how do you feel about having 30+ years old and never had the chance to be in a relationship with a woman/man?

[odradek]

While I strive for as accurate perceptions of reality as possible, I don't find arguing and debating very appealing. This process has been the subject of research, articles, and books for many years. Tbf, the promoters control most media, so it's harder to find counter-arguments on their platforms.

This actually clears a lot up for me so thank you. Have a good evening you chilli pepper you.

Sorry, gotcha !

You sure did! Now do your sympathies for women's rights.

 

[Capsicum_Corral]

This actually clears a lot up for me so thank you. Have a good evening you chilli pepper you.

It actually kind of sucks to not be that guy, but apparently my information processing system is more gustatory or 'sense' based than numbers, facts, and figures. Those come in, then somehow get translated into a feeling or sense, which is not a good basis for debating the original data. But otherwise it feels like an ideal way to be in touch with this reality we find ourselves in. If that makes any sense.

 

[Sun n showers]

feel free to answer if you are in the same spot as me. i feel so lost

I'd say you are probably quite lucky

 

[Klophy]

I'm in the same situation feel immense shame and loneliness.

Having no one to share parts of my life with, to lean on each other when things got tough makes me feel empty.

 

[Judy Garland]

Being alone is one of the reasons why I'm going to die. I was never meant to be so isolated from everyone else, and I am. And it's not my fault, but it's either be isolated or be picked on and mocked by my own "family". They were never loving or nice to me. I wanted a mate, and I was heartbroken every time. Saying it's painful is an understatement. People who have been in relationships will say, "It's not always better to be with someone" etc. But the saying, "It's better to have loved and lost, than not having been loved at all" is true.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

It doesn't bother me-I realised a long time ago I could never make any sort of long-term relationship work. I really wanted a boyfriend when I was in my late teens/early 20s but not since then. I see a lot of depressed people just because they are single and I think it's sad that they feel like that just based on their relationship status.

 

[Bitterman1996]

it doesn't bother me as much as I know I will be miserable if I'm dragging someone else/ it would be worse when you realize just by having a partner it doesnt immediately cure your depression

tbh it's more depressing to think about how your peers/parents will by default push you into marriage and procreation :)

 

[Job Joad]

In reality "relationships" are mainly just business arrangements. Sex in exchange for income support. More and more people are just foregoing "relationships" because they don't have the income status (way more important than looks) to have one.

 

[Eternal Oblivion]

I was in that position until 30 years old. I was always alone, sort of a virgin also.

I then have found a girlfriend who I loved very much and shared a loot of moments toguether. Great sex. I take our relationshit is about to be over now (2 years later) but now I don't mind being alone. I already had the experience.

I remember how crushing that desire to have someone was back then. Couldn't think about anything else. Couldn't interact with others confidently. Once you have a girl that is atractive, people respect you better, so you respect yourself better.

This relationship changed me in many many ways, for the better. I would never take it back just because sometime it will eventually end.

Living all your life, without having that experience, is very very soul sucking. You will sadly never fully develop.