Help I can't recover!

[a.fool]

I feel like I can't recover. I had started to try, started to exercise but now I'm sick so I can't even exercise anymore. I hated exercising anyways and it wasn't helping me either, all it did was give me body pain.
I feel good sometimes but then I think I get those depressive episodes every single day at some point and I can't get out of them.
I think I can't recover or maybe I don't even want to. To be honest, I'm really tired, tired to living and tired of trying.
I ditched the idea of joining that job but now I think I should make all the necessary documents and go to take that delivery job wasting my whole day in it and I know it'll fuck up more of my studies but I just want to join it so that I can live far away from my house somewhere far and alone in peace.
I just visited a website few days ago and then a counsellor texted me herself and she asked if I want to have sessions with her and she's even giving me student discount. Should I take up therapy? I don't know how will it even help cause exercising, meditating all these things I can do by myself but I'm too lazy to do or too tired.
I feel like I should just end it all and die instead of letting my emotions take a toll over me.

 

[Hardcore_Henry]

wow i feel like i'm reading a post i made myself, i know exactly how you feel.

if therapy is an option for you, take it, many people have varying results for sure, but for me personally it really did help so it can be viable, please exhaust the option because you'll never know otherwise.

if you ever need an ear, ill be here.

 

[Little_Suzy]

Why are you starting a new thread asking the same question about therapy? You are receiving excellent feedback on your current thread, to which I have just responded.

If you believe you are unable or unwilling to recover but wish to continue trying, a therapist can refer you to a good residential treatment program.

Exercise, journaling, and meditation are all examples of stress-reduction strategies. This is not the main focus of therapy.

Therapy helps you identify your triggers, learn how to deal with them, and make decisions that support a healthy lifestyle. Life becomes more manageable once you've identified your triggers and implemented the coping skills your therapist taught you.


https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/i-have-a-question.148694/#post-2315528

 

[a.fool]

Why are you starting a new thread asking the same question about therapy? You are receiving excellent feedback on your current thread, to which I have just responded.

If you believe you are unable or unwilling to recover but wish to continue trying, a therapist can refer you to a good residential treatment program.

Exercise, journaling, and meditation are all examples of stress-reduction strategies. This is not the main focus of therapy.

Therapy helps you identify your triggers, learn how to deal with them, and make decisions that support a healthy lifestyle. Life becomes more manageable once you've identified your triggers and implemented the coping skills your therapist taught you.


https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/i-have-a-question.148694/#post-2315528

I'm sorry. Repetitive things come to my mind everyday and maybe I forgot the exact words I wrote in my thread before. I tend to forget things when I wake up, my brain doesn't work that well. I was feeling very emotional at that moment so I just wrote this thread. I didn't know we couldn't write thread about the same topic again. I'm sorry. Now I feel more dumb!

wow i feel like i'm reading a post i made myself, i know exactly how you feel.

if therapy is an option for you, take it, many people have varying results for sure, but for me personally it really did help so it can be viable, please exhaust the option because you'll never know otherwise.

if you ever need an ear, ill be here.

I can afford one session for 1 month

 

[UsagiDrop]

I think you're allowed to state the same thing more than once in your threads. There are people who are far more repetitive than you've been in two posts so you're very much allowed to vent on the same topic and pose the same question twice. For future reference, I'm pretty sure that mods are the only people who can police what you post.

I'm sorry that you're having a bad day. I hope you will remember that this is just a bad time you're having and it's normal to have them even when you're attempting to recover. It doesn't happen overnight and it's a difficult process, many of us still want to die very often and it's not common for people to make a complete 180 in a short amount of time.

That being said, the above advice is still good advice and you should look past the comment about repetitiveness. If you feel like you can't recover then seeing a therapist and being referred to an inpatient stay, while it could be unpleasant, is a good option; there is more hands-on help available within these programs but they don't have the best reputation. They're also pretty damn expensive as far as I know.

I think it's also worth noting now that counseling and psychotherapy are two slightly different things wherein the former is more about focusing on one general issue in your life and the latter is about addressing your psychological problems and needs. Psychotherapy encompasses a lot of different types of therapy for different purposes and there are ways beyond traditional therapy and medication to recover, although these things do help a lot of people. You should do your own research on what fits best for you and a good place to start is the thread pinned to this subforum that has listed out different methods of therapy.

Despite everything it sounds like you desire to go to therapy so I hope you will give it a go and give the future that you would like to see for yourself a chance. Like I said before, it isn't the answer for everyone but it never hurts to exhaust your options. If you're in school, especially a university, there are more than likely resources freely available to you; counselors and therapists that operate on campus and will see you free of charge. Is it possible for you to find out about whether or not that's a thing at your school? It's really as good of a place to start shopping for a counselor/therapist as any.

 

[a.fool]

I think you're allowed to state the same thing more than once in your threads. There are people who are far more repetitive than you've been in two posts so you're very much allowed to vent on the same topic and pose the same question twice. For future reference, I'm pretty sure that mods are the only people who can police what you post.

I'm sorry that you're having a bad day. I hope you will remember that this is just a bad time you're having and it's normal to have them even when you're attempting to recover. It doesn't happen overnight and it's a difficult process, many of us still want to die very often and it's not common for people to make a complete 180 in a short amount of time.

