Venting How do you guys manage college/uni?

[sixthgun]

I feel like I'm so behind everyone else. I have an assignment due at midnight and I've done one singular paragraph for it. I feel like I can't tell any of my teachers what's going on without looking like an attention seeker. I'm supposed to be receiving support from SEND because I have both physical and mental health issues. I applied for it literally the first day of college (September 2nd) and I still don't have it. My teachers don't seem to understand that I need these accommodations to actually get my work done. I feel like I'm being so needy/entitled and it just makes me not be alive anymore so that I'm not inconveniencing everyone like I am right now. How on Earth are people managing like this??

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I am currently barely able to manage it. I have to do well on my last philosophy assignment and on my exam for that class since I am going to have 25% docked off my grade due to my not participating in class (talking to others scares me) and not having done an assignment (couldn't muster up the motivation to do it). The class participation would not have been an issue if it weren't for me not signing up for an IEP this time around. I had one throughout grade 8 and up until my last year of high school for issues regarding speaking in front of the class and for some reason I didn't bother applying for one in uni. I regret it. I'm also behind on my other classes and need to catch up. Surprisingly enough, it seems like the class I'm doing the best in is cognitive neuroscience, which is surprising since it's my hardest course. I think it's because I have no assignments for that class. Just exams.

 

[alienfreak]

I got through it only by abusing drugs, especially opiates. Also by taking twice as long as normal to graduate, and choosing classes that didnt require in person attendance. It was pointless and i wish i didnt do it.

 

[Gangrel]

i didn't lol i failed literally all my classes and i could barely get up so i dropped out, biggest failure tbh

 

[TragedyBornCrimson]

I manage college by thinking about ctb. My highschool freshman self would have done way better in college than I am currently doing now. My brain is completely fogged and useless.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I just end up procrastinating by either spending my time on here (I spend a lot of time on here) or by doing something else like watching youtube videos or playing games on my phone. Only when the deadline gets near is when I start to actually work. I know this isn't good and I try to study beforehand but the issue is that I just don't have any motivation to study at all. It's so tiring. I thought that the thought of avoiding homelessness would be motivation enough for me to study but apparently not.

For my entire life I have never had any motivation to study, I just relied on my natural academic intelligence to carry me through. However, I am at the stage where I can no longer rely on my academic intelligence alone and where I have to work hard to carry myself through. The issue though is what I've already stated in the first paragraph.

I've already lost around 20% of my grades in some course units due to this. I'm so exhausted and tired. I don't want to work or study. I just want to die so that I don't have to do any of this crap ever again. Funnily enough, I was working on a report since it was due tomorrow and I decided to take a break for a short while and this is the first post that I see. That sure is an interesting phenomenon.

 

[areyousafe??]

I almost couldn't manage it. I started off doing full time, then had to reduce my hours and do part time. Even then, my psychiatrist helped me through, with his medical certificates providing me with special consideration. I wouldn't have graduated without his help

 

[TragedyBornCrimson]

I just end up procrastinating by either spending my time on here (I spend a lot of time on here) or by doing something else like watching youtube videos or playing games on my phone. Only when the deadline gets near is when I start to actually work. I know this isn't good and I try to study beforehand but the issue is that I just don't have any motivation to study at all. It's so tiring. I thought that the thought of avoiding homelessness would be motivation enough for me to study but apparently not.

For my entire life I have never had any motivation to study, I just relied on my natural academic intelligence to carry me through. However, I am at the stage where I can no longer rely on my academic intelligence alone and where I have to work hard to carry myself through. The issue though is what I've already stated in the first paragraph.

I've already lost around 20% of my grades in some course units due to this. I'm so exhausted and tired. I don't want to work or study. I just want to die so that I don't have to do any of this crap ever again. Funnily enough, I was working on a report since it was due tomorrow and I decided to take a break for a short while and this is the first post that I see. That sure is an interesting phenomenon.

Pretty much the same as me, I have lost the motivation I had while younger. I wouldn't even consider myself lazy either, it just doesn't feel worth it to me. I won't have my family deal with my weakness any longer, i'm just not cut out for life.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Uni was a while ago for me but work has equal if not more pressures. For me, it was and is the fear of failure and letting people down that motivated me.

But, I don't think you should feel embarassed to tell your teachers you are struggling. You won't be the first student who's struggled. I expect they'd prefer to know now so they can better support you. In the long-run, I think it's actually more responsible to air problems early on. It shows you are self aware and that you do want to work on them. I've told my boss in the past it was all likely to go horribly wrong soon because I just felt overwhelmed. That gives them the opportunity to provide more support though. I hope you can feel more in control soon.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I excelled in college! College actually helped me because I was so busy I didn't have time to live! I didn't have time to think about my life and attempts. I was happier but I have dysthmia so it wasn't much. I think having something to look forward to was motivating. I graduated from college 2 different times and I'm looking forward to going back next year. I don't have anything but my credentials. I don't need anything, I have everything I physically want, except happiness and someone to share it with. I use college as therapy. Maybe if you think of it in my terms it might help you.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Pretty much the same as me, I have lost the motivation I had while younger. I wouldn't even consider myself lazy either, it just doesn't feel worth it to me. I won't have my family deal with my weakness any longer, i'm just not cut out for life.

