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bloomingdark

bloomingdark

Alex
Jan 24, 2019
170
Hi guys , i would really like to ask you how do you usually cope with "forcing" yourself to being functional due to responsabilities, college ,interactions with others

I mostly can't get myself to do it, and i think I'm lazy, i don't really see a point in doing even the more minimal things , i get really ashamed in college when I have to work in group or talk because I feel dumb/worthless, sad because I either don't care or i am too tired to do anything, learn properly.


What do you guys do to cope with all this?

Do you have any tips?


Sending lots of love to everyone
 
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WornOutLife

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Mar 22, 2020
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My best tip would be for you to go from small to big steps.
You can't work and study immediately.
Start with more basic things such as taking a shower everyday, cleaning up your house, going for a walk, etc.
Your body has to receive new information constantly so as to change the bad habits.
Your goals have to be doable and short-term. Brains seem to like receiving success vibes in order to increase your dopamine levels.

I could barely leave my bed for 2 years and now I'm working again.
I'm still suicidal, it's just part of it but seeking any kind of help always helps.

What about meds? Are you taking anything? I have some magic pills which saved me.
 
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bloomingdark

bloomingdark

Alex
Jan 24, 2019
170
My best tip would be for you to go from small to big steps.
You can't work and study immediately.
Start with more basic things such as taking a shower everyday, cleaning up your house, going for a walk, etc.
Your body has to receive new information constantly so as to change the bad habits.
Your goals have to be doable and short-term. Brains seem to like receiving success vibes in order to increase your dopamine levels.

I could barely leave my bed for 2 years and now I'm working again.
I'm still suicidal, it's just part of it but seeking any kind of help always helps.

What about meds? Are you taking anything? I have some magic pills which saved me.

Thank you, i will follow your advice, i am on escitalopram 20 mg , feels like it's doing nothing but making me dissociated , that's why I usually get so distracted, and end up doing nothing.
 
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JustAMatterOfTime

JustAMatterOfTime

Fragile
Mar 21, 2021
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I don't hence why I am here
 
Trisolaris

Trisolaris

Arcanist
Dec 11, 2018
447
Currently I have no responsibilities so I'm not coping. When I was still working it was very hard and I had trouble concentrating and doing projects on time. Even the most basic things are hard when you're depressed/anxious.
 
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BabyFears

BabyFears

The weak are meat and the strong do eat
May 9, 2021
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I'm sorry to bring back from the dead this thread but I thought it was better than starting a new one and say the exact same thing.

I'm also wondering how people are coping with responsibilities too cause I find it so hard !

I'm a student in law school, I have four assignements to do and hand for tonight (it's 4pm here) and have barely half of it done. I'm trying to work, really am but I can't concentrate on anything. I just catch myself staring absentmindedly and do nothing. This is really frustrating, especially when I know that I'm usually a good student. And I know it would be done rather quickly if I wasn't feeling so sad and tired of everything. I'm still forcing myself, I'm sat at my desk for now 3 hours and I'm slowly getting some of it done. I think it won't be perfect for tonight but I can't do any better than that.

I hate that because I think that maybe I won't be depressed all my life, maybe some day I'll be happy and all my education will be screwed because I was feeling good at the time. That's also one reason I'm not dropping college, I still hope that some day I won't be suicidal anymore and have a normal life.

I'm just struggling so hard with my mental health already. I am so jealous of my friends that just have to worry about studying and getting good grades. I'd give anything to just have to only have to worry about my grades. Anyway, maybe I'll die before the end of the semester and won't even have to take my mid year exams so...
 
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