How to get over someone who treated you like crap?

[JustHeckinKillMe]

Please?I feel like garbage

 

[WhiteDespair]

Can you explain?

 

[Sherri]

If it was someone you loved even if that person treated you bad, but you still love her\him. Only time will heal that wound. If that is what you are talking about. Hugs.

 

[kitch]

I've been holding on to resentment and bitterness about other people in relation to me for years.

It's been a total waste .

I need to reframe it to include where they are coming from .

They were not put on this earth to fascilitate a smooth ride for me ...
No-one was .

Only people we care for can hurt us ?
Maybe realizing we care for them in ways that they don't care for us , and that is the way things are .

I put people in impossible positions of impossible emotional availability in the past ... in my mind I expected them to behave in a certain way ... I was just losing the plot and my reality model was distorted .
I'm BPD I guess .... so my reality is populated with strangely flutuating emotional boundaries and expectations that flow through me with no rational control.

I'm not saying "take the balme , it is your fault" NO.
I'm saying , look at things relatively ... an issue at the centre of your Universe may be something quite peripheral to another's experience.