In my case, I never had any motivation to begin with. I always saw it as an obligation (which it is) and it's so exhausting having to force myself to do something that I don't want to do. I am lazy but I don't think that's a bad thing nor is it something that I should be shamed for as, once again, I was brought into this world against my consent so expecting me to want to tirelessly work (or even work at all) is just stupid

 

[TragedyBornCrimson]

I excelled in college! College actually helped me because I was so busy I didn't have time to live! I didn't have time to think about my life and attempts. I was happier but I have dysthmia so it wasn't much. I think having something to look forward to was motivating. I graduated from college 2 different times and I'm looking forward to going back next year. I don't have anything but my credentials. I don't need anything, I have everything I physically want, except happiness and someone to share it with. I use college as therapy. Maybe if you think of it in my terms it might help you.

I wish I was you bro. My life would be so much easier if I had your mindset about college

 

[iamanavalanche]

im barely coping but it does help keep my mind off how tragic life feels. im stressed out as hell but since its something im passionate about, ill dedicate a bit of time everyday for it even if i've only wrote a sentence for an essay. also letting my personal tutor and such know about my mental issues and offering me support has helped.

 

[Death is my goal]

i don't, i just keep failing

 

[lost_one]

I feel like I'm so behind everyone else. I have an assignment due at midnight and I've done one singular paragraph for it. I feel like I can't tell any of my teachers what's going on without looking like an attention seeker. I'm supposed to be receiving support from SEND because I have both physical and mental health issues. I applied for it literally the first day of college (September 2nd) and I still don't have it. My teachers don't seem to understand that I need these accommodations to actually get my work done. I feel like I'm being so needy/entitled and it just makes me not be alive anymore so that I'm not inconveniencing everyone like I am right now. How on Earth are people managing like this??

HA....Hahaha...hahahaha... I don't. I fail constantly I am paniking over the lumming treat of the TCC idk how to say in english but conclusion of graduating paper (final course work said google translate)

 

[dontwakemeup]

I wish I was you bro. My life would be so much easier if I had your mindset about college

To know me is to understand me. Basically, I was raised poor. My mom was on drugs and I was adopted. At some point in my adulthood I became homeless, I just couldn't work my depression drove me to become homeless and barely able to afford food. I told myself 2 things while in that dark space. 1. I will never be homeless and hungry again. 2. I will never be anything like my mom. I got on psych medication which helped me simply get up and function. I never did illegal drugs and I'm stable. But saying all that it's great but I'll always be unhappy and miserable. That's the motivation I used to finish college. Hope that helps. I'm not smarter then anyone, but I used my past to motivate me to a better future.

im barely coping but it does help keep my mind off how tragic life feels. im stressed out as hell but since its something im passionate about, ill dedicate a bit of time everyday for it even if i've only wrote a sentence for an essay. also letting my personal tutor and such know about my mental issues and offering me support has helped.

That's the key, keep yourself busy! Focus on your goals and set whatever is bothering you aside, trust me, it will still be there when you graduate.

HA....Hahaha...hahahaha... I don't. I fail constantly I am paniking over the lumming treat of the TCC idk how to say in english but conclusion of graduating paper (final course work said google translate)

Most successful people have failed at some time. Learn from your failures and pick yourself up and keep going! You fail once you quit. If you need to get on meds to complete college and stay focused then do whatever it takes. You can do it especially if I can.

 

[sunshine.ca]

honestly for me the accommodations have been a life saver. Don't be too hard on yourself because you don't even have the accommodations yet.

Maybe this isn't good advice but this term, nicotine and caffeine have been my saving grace for actually being able to finish my assignments. I would just worry about passing and maybe not even taking a full course load. I haven't taken a full course load ever and I'm in my third year. Don't worry about graduating on time, just try to go at your own pace.

 

[lacustra]

I have exams for my diploma in less than two months. My mind is gone. Can't remember anything. All I can think about is suicide.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

I dropped out and became a sushi chef

 

[brickedup]

i'm js braindead i barely manage through and when it does get to a point i js think that i'm gonna be dead soon that usually calms me down

 

[WhatPowerIs]

nowadays I rarely do homework when Im at home. I can only get things done when im on campus. I really hate university, it has made me more miserable, but what other choices do I have?

 

[nir]

I haven't been in uni for many years, but I coped with a lot of caffeine, some academic dishonesty (lol), getting more comfortable with the idea that C's get degrees (I used to be such a perfectionist), getting accommodations even when it was inconvenient for the prof, and only taking easy electives (my school had a subreddit where people discussed the easiest electives to take).

I still struggled a lot, but I managed to get through. I hope your accommodations come through soon though, because it's totally unfair they're taking so long with it. Can you send a follow-up email? Maybe CC your teacher/dean in it?

