How long would family want you to try before CTB

[Tally]

There has been a couple of couple of threads and some comments about being able to discuss suicide with family.

I'm curious - if your family asked you to "try" (whatever that may mean to you) for a certain length of time, after which they would understand your passing, how long would you be willing to give?

I'm rather in this position, so interested on peoples thoughts.

Thanks

 

[OnlyMercy]

My situation is somewhat similar but I'm giving it a year MAX for things to get better. Of course I'm trying different things and trying to improve my health in the time being.

 

[sunny.sativa]

My parents would never. ever. ever. be okay with me killing myself. Absolutely not. If I asked them, they'd probably knock me out lmao

 

[Tally]

My situation is somewhat similar but I'm giving it a year MAX for things to get better. Of course I'm trying different things and trying to improve my health in the time being.

I hope that you find the strength and life to get beter

 

[want to die 25]

It's depent on the family member. My mother understand that I have problems. She feels guilty because of her part in this.

She don't like it, but she promised me that she won't keep me alive if I'm in hospital and can't talk and they could close the machines. I think if I would tell her that I will suicide know she wouldn't call the ambulance. But in case I'm wrong I don't do it. We are not really close.

And my father said after my first attempt that suicide is natural selection of this that are to weak and are only in the way.

So I guess he will be happy if I manage it

 

[Dan23]

I posted a thread on this the other day..

We agreed on a year ( me and my mom) , for her to process it and prepare. And "trying" meant eating better and exercising and going with the doctor's recommendations regarding medications.

But, really, I have only been overweight since being on horrible meds in the past.

Was severely depressed for two straight years and was super skinny and eating healthy, so really this whole " trying " thing is bogus.

Back then, I just didn't know there were painless ways of going.

But, I told her a year, so I feel I should honor it..

But who knows., as she sees me deteriorating more and more every day, I think she will understand if the time comes sooner.

 

[JadedGray]

I would be willing to give it 2 years since my last attempt. They already know that I'm going to eventually anyways, but I want to make it seem like I made an effort to improve since my last attempt, which was last year.

 

[Mbound]

Nah my parents are the endless positivity type, they'd always say there's something new I could try.

 

[Donewitheverything]

The only way my mom would possibly be okay with me ctb is if I were terminally ill and in excruciating pain. For one, I'm going to be dead anyhow, so why should I spend my last few moments in pain?

 

[MAC10]

My family is the last of my worries in terms of ctb

 

[dandan]

I was suicidal and threaten to kill myself
about, around, 13 years ago... I was 23 I think...
im
36 today...
I've made many attempts to get better
means:
excercise
eating healthy
working
therapy
medications - or not
rehab
etc...

im about to start ( or at least I think I do) to start a last attempt to be okay... (and stop any CTB actions)

 

[deathenvoy]

I tried to recover for 2 years and I am done. My mother will never accept my decision unfortunately but I cannot go longer anymore.

 

[OnlyMercy]

I tried to recover for 2 years and I am done. My mother will never accept my decision unfortunately but I cannot go longer anymore.

Atleast she saw you gave life your best shot but unfortunately everyone has a breaking point. I hope it helps her recover from your passing.

 

[dandan]

My parents would never. ever. ever. be okay with me killing myself. Absolutely not. If I asked them, they'd probably knock me out lmao

c'mon my friend, this didn't happened overnight for me....

its been 20 years of having a battle with depression and bipolar, and many issues or certain things.... so it happens, and its like this

but I wish I felt good and have a good life.

 

[HappyEnding]

I'm not sure. I've never discussed that with them. They just know I self-harm. Yesterday my mother says she'll keep a close eye on me and she's afraid to let me move out in case I commit suicide in my own home (I stayed silent when she said that). She also said this might land her in an early grave but I mean, I'm tired of anxiety, trauma, nightmares, cutting myself, and crying multiple times a day. I wanted to feel something when she said that but it's probably depression that's causing me to lack care and empathy toward it. I'm going either way and if my death does cause her's, then I wish her the best in the afterlife if there is one.

 

[ForeverDefective]

Forever, they think "it may get better", dosent matter if you suffer for 80 years(and already know that this will be the outcome) because the possibility of future joy is more important then present suffering(and the potential for future suffering as well) and "you have to keep trying to get there".

 

[dandan]

Atleast she saw you gave life your best shot but unfortunately everyone has a breaking point. I hope it helps her recover from your passing.

yup, thats more or less what happened...


it has been 20 years of "trying"

and im pushing into my last attempts.. my last energies...
I have been switching between N and trying to LIVE ... and switching between that idea...

So I've decided I should make an attempt..... but I have N just in case... expires until March next year
I want to attempt some stuff

 

[discokicks]

it'll hurt my family and that destroys me. But they know how much I've suffered. At least a decade with the last few years after being put on valium being especially painful.

 

[offshoreserver]

it'll hurt my family and that destroys me. But they know how much I've suffered. At least a decade with the last few years after being put on valium being especially painful.

did valium do something to hurt you? if this is too personal a question then there's no pressure to answer but i've been trying to get a prescription for a while for reasons unrelated to suicide and am wondering what made things worse. did you become dependent?