how to stop feeling

[rocksnrocks]

i don't want to feel so much anymore. i get so attached to people who leave or are never who i want them to be and every time it fucking destroys me and consumes me and i don't want to do this anymore i want to stop feeling i don't want to feel anything anymore please how do i make it stop

 

[Alpenglow]

Drugs. I mean that as a joke but also somewhat not, anti depressants could help or whatever a psychiatrist could prescribe you.

As for getting attached to people, I don't really know myself. I just kind of expect nothing. It's a defence mechanism, maybe the one you're looking for. Can't feel bad if nothing was meant to happen in the first place.

 

[rocksnrocks]

Drugs. I mean that as a joke but also somewhat not, anti depressants could help or whatever a psychiatrist could prescribe you.

As for getting attached to people, I don't really know myself. I just kind of expect nothing. It's a defence mechanism, maybe the one you're looking for. Can't feel bad if nothing was meant to happen in the first place.

i've been on antidepressants and on other meds for my bipolar/depression. nothing helps. i may be getting them upped soon so we'll see if that does anything.

i'm trying to do that but i genuinely get so tied to people it's fucking exhausting. i'm trying to not expect anything but i can't help it yk,

 

[Alpenglow]

i've been on antidepressants and on other meds for my bipolar/depression. nothing helps. i may be getting them upped soon so we'll see if that does anything.

i'm trying to do that but i genuinely get so tied to people it's fucking exhausting. i'm trying to not expect anything but i can't help it yk,

Maybe I could be more specific if I understood more, what/when do you start expecting something? Tbh I do still expect something, some bare minimum of adult competency. It's impressive that sometimes I'm still disappointed, I find it funny, because the alternative is misery. So maybe gaslighting yourself would also help lol

 

[rocksnrocks]

Maybe I could be more specific if I understood more, what/when do you start expecting something? Tbh I do still expect something, some bare minimum of adult competency. It's impressive that sometimes I'm still disappointed, I find it funny, because the alternative is misery. So maybe gaslighting yourself would also help lol

i mean i start expecting, like you said, the bare minimum basically at the start of anything. every time im convinced that they're going to be different, but they never are. it would be nice to catch a break and find someone who can treat me like they actually like me lmao. i've tried just not seeking anything out but that's somehow worse. so im just stuck in this cycle of getting attached and disappointed over and over lol.

but yea maybe gaslighting myself will work, or i can keep working at keeping my expectations low lmao idk

 

[-nobodyknows-]

I really struggle with attachment too. I think it's because they help so much, and I become reliant on them. Unfortunately, I get too clingy and drive them away when they start to realize how messed up I really am.

 

[Alpenglow]

i mean i start expecting, like you said, the bare minimum basically at the start of anything. every time im convinced that they're going to be different, but they never are. it would be nice to catch a break and find someone who can treat me like they actually like me lmao. i've tried just not seeking anything out but that's somehow worse. so im just stuck in this cycle of getting attached and disappointed over and over lol.

but yea maybe gaslighting myself will work, or i can keep working at keeping my expectations low lmao idk

What's the bare minimum for you?

 

[rocksnrocks]

What's the bare minimum for you?

i get everything perfect for about a day and i'm just breadcrumbed after that. i'd just like someone to show that they're interested in me and im not just an afterthought to them when they're all i'm thinking about?

maybe im asking for too much but i feel like ive lowered my standards to the point where the bar is in hell and i am still disappointed. crashed out and tried just doing hu without strings but that was just a bad coping mechanism and it doesn't work either bc i still feel too deeply, so