 

[Szarur-abi]

I don't, i've failed this year, my mental health was so bad that i just couldnt pass everything on the last year... I tried to seek help wrote e-mails to every university worker i thought could help me, but noone did in the end and noone cared even when my depression and anxiety disorder got mocked by one magister noone cared about it.

Im utter failure, currently working meaningles minimal wage job with no prospects and having no idea what the hell i should do with my life

 

[waistcoat]

through some form of black magic fuckery we're getting thru college with high 90% grades

 

[sashaphire]

I haven't attended my classes in like 3 weeks nor have I turned anything in. I'm very sure that I'm now failing every single class but even when I was trying I had like 3 C's because I'm taking 15 credit hours and was working near if not over 40 hours a week at an understaffed fast food restaurant. I got by thru cheating on basically everything (tests were in person so I failed those) and riding off that 30-minutes-before-its-due adrenaline rush for papers. Now, since I plan to be dead before the end of the semester, I stopped going to class and instead used that time to build about 15ish lego sets. Gotta make sure that time I spent working so hard wasn't wasted

 

[sixthgun]

im barely coping but it does help keep my mind off how tragic life feels. im stressed out as hell but since its something im passionate about, ill dedicate a bit of time everyday for it even if i've only wrote a sentence for an essay. also letting my personal tutor and such know about my mental issues and offering me support has helped.

Thanks, this is really helpful. A lot of the time I feel like if I write only a couple of sentences or even a paragraph I'm not doing enough, but I suppose something is better than nothing in the long run.

I haven't been in uni for many years, but I coped with a lot of caffeine, some academic dishonesty (lol), getting more comfortable with the idea that C's get degrees (I used to be such a perfectionist), getting accommodations even when it was inconvenient for the prof, and only taking easy electives (my school had a subreddit where people discussed the easiest electives to take).

I still struggled a lot, but I managed to get through. I hope your accommodations come through soon though, because it's totally unfair they're taking so long with it. Can you send a follow-up email? Maybe CC your teacher/dean in it?

The Cs get degrees thing is really helpful. I went from being an overachiever getting distinctions and merits to not even getting passes. (The way the grading system works here is: undetermined -> near pass -> pass -> merit -> distinction). I feel like I have to finish this year with a merit or a distinction to be "worthy" even though I know a pass will still give me UCAS points to get into university in the long run, I just might need to take a foundation year.

Unfortunately teachers here can't help with accommodations because it's a completely different department, half of which is external :,) I hate it, but I'm hoping I should at least have them by January because that's when my first lot of exams are.

 

[Alcoholic Teletubby]

I'm teetering on the brink. I'm trying to apply my accommodations for one assignment I missed (bc why df was the deadline for this the last day of Thanksgiving break).

 

[Pessimist]

I just started and I can barely manage it. I've signed up for computer science and my studies are filled with complicated mathematics. I hate studying and I don't have the motivation it requires.

 

[xoxo24]

I feel like I'm so behind everyone else. I have an assignment due at midnight and I've done one singular paragraph for it. I feel like I can't tell any of my teachers what's going on without looking like an attention seeker. I'm supposed to be receiving support from SEND because I have both physical and mental health issues. I applied for it literally the first day of college (September 2nd) and I still don't have it. My teachers don't seem to understand that I need these accommodations to actually get my work done. I feel like I'm being so needy/entitled and it just makes me not be alive anymore so that I'm not inconveniencing everyone like I am right now. How on Earth are people managing like this??

Omg this hits too close to home, im studying architecture and i seriously understand nothing and this is MY THIRD YEAR and i feel sooo incredibly behind, and the profs arent helping either they're just fucking mindless bots that dont care about your feelings, only making sure to feel good about themselves, last week i turned in this huge assignment only to get 10/100, mind you the highest grade was 60/100, and when i talked to one of the prof they didnt give a single shit while i was literally crying, no one did.

 

[Opera]

I feel like I'm so behind everyone else. I have an assignment due at midnight and I've done one singular paragraph for it. I feel like I can't tell any of my teachers what's going on without looking like an attention seeker. I'm supposed to be receiving support from SEND because I have both physical and mental health issues. I applied for it literally the first day of college (September 2nd) and I still don't have it. My teachers don't seem to understand that I need these accommodations to actually get my work done. I feel like I'm being so needy/entitled and it just makes me not be alive anymore so that I'm not inconveniencing everyone like I am right now. How on Earth are people managing like this??

I personally have a lot of mental issues that make it hard to concentrate, but what helps is writting things down. I have a planner where I write things down and I look at what I need to do. I do the easiest first and then the harder assignments, and I also give myself breaks. I try to not overwhelm myself with work. Otherwise I end up doing nothing or doing it late

In terms of studying, I'd say take notes on paper, and take breaks. I honestly get tired of studying so I take some breaks and write the most important stuff down. Flashcards help with tests! I do struggle studying the most, so I'd recommend to trying to get a routine going and it can definitely help!