AA Alcoholics Anonymous meetings seem to help many people but in my opinion u must figure out why the pain, why are u needing to drink. Yea there's certainly dependency but that's actually not the real issue believe or not. I say this all the time because I do think it helps a lot. Start to journal most days of the week for as long as u can. Just write don't think too much or worry wat comes out or if punctuation is bad etc. You are suppressing what u are feeling inside with alcohol or avoiding uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. Make sure if u do journal the pen u use is really good like a zebra ball point otherwise those cheap pens will make u not want to lol! Get a spiral cheap college ruled notebook. Put a date at the top of each day. This won't necessarily cure the drinking but u will process things that lead u to want to drink.
Also u can try a new habit or hobby that happens wen u most want to drink. I notice that there's certain times I want to use more than other times. If u just try to quit or reduce your use it likely won't work so don't beat yourself up if u cannot at this time stop or lessen your use. This is why I think u have to deal with whatever is making u want to and then also change some habits. Loneliness can cause it too so this is why those alcoholic meetings come in. You can feel lonely even if u are with a partner. The problem with the alcoholic meetings is it feels like once u start going it's important to be consistent otherwise the people in there don't really know u or trust u. It's kind of like u have to become part of it and then people go out of their way more for u. You may not feel all that welcome initially until those pple see that u are serious about quitting. They encourage u to get a sponsor to help u get structure and so u will have help preventing relapse and change whatever needs to change in order for u to stay sober.
Also u can try a new habit or hobby that happens wen u most want to drink. I notice that there's certain times I want to use more than other times. If u just try to quit or reduce your use it likely won't work so don't beat yourself up if u cannot at this time stop or lessen your use. This is why I think u have to deal with whatever is making u want to and then also change some habits. Loneliness can cause it too so this is why those alcoholic meetings come in. You can feel lonely even if u are with a partner. The problem with the alcoholic meetings is it feels like once u start going it's important to be consistent otherwise the people in there don't really know u or trust u. It's kind of like u have to become part of it and then people go out of their way more for u. You may not feel all that welcome initially until those pple see that u are serious about quitting. They encourage u to get a sponsor to help u get structure and so u will have help preventing relapse and change whatever needs to change in order for u to stay sober.
