how would you say goodbye to family, friends and people you love before dying?

[killrockstars]

whats the best way to say goodbye to everyone you know before dying, is there a beautiful way to do it?

 

[certified_idiot]

I think it depends on your relationship to these people. Try not to make it too obvious that you're saying goodbye, or they might call an ambulance. A scheduled email might work.

Personally, I don't really have anyone I really want to say goodbye to. I might send an email to my sister and/or friends, but it wouldn't be that dramatic. I'd put all my reasoning for my suicide in a note attached to my corpse.

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

idk. depends on how i go out. if i live long and die in hospice or something, id like to sing binks sake with them. if i ctb then i probably won't bother leaving a note or a goodbye or anything

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think it would be too obvious if I did- seeing as I've largely lost contact with people. I'll have to rely on a note to try and say what I want to.

 

[LilGhost]

whats the best way to say goodbye to everyone you know before dying, is there a beautiful way to do it?

was planning on making gifts for my friends, but ended up making only for one. Dont have powers to do more. For extra points, if you can crochet, you can add some note with wishes inside of the plushie for them to discover one day.

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I don't plan on it. It's going to be bad enough when you ctb, why add on to the pressure? Plus, if you don't act on ctb quick enough, they'll probably have you sanctioned.

 

[FoxSauce]

Depends If Im planning it (im considering it)
Do some letters or a video.

If it is impulsive then idk nothing ill try to leave something if I can

 

[WhyMe123]

whats the best way to say goodbye to everyone you know before dying, is there a beautiful way to do it?

Personally, I have a friend who knows that I want to CTB and he gave up on trying to help me and because he knows what it's like to be suicidal - he said he's just going to be there for me - so I am entrusting him to communicate with some friends and family members when I go.

My plan is to send him a scheduled email the day after I CTB because I don't want to tell him in the moment in case he tries to call the police or something.
When someone dies, it takes a few days for their body to start decomposing so I would want someone to know right away.
I would tell him where I'm at (it will be in a park in a tent)

Then, in the email, I would have documents of letters that I would want sent to people.

Then again, I also know that sometimes CTB attempts fail and so I think sending this on the next day might not be so good because it could be a false alarm for people, and I wouldn't want anyone to know that I had attempted and was still alive.

So I'm also considering just sending scheduled emails perhaps a week later after my attempt.
Maybe with a video too.
Hoping that I won't be in a coma or critical condition in the hospital for longer than that if I do survive.

That being said, if you live with people or family, I think a good way of leaving this physical realm is to also make sure that you leave the place tidy as as much as possible. I'm in the process of giving away a bunch of my things so that my family will have less stuff to deal with.

But yeah, for the documents, I was considering getting some photos as well and expressing my gratitude for all the ways that my loved ones have made me feel loved and made my life worth living while things were good.

I think people always appreciate being acknowledged and gratitude - so even though it would be bittersweet because obviously you're not there anymore once they read it - I think it's better than leaving nothing.

Also, I was planning on leaving a general note for anyone that is curious on 'Why I Ended My Life' because apparently one of the sources of suffering for people that have lost a loved one to CTB is not understanding why it happened.

At least having a sense of why someone ended it might provide some kind of closure.
I was also going to emphasize that, even though some people have tried to help me - unfortunately sometimes people can't be saved and it's out of our control and I hope that nobody feels responsible for how things turned out for me. Often people can feel guilty and responsible for someone's death if they feel like they could've done more or checked in more, etc.

Finally - I was thinking of having 'final goodbye' with some people who know I am planning to CTB so we can exchange some of our fave memories together or something but idk how this would go irl cuz they might just want to convince me out of it if we hang out..
Maybe just making some special plans with people and not letting them know that you plan to CTB & just enjoying the moment..
Then in the goodbye letter letting them know that you didn't want to tell them & just enjoy a nice final memory together..? Idk it's a tricky puzzle…

Hope that helps!
Good luck!!

 

[nobody_oac]

If I had the urge to leave a note behind, most of time I don't, it would be one sentence.

"I hope you have the life you deserve."