How to get over a break up?

[NothingElseMatters]

My girlfriend broke up with me and she is with another man right now and it makes me feel terrible.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, give it time, find a distraction. This is basically it. Time is the most important factor.

 

[Cancún]

Find another girl

 

[itsamadworld]

Delete her messages, delete her number, block her ass on social media, write her name on a ceramic plate, and some curses you want attached to her and break it....but don't do anything that will land you in jail or prison......no broe or hoe is worth that shit, imo....

 

[xalltoowell]

Delete/block on social media. It seems petty, but not being able to see anything they're up to really does help you heal!

 

[Pryras]

Don't check on her, as tempting as it can be. I didn't listen and when I checked on him it reopened old wounds, they were fresh again and I was hurting bad. No matter HOW much you liked someone, it's important to choose people you choose YOU. We always ignore that when we're in love but step back and put yourself first.
I was left for someone else twice, hurt the first time and you can imagine how it felt the second time. It sucks but you are enough for the right person

 

[Halnas]

Focus on yourself. Get some hobby, work out, go hiking, join some community like church or chapel or some neighborhood club.
Anything that helps you to improve yourself is good.
Don't jump into another relationship straight away. It might be a good distraction, but it's destined to fail because you still have your Ex in your head.

And what all previous posters said. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her immediately.

 

[Final Escape]

Make sure u watch some coach lee on YouTube. There's other people on there too on what to do now. Do not beg and plead, go no contact. Also the lovechat gives advice on how to handle this. You might be able to get her back but u need to know how to handle this otherwise u can fuck it up. I'm not saying u should want her back but those videos will help u so much right now. Watch them every day to keep u strong. I really like coach lee especially.

 

[Final Escape]

 

[GoneGoneGone]

Basically pretty much what everyone already said. In the moment it feels like a catastrophe and that you will never be able to recover, because you lose part of your identity. But gradually the memory of them fades away (harder now with social media but not impossible), and you make other meaningful connections.

I am one of the proponents of jumping into a rebound relationship, but this is my personal choice. It helps me to remember (when it happens) all the bad stuff from the previous relationship, and to focus on all the good stuff that the new person does.

 

[SleeplessSoul]

It seems like a really unhelpful thing to say that the best thing to help is time. I remember when my fiancee broke me with me last year (2 months before our wedding) someone said to me that it would take time and I was so frustrated. 13 months later, it feels weird that I had such an intense love for someone. At first it was incredibly painful and I had no idea how I would move on, but I found a new place to live, started volunteering somewhere and explored my other interests they had either neglected or had never really done before. I archived all our photos together on instagram. I'm pretty sure I deleted all the tweets she was in/about her. She started dating a mutual friend so I deleted my facebook and got a new one without them on it. That bit was probably overkill but I'd wanted a new one anyway. It's up to you if you want to rebound or not, personally I knew it would make me feel worse so I didn't. Obviously don't do it right now if you're still in lockdown!

 

[NothingElseMatters]

I've spent the whole night awake in bed just thinking and realizing how shitty is my life and how no one gives a damn about me.

 

[SleeplessSoul]

I wish I could tell you that it's all going to be okay, but I can't. I have found this forum such a good community though! You can always PM me if you want

 

[Walilamdzi]

I've never been good at that.