That being said, the above advice is still good advice and you should look past the comment about repetitiveness. If you feel like you can't recover then seeing a therapist and being referred to an inpatient stay, while it could be unpleasant, is a good option; there is more hands-on help available within these programs but they don't have the best reputation. They're also pretty damn expensive as far as I know.

I think it's also worth noting now that counseling and psychotherapy are two slightly different things wherein the former is more about focusing on one general issue in your life and the latter is about addressing your psychological problems and needs. Psychotherapy encompasses a lot of different types of therapy for different purposes and there are ways beyond traditional therapy and medication to recover, although these things do help a lot of people. You should do your own research on what fits best for you and a good place to start is the thread pinned to this subforum that has listed out different methods of therapy.

Despite everything it sounds like you desire to go to therapy so I hope you will give it a go and give the future that you would like to see for yourself a chance. Like I said before, it isn't the answer for everyone but it never hurts to exhaust your options. If you're in school, especially a university, there are more than likely resources freely available to you; counselors and therapists that operate on campus and will see you free of charge. Is it possible for you to find out about whether or not that's a thing at your school? It's really as good of a place to start shopping for a counselor/therapist as any.

Thanks for saying all of this! You are very sweet.
Anything like therapy or counselling isn't provided here in the education industry be it school or college. So I can't look for therapy for free that way. I can get counselling by paying the counsellor privately and finding one myself.

 

[poached]

I hated exercising anyways and it wasn't helping me either, all it did was give me body pain.

The best exercise (if it isn't job dependent) is the kind that you enjoy. Indoor rock climbing, shooting baskets by yourself or pick me up, a twenty minute walk while listening to music or podcasts. Anything really

 

[UsagiDrop]

So I can't look for therapy for free that way.

I'm really sorry that your country/area's education department doesn't offer this in schools. Mine typically does not either but I was lucky in that the university I went to decided to implement a counseling program anyway (although it was more religious than anything up until the last semester I went where they appointed some foreign psychologist to better run it) and the other schools I went to were private. At least the counselor that is in contact with you is offering a student discount, though!

It goes without saying but in order to be able to afford more sessions than one, you will probably need to get the job. Maybe it's possible and better to work part time since you also study, but seeing as the money you will make working will go towards one of the biggest investments that you can ever make in yourself, I hope that you won't think of it so much as wasting your day. But it is notoriously hard for people like us to work and keep jobs due to our state, it's much easier said and thought about than done. The good news is that you can work with your counselor on a work/life/school balance that will hopefully not leave your studies on the back burner.

It sounds like a good idea to have your initial visit with the counselor. Don't make any hasty decisions on anything yet, but if you like the experience with that professional, then you can decide whether you're going to go again, if you should get that job after all in order to afford future meetings, and everything else. But no matter what you decide, I wish you lots of luck! I really hope you can heal and recover by the means that work for you.

 

[a.fool]

I'm really sorry that your country/area's education department doesn't offer this in schools. Mine typically does not either but I was lucky in that the university I went to decided to implement a counseling program anyway (although it was more religious than anything up until the last semester I went where they appointed some foreign psychologist to better run it) and the other schools I went to were private. At least the counselor that is in contact with you is offering a student discount, though!

It goes without saying but in order to be able to afford more sessions than one, you will probably need to get the job. Maybe it's possible and better to work part time since you also study, but seeing as the money you will make working will go towards one of the biggest investments that you can ever make in yourself, I hope that you won't think of it so much as wasting your day. But it is notoriously hard for people like us to work and keep jobs due to our state, it's much easier said and thought about than done. The good news is that you can work with your counselor on a work/life/school balance that will hopefully not leave your studies on the back burner.

People here are mostly underpaid and we can't work part time and here people aren't paid according to hours, we have to work whole day with little salary. If I take up a job, I'll completely destroy my studies.

It sounds like a good idea to have your initial visit with the counselor. Don't make any hasty decisions on anything yet, but if you like the experience with that professional, then you can decide whether you're going to go again, if you should get that job after all in order to afford future meetings, and everything else. But no matter what you decide, I wish you lots of luck! I really hope you can heal and recover by the means that work for you.

I wanna ask, how many sessions do we have to do in a month? I am asking so that I can calculate the costs and check if I can actually afford it otherwise I won't start therapy.
Thanks for the good wishes, hoping the same for you!

 

[UsagiDrop]

People here are mostly underpaid and we can't work part time and here people aren't paid according to hours

This sucks, honestly. I can only hope that you're able to at least keep afloat with your studies in this situation, but I'm sorry that this is what you have to go through to get by in life.

how many sessions do we have to do in a month?

However many you can afford! There are four weeks in a month, so you can do up to four meetings a month, but you don't have to. Your counselor may suggest seeing you a certain number of times a month but it is never mandatory to do that, I don't think. If you can only afford to go once a month, or once every two weeks, that's a lot better than nothing.

 

[a.fool]

This sucks, honestly. I can only hope that you're able to at least keep afloat with your studies in this situation, but I'm sorry that this is what you have to go through to get by in life.

However many you can afford! There are four weeks in a month, so you can do up to four meetings a month, but you don't have to. Your counselor may suggest seeing you a certain number of times a month but it is never mandatory to do that, I don't think. If you can only afford to go once a month, or once every two weeks, that's a lot better than nothing.

Ya I'll be doing once a month or twice a month. I was actually going to fix appointment yesterday but right now my parents don't have money so I'll be taking therapy next month after my dad is paid I guess.

 

[pasho25000]

you should at least try and see how it goes