gizzreid
spence
- Apr 26, 2023
- 140
so i've posted a few times here last month about how my partner basically ghosted me, the reason being my fault but i personally do not find ghosting acceptable unless your safety is on the line (theirs was not which they agreed with ofc) we ended up working it out long story short and have been doing really good but i ended up just breaking down about the ghosting thing yesterday because i hadn't told him at all how broken it left me and how it re-traumatized me since my abuser did the same thing. partner ended up basically doubling down and only apologized for how it made me feel rather than ghosting because in their mind, ghosting in that case at least is completely justifiable. why they couldn't just dump me, i don't know. apparently, it wasn't even space they wanted, they 100% intended to never speak to me again.
i've realized that i am never gonna get over it. they assured me that it'd never happen again as long as we are healthy and that he loves me but it just doesn't matter to me. they ghosted me, they abandoned me like everyone else. they weren't even gonna come back had i not messaged them. i love them but i just cannot see them the same, but i also don't plan on living without them. i was gonna CTB either way but now i've decided i'm gonna do it as soon as i go to a concert on june 8 for my favorite band, then i'm gonna break up with them (and tell them why, citing the ghosting thing) and after i am assured that they will not contact me again (i always reply, so if i CTB and then he texts me it'll be very concerning) i will do it. not trying to do some revenge thing on them, i just cannot keep up a relationship knowing i can be ghosted at any time, if he's capable of it once he's capable of it again, and i already planned on doing this at some point, this just gives me a timeframe.
i've realized that i am never gonna get over it. they assured me that it'd never happen again as long as we are healthy and that he loves me but it just doesn't matter to me. they ghosted me, they abandoned me like everyone else. they weren't even gonna come back had i not messaged them. i love them but i just cannot see them the same, but i also don't plan on living without them. i was gonna CTB either way but now i've decided i'm gonna do it as soon as i go to a concert on june 8 for my favorite band, then i'm gonna break up with them (and tell them why, citing the ghosting thing) and after i am assured that they will not contact me again (i always reply, so if i CTB and then he texts me it'll be very concerning) i will do it. not trying to do some revenge thing on them, i just cannot keep up a relationship knowing i can be ghosted at any time, if he's capable of it once he's capable of it again, and i already planned on doing this at some point, this just gives me a timeframe.
