Discussion How would you get back at your abuser for traumatizing you?

[yoomi]

My dad traumatized me mentally for almost 13 years and never apologized for a single thing. If you could, how would
you get back at your abuser if you coul

 

[Gaga786]

Honestly, I don't think I'll ever be able to do anything. I've to face the reality: im helpless while they have all the power. No one would listen or care regarding what I say. I just get the mentally ill card thrown at me

 

[yoomi]

Honestly, I don't think I'll ever be able to do anything. I've to face the reality: im helpless while they have all the power. No one would listen or care regarding what I say. I just get the mentally ill card thrown at me

You are who you are and no one cam take that away from you. You have people here (including me) who are more than gladly to help you. Your abuser does not define you!

 

[Gaga786]

You are who you are and no one cam take that away from you. You have people here (including me) who are more than gladly to help you. Your abuser does not define you!

Thank you, but I feel like I'm just broken. My abusers are all thriving, whereas im a mess. It's like they used me for their own pleasure and then threw me away as if I was some toy to them. I have no future unlike them.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm sure that the person who caused so many problems for me in childhood was/is a narcissist. I think it's incredibly dangerous to provoke or challenge a narcissist. They are master manipulators. They've been humuliating, bullying and gaslighting people all their lives. I simply don't think it's a battle you can win. I don't think they feel remorse. They will just twist things in their own head, everyone elses head- and they'll try and make you doubt yourself so that they come out as the victim in all this. Far better I think to get the hell out. Cut all ties and do your best to not be involved with them again. Of course- that's much harder when it's a parent- I'm sorry.

 

[yoomi]

Thank you, but I feel like I'm just broken. My abusers are all thriving, whereas im a mess. It's like they used me for their own pleasure and then threw me away as if I was some toy to them. I have no future unlike them.

Have you tried reaching out to a therapist?

 

[Gaga786]

Have you tried reaching out to a therapist?

I have reached out to 10 different therapists. I was told to practice deep breathing and role-play as my abuser and apparently I should take notice of each chew when eating, which obviously didn't work. I was gaslighted and hurt more in the process by being treated as if I'm mentally ill. It's so funny that I have to waste money on therapy and my time whereas my abusers don't have any consequences and live amazing lives. I've lost all faith in the mental health system, it's just a way to make money and victim blame us further

 

[yoomi]

I have reached out to 10 different therapists. I was told to practice deep breathing and role-play as my abuser and apparently I should take notice of each chew when eating, which obviously didn't work. I was gaslighted and hurt more in the process by being treated as if I'm mentally ill. It's so funny that I have to waste money on therapy and my time whereas my abusers don't have any consequences and live amazing lives. I've lost all faith in the mental health system, it's just a way to make money and victim blame us further

I'm so sorry to hear that, I wish you manage to find a way to release the pain. Please PM me if you need someone to talk to

 

[venin]

My dad traumatized me mentally for almost 13 years and never apologized for a single thing. If you could, how would
you get back at your abuser if you coul

How would you?

 

[NoHorizon]

Thank you, but I feel like I'm just broken. My abusers are all thriving, whereas im a mess. It's like they used me for their own pleasure and then threw me away as if I was some toy to them. I have no future unlike them.

This is very relatable to me. It feels horrible to know my abuser is living a happy, normal life after breaking me forever.

 

[Gaga786]

This is very relatable to me. It feels horrible to know my abuser is living a happy, normal life after breaking me forever.

Yep, it's the worst feeling in the world. Im sorry:(

 

[yoomi]

How would you?

I wish I could traumatize him by back by CTBing in front of him or something along those lines. I'm really not sure.. That's why I made this discussion :)

 

[Gaga786]

I'm so sorry to hear that, I wish you manage to find a way to release the pain. Please PM me if you need someone to talk to

Thank you. I wish you the best, you can also PM me if you need anyone to talk to

 

[venin]

I wish I could traumatize him by back by CTBing in front of him or something along those lines. I'm really not sure.. That's why I made this discussion :)

Ahh, ok
Honestly, nothing would ever compensate the time I've lost because of that and the horrible things that the abuse caused, so…

I wish I hadn't gone through that in the first place and also I wish abuse weren't even possible on this BULLSHIT PLANET.

Yep, it's the worst feeling in the world. Im sorry:(

It's one of the most bitter aspects about abuse

 

[wristcutangel]

i wish i could just kill them. if not, then at least traumatize them too. i want to burn myself into their memory, the same way they've done to me.

 

[Dreamer]

Blackmailing maybe. Create a fake account larping as an attractive girl and intitiate an e-relationship. When he sends me explicit pictures I'll re-send them to his family, friends and acquaintances, after begging me not to.

 

[painful existence]

By stealing his or her Peking Duck.

This is not a place for trolling unless you are a complete asshole.You keep commenting random nonsense in the comments.People in this community are already suffering enough and don't need someone to increase their misery.
If you can't say something helpful then try not to comment.

 

[CW36]

This is not a place for trolling unless you are a complete asshole.You keep commenting random nonsense in the comments.People in this community are already suffering enough and don't need someone to increase their misery.
If you can't say something helpful then try not to comment.

Calling someone an arsehole is not childish at all. You don't have a very good grasp of the English language, but nevermind. I've helped a lot more people on this forum than you have kiddo. Stop being a keyboard warrior and work on your temperament.

