gets over another person they loved. I suppose it's more that- if they feel lonely, they can appreciate being with someone new. Plus, they can also love the qualities this new person has. Doesn't necessarily mean they replace one with the other though.