Help How do you get through school while suicidal/depressed

[Faulisdead]

Currently in my 3rd year of college. Just transferred to a 4-year university. Due to an increase in stressors in personal life, it's been increasingly difficult to focus on my studies. All I want to do is just lay in bed all day and cry. How the hell do people manage to get their homework/projects done while feeling this way?

 

[stellabelle]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of that. I just forced myself to do all of them. I wrote down all of my assignments and due dates in a planner in the beginning of the semester and would go by that to see what was coming up next. It really helped me stay organized. Sometimes I would start early or I'd wait and then work better under pressure. I'd just force myself to do it when I didn't want to.

 

[Final Escape]

Currently in my 3rd year of college. Just transferred to a 4-year university. Due to an increase in threats and harassment in my personal life, it's been increasingly difficult to focus on my studies. All I want to do is just lay in bed all day and cry. How the hell do people manage to get their homework/projects done while feeling this way?

I'm not sure you are in a position to focus on school if there's all this chaos going on. Who's threatening u?

 

[Faulisdead]

I'm not sure you are in a position to focus on school if there's all this chaos going on. Who's threatening u?

I'd rather not get into details, but it's a violent ex.

 

[BeHope]

I'm in my second year of university and I find that as long as I have an interest in the subject matter then I can do well. On the other hand, if I find the subject boring or too difficult then I will lose confidence and soon after flop. Do you have any interest in the subject you're studying?

That said, if you're being threatened and harassed then school will of course become more difficult. Can you ignore the threats or are they more serious?

 

[Faulisdead]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of that. I just forced myself to do all of them. I wrote down all of my assignments and due dates in a planner in the beginning of the semester and would go by that to see what was coming up next. It really helped me stay organized. Sometimes I would start early or I'd wait and then work better under pressure. I'd just force myself to do it when I didn't want to.

That's some solid advice. Thank you.

 

[Redt2go]

Currently in my 3rd year of college. Just transferred to a 4-year university. Due to an increase in stressors in personal life, it's been increasingly difficult to focus on my studies. All I want to do is just lay in bed all day and cry. How the hell do people manage to get their homework/projects done while feeling this way?

Are you on meds? Does your school have a hospital and a counseling center? That might help.

 

[Faulisdead]

Are you on meds? Does your school have a hospital and a counseling center? That might help.

Yeah, there's something like that. I'm already going to therapy and am on medication. I've found that confiding in close friends who have dealt with suicidal ideations helps.

 

[CFLoser]

Ashwaghanda 1 week
Holy basil 1 week

Cycle both for anxiety.

 

[Redt2go]

Yeah, there's something like that. I'm already going to therapy and am on medication. I've found that confiding in close friends who have dealt with suicidal ideations helps.

I'm glad something helps :)

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

It was absolute hell for me.

 

[TAW122]

It took me 2x timeframe to complete my graduate studies, mostly because I fucked up a bit in my program, dropped courses when it got too overwhelming, and of course the issues (emotional, mental, and what not) I face in life hampered my focus and ability to function most of the time. When I did manage to finish graduate studies, I just barely scraped by.

 

[Sixfeetunder]

Making sure I know all the due dates and having someone hold me accountable has helped. I know it's hard. This semester cannot end fast enough. I also force myself to go ahead and do it and remind myself of the consequences of not doing it.

 

[21Neberg]

I wear a smiling mask most of the time. In order to motivate myself I remind myself of the consequences of failure, because I don't want to be seen as a failure by family and friends.

 

[Mark Edward]

Left school 42 years ago. Don't know how I coped. The violence and aggression still troubles me to this day. Beaten unconscious twice, too cowardly to fight back.
Self-esteem zero. Started to live in a fantasy world making up lies about myself just to survive. Left and joined the army. Go figure.

 

[justabouttobedone]

I mostly slept at high school. In college I couldn't even sleep I just didn't go to lessons.

 

[Redt2go]

I wear a smiling mask most of the time. In order to motivate myself I remind myself of the consequences of failure, because I don't want to be seen as a failure by family and friends.

Shame is one hell of a motivator

 

[MAC10]

It's extremely hard to study. I studied in my earlier years due to anxiety, but now I'm so depressed I couldn't care less.

 

[Monster]

I didn't. Long story short I dropped most of my classes because I was failing then dropped out after one semester.

 

[offshoreserver]

I didn't. Long story short I dropped most of my classes because I was failing then dropped out after one semester.

same here, couldn't even finish high school. but in a lot of ways i think that's for the best. i was incapable of functioning at school from a very young age and it only got worse as i got older. sometimes i feel like a failure but in a way it feels freeing. i'm not capable of holding a "real" job so if i ever become functional enough to do anything i'll have more autonomy to just do what i feel like i can and what will make me happier. i used to want to assimilate into the workforce very badly but now i see it's just not in the cards for me

i hope all (or at least some) of you can succeed, though. i believe you guys can pull it off since you're here helping each other. a lot of people i know in school with mental health issues had great success with planners and with studying with other people. i think it's because being in communal spaces when you're feeling depressed or isolated can help alleviate the pain and loneliness. people aren't meant to struggle alone and there's a lot of evidence for this (i.e. isolation being such a strong factor in addiction, for example). in general finding a support system is really important and the same has been very true for me so all of you taking advantage of counseling and such are doing a great job. keep it up. it's not easy but school isn't forever and there are ways out of the pain that comes with life, suicide or otherwise. for me, surviving this long has been about finding the little things that i can grab onto and escape into. if you can balance healthy escapism like tv/art/anime/games/etc. with your studies, it should be easier. i wish you all the best of luck

by the way, if apps help you, there's a great one called habitica i've used off and on for years to try and manage myself. even though i'm unemployed and not in formal education right now, when i'm capable of taking care of myself, i use it to help me make my shopping lists or remind me to shower and brush my teeth and all that. it's free and sort of acts like a game (used to be called habitrpg). if anyone wants to check it out it should be on both ios and android