 

[painful existence]

My dad traumatized me mentally for almost 13 years and never apologized for a single thing. If you could, how would
you get back at your abuser if you coul

Forgive not because they deserve forgiveness.Forgive because you deserve peace .To be honest I was traumatized by an individual who had bullied me a lot.I often fantasized about beating him and dragging him through streets.There was one time when I had a chance to hurt him and I did but that didn't make me satisfied.It further increased those feelings.So I decided one day to try to forgive him(not because of he deserved forgiveness) but because I didn't deserve to be tortured by him even when he was out of my life.I think it was hard in the beginning but eventually I felt much better.Those thoughts disappeared and I wasn't his prisoner anymore.

Calling someone an arsehole is not childish at all. You don't have a very good grasp of the English language, but nevermind. I've helped a lot more people on this forum than you have kiddo. Stop being a keyboard warrior and work on your temperament.

You are commenting random nonsense in comments section of someone who is seeking help with abuse from her father.Do you think this is the right place to be making jokes?Your actions make it completely justifiable to call you an asshole.Also English isn't my first language still I am able to communicate in English quite well.Even if I didn't have a good grasp of English language that wouldn't make my argument any less valid .

Calling someone an arsehole is not childish at all. You don't have a very good grasp of the English language, but nevermind. I've helped a lot more people on this forum than you have kiddo. Stop being a keyboard warrior and work on your temperament.

I read your comment about Hubba Bubba gum as well .You must be so funny.I cannot stop laughing.
A person is seeking help with what should be done in the last moments of their life and what you comment there "Hubba Bubba gum".Real funny and real helpful

 

[yoomi]

Forgive not because they deserve forgiveness.Forgive because you deserve peace .To be honest I was traumatized by an individual who had bullied me a lot.I often fantasized about beating him and dragging him through streets.There was one time when I had a chance to hurt him and I did but that didn't make me satisfied.It further increased those feelings.So I decided one day to try to forgive him(not because of he deserved forgiveness) but because I didn't deserve to be tortured by him even when he was out of my life.I think it was hard in the beginning but eventually I felt much better.Those thoughts disappeared and I wasn't his prisoner anymore.

You are commenting random nonsense in comments section of someone who is seeking help with abuse from her father.Do you think this is the right place to be making jokes?Your actions make it completely justifiable to call you an asshole.Also English isn't my first language still I am able to communicate in English quite well.Even if I didn't have a good grasp of English language that wouldn't make my argument any less valid .

I'm really glad you overcame it and broke free, I hope karma get them in the future. You deserve way better

 

[Orbitc]

My only dream is to physically cripple those whom I hate - I want to cut out their eyes, cut out their tongues, cut off their hands so that they become miserable invalids and shit in bed and can't even wipe their asses. That every day would be hell. But I don't have the money to hire bandits. I'm unhappy just because I can't get revenge.

 

[burglarlydante]

I feel you my pal, I've spoken to my abuser yesterday and never felt so down
Feeling like killing myself today or any of this things.
My OCD fucks me up and magical thinking is getting me insane, never been worse.
I feel depressed and paranoid about losing my loved ones due to my depression, PTSD, OCD and anxiety paranoia endless thoughts.
I cannot take this life anymore.
So I've decided to isolate myself and fake a recovery.
So I can finally end my torment.

 

[bunnyswatership]

A life well lived. But thats for people who have "bettered themselves". I don't want what happened to me on anyone but I would want them to relive every nightmare I had about them. Not the acts itself but the aftermath. The shame, feeling you'll never me clean again, the shitty people you ment after because you thought in was "normal". The hours of self harming but never and on the peace you had from it. Every hour of everyday non stop memories. Can't think of anything worse

 

[Unattainable666]

Is castration an option?

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I hate to say this, especially on a "suicide" forum, but it has been said that the best "revenge" is accomplished by living well.

 

[Suspect_Device]

Blackmail them into giving me all their money and property, and then bulldoze their house, then pay someone to throw acid in their face. They would completely deserve it too.

 

[Touhou]

I think killing/blackmailing/maiming/etc them is uncivilized. I'd prefer to get back at them by filing a police report & fucking them over via the legal system.

i wish i could just kill them. if not, then at least traumatize them too. i want to burn myself into their memory, the same way they've done to me.

Isn't killing people against the law?

Blackmail them into giving me all their money and property, and then bulldoze their house, then pay someone to throw acid in their face. They would completely deserve it too.

That's against the law as well.

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This is not a place for trolling unless you are a complete asshole.You keep commenting random nonsense in the comments.People in this community are already suffering enough and don't need someone to increase their misery.
If you can't say something helpful then try not to comment.

The irony of calling someone a troll and then proceeding to say they're an asshole. This forum's supposed to be a safe space for struggling people & you're instead choosing to taint it with your negativity & namecalling.

 

[CW36]

Forgive not because they deserve forgiveness.Forgive because you deserve peace .To be honest I was traumatized by an individual who had bullied me a lot.I often fantasized about beating him and dragging him through streets.There was one time when I had a chance to hurt him and I did but that didn't make me satisfied.It further increased those feelings.So I decided one day to try to forgive him(not because of he deserved forgiveness) but because I didn't deserve to be tortured by him even when he was out of my life.I think it was hard in the beginning but eventually I felt much better.Those thoughts disappeared and I wasn't his prisoner anymore.

You are commenting random nonsense in comments section of someone who is seeking help with abuse from her father.Do you think this is the right place to be making jokes?Your actions make it completely justifiable to call you an asshole.Also English isn't my first language still I am able to communicate in English quite well.Even if I didn't have a good grasp of English language that wouldn't make my argument any less valid .

I read your comment about Hubba Bubba gum as well .You must be so funny.I cannot stop laughing.
A person is seeking help with what should be done in the last moments of their life and what you comment there "Hubba Bubba gum".Real funny and real helpful