Help How do you explain loneliness to people?

[notwhereIbelong]

I'm lucky enough to not be completely alone, I have two irl friends. But the feeling of loneliness persists; it's that feeling of being alone even in a group, like you're not really there or no one can hear you.

Now, I fucked up. Because of this feeling I did a thing that made my friends feel unappreciated, and now they're majorly pissed at me. I've already tried to apologize and explain my perspective, but I don't know how to properly get my point across.

I don't know how to really explain this feeling to someone who doesn't experience it. It's a feeling that is so intrinsic and ingrained in my brain that I don't know how to get it out.

I don't want to lose my friends, but I have no idea of how to avoid that. I feel stuck.

 

[cali22♡]

Talk to your friends and explain your current situation to them. . . Tell them how you feel etc and also admit what you have done wrong

If they were real friends they will understand

If not then unfortunately not

 

[wayn]

I feel the same way when I'm not talking with like let's say my girlfriend, or other people with higher intellectual level than the average, to be honest I feel very alone around people and I'm usally just dissociate. So yeah if that's your case aswell then find more different friends, but to be real there could be a lot of other reasons.

 

[Felodese]

I've tried to describe it to people as my depression being like a glass wall that surrounds me and seperates me from them; I can see them and hear them, but I can't feel them. I know they are there, but I'm still cut off from them, can't reach them and they can't reach me, so I am alone - behind the wall. And that feeling is not because of them or me, it's the depression.

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

I explain that autism has made me an alien on planet earth, and loneliness feels like I'm an alien with an astronaut suit on with the helmet stuck - I can't take it off. So I have this thing I wear (thinking I will blend in with others) but I can't take it off, and am forever trapped seeing the world but unable to interact with people, and the loneliness from autism and ADHD means I quite literally get non-verbal. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria means I'm terrified of saying the wrong thing or acting the wrong way. I'm on a stage fucking up my lines and the actors laugh at me.

If I had a stable set of consistent friends and a partner all in the same city, I would likely not want to die as much. But this past year has been so incredibly lonely and I just don't see a way to be able to 'people' successfully at my age. I feel anxious and after every interaction regret how I sounded. My only consistent friends are autism and ADHD and I hate them.

 

[Mirrory Me]

I didn't know, but apparently it's normal to have about 0-5 real friends during your lifetime.. That makes me thankful for that I even happened to have friends.

 

[guineapiglover8503]

I'm lucky enough to not be completely alone, I have two irl friends. But the feeling of loneliness persists; it's that feeling of being alone even in a group, like you're not really there or no one can hear you.

Now, I fucked up. Because of this feeling I did a thing that made my friends feel unappreciated, and now they're majorly pissed at me. I've already tried to apologize and explain my perspective, but I don't know how to properly get my point across.

I don't know how to really explain this feeling to someone who doesn't experience it. It's a feeling that is so intrinsic and ingrained in my brain that I don't know how to get it out.

I don't want to lose my friends, but I have no idea of how to avoid that. I feel stuck.

For me it is just feeling invisible. I can go anywhere and it seems like people pretend I don't exist. WHenever I try to make a conversation, it seems like the other person just wants to walk away. my parents wonder wjhy I don't hang out w people over the weekend and its because i have nobody to hang out with. I am always the odd one out. Whenever in school people get to choose their groups, I would be the one left out and if there are partners, and it is is an even amount of people, they would make a group of 3 to not talk to me

 

[killorbekilled]

It's like being trapped in an invisible glass box. You see everyone but you don't think they see you. You feel like an afterthought or a spectator rather than part of the act. For me, even though I have a lot of friends, I still feel lonely. I think it's also because you are the only person who can truly understand yourself, even if you want others to. Sometimes even you can't understand yourself.

 

[dreamfyre]

I think true lonliness is rooted in not being understood and seen.

I'm not super social at all but i have quite a few really good irl friends, but MY GOD I still feel so alone here at uni because none of them really know me truly