How do you know when it's time to go?

[PrincessInWhite]

is it ever really time to go? when the suffering no longer justifies the pride of having the courage to get through this life when you've been dealt a horrible hand? how do you know when that happens? How do you rationalize sticking around at that point?

i am tired.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

When you've let everything go.
You'll know :)

 

[Zoltiel]

When you fuck up your life bad enough, you'll know.

 

[Shero]

When you're not living anymore, just existing.

 

[deltahead]

I'd like to know this too.

 

[mesohappy]

is it ever really time to go? when the suffering no longer justifies the pride of having the courage to get through this life when you've been dealt a horrible hand? how do you know when that happens? How do you rationalize sticking around at that point?

i am tired.

If you are still typing and posting,you are still finding hope.When it is time for you to go,You will know.

 

[PrincessInWhite]

thank you guys. <3 I suppose you are right. I am so grateful for this community.

 

[Jean4]

When you love someone and they love you back... and the pain is greater than the love.

 

[Broken Chimera]

When your life goes wrong and stays that way to the point where you don't even care if it gets better or not, you'll know.

 

[Dude1983]

For me its time when there´s no more options left to improve ur problem, and ur problem is too big to live with. Sadly i think i am so close to that point in my life, but anyway, u are who have to decide when its the moment.
I rationalize sticking arroung like nothing is happening, try to enjoy the few things i still can enjoy, try not to torture (even emotional separation if needed) myself about leaving my loved ones.
No good bye is better than a sad good bye.
But im sure there´s an after life, so may be its not so bad (to think u are going to die) if u think this way.

and , yea i guess most of us are exhausted.

 

[AlreadyGone]

When you finally realize life is hopeless and not worth living.

 

[Bandzbandz]

To be honest, I think "going" is a combination of impulse, planning, and numbness.
Some days you may be numb but not impulsive and would be too scared to leap into the unknown.
Other days you'll want to do it on an itch but you would be too irrational to plan and execute it properly.
And for those who manage to do it: maybe its all three, and maybe its just careful planning with endless pain experienced by living their lives.

 

[LMLN]

I think for me I will know once I've tried everything I can to improve without success.
Right now I'm giving myself more time to heal. I'm also trying different meds and have also gotten a pet to see if that will help me. I'm also trying to reach out more to others for help when I need support.
If none of this improves things and I still cannot see hope then I will know and have peace that it is time.
I still do not know how long to give this. But at some point I think i will grow weary and not be able to do it anymore. At the moment I'm really only living for others, to prevent them from suffering. But that can only go on for so long.
At this point I will reevaluate this summer before making any decisions. For me, this is the process that's right. But everyone is different.
Keep coming here if you need to! We all understand. ❤

 

[Jean4]

I think for me I will know once I've tried everything I can to improve without success.
Right now I'm giving myself more time to heal. I'm also trying different meds and have also gotten a pet to see if that will help me. I'm also trying to reach out more to others for help when I need support.
If none of this improves things and I still cannot see hope then I will know and have peace that it is time.
I still do not know how long to give this. But at some point I think i will grow weary and not be able to do it anymore. At the moment I'm really only living for others, to prevent them from suffering. But that can only go on for so long.
At this point I will reevaluate this summer before making any decisions. For me, this is the process that's right. But everyone is different.
Keep coming here if you need to! We all understand. ❤

You know I'm here for you. ;)

 

[LMLN]

You know I'm here for you. ;)

And me for you!

 

[TAW122]

When you reached a point where you have decided enough is enough. In other words, doing all that you can to improve your situation, failing horribly or falling short of achieving your goals and objectives, then letting go of that (irrational) hope that things will improve. For me, it would be a combination of three things to push me towards CTB'ing. Mainly exhausting all options with nothing to look forward to, already rationalized death and exhausted all copes (including a realization of how shit everything is and how I can't change certain things), and finally, a strong enough catalyst after the first two things have occurred, to push me over the edge to CTB.

 

[PrincessInWhite]

I think for me I will know once I've tried everything I can to improve without success.
Right now I'm giving myself more time to heal. I'm also trying different meds and have also gotten a pet to see if that will help me. I'm also trying to reach out more to others for help when I need support.
If none of this improves things and I still cannot see hope then I will know and have peace that it is time.
I still do not know how long to give this. But at some point I think i will grow weary and not be able to do it anymore. At the moment I'm really only living for others, to prevent them from suffering. But that can only go on for so long.
At this point I will reevaluate this summer before making any decisions. For me, this is the process that's right. But everyone is different.
Keep coming here if you need to! We all understand. ❤

I am so, so proud of you for trying all you can. That is true courage.

 

[LMLN]

I am so, so proud of you for trying all you can. That is true courage.

I feel it's me being a coward...too scared yet to ctb. :) But I guess that means I'm not ready.

 

[Jean4]

I feel it's me being a coward...too scared yet to ctb. :) But I guess that means I'm not ready.

Nope. When you are ready, there are no doubts ;)