Discussion How do you comfort yourself/distract yourself in your worst moments?

[outrider567]

I come here

 

[L0neW0lf]

Também escuto música. Além disso, eu falo com o meu melhor amigo e uso a internet em geral. Infelizmente, não melhora muito porque eu sei que deveria estar fazendo algo mais importante, então eu meio que só me sinto um merda mesmo. Só piora quando tô tendo algum ataque de pânico. Nessas horas eu não consigo pensar em nem uma linha de raciocínio, então eu só fico indo de distração pra distração, nada tendo um grande efeito.

Please when you post translate to English then post.

 

[L0neW0lf]

I listen to this one

 

[L0neW0lf]

Try to go to sleep with something on the tv (having it on zero light) that doesn't requires neurons to comprehend (probably because it's a show I've watched multiple time).

I do this with video I only hear the sound. Something like this video

And watch crime stories like this

 

[sovcat]

Dark shower with a single lit candle nearby if it's safe to do so.

Sounds emo, but it's relaxing. Bonus points if you have a shower-stool to sit on (or you can sit on the floor of the tub). At times, let the shower hit your face and let it gently massage your closed eyes. You may have to cover your mouth or nose in a way that lets you still breathe.

 

[alltoomuch2]

Videogames until I feel like I'm dissociating enough to not feel anything. Marijuana if I have a free day to recover from the effects.

If I'm in a pinch, I press against the carotid arteries until I feel like I'm about to pass out. My mind gets fuzzy and somehow it makes me stop thinking for a crisp 30 seconds, then the general emotional agony hurts a lot less.

I don't recommend it. I can't stop because it works so well and hasn't left any physical scars. It's better then CTBing, but it's not healthy at all.

I do the carotid thing too if its night and nothing's working. It really works.

 

[Kavka]

I try to focus on my behaviour and maintain the basics (e.g. walking, eating healthy) so that I don't lose it altogether. When I'm really anxious or feeling extremely depressed, I have to play a fast paced game like Overwatch to completely distract myself and "cool down" the limbic system in my brain.

 

[rednights]

Recently what I usually do is listening to music and scrolling social media. I also daydream a bunch, it's my primary coping mechanism.

I really ought to engage in the other hobbies I have, but this is just what's easiest and when I'm in a bad state I'm simply less likely to do something that takes more effort.

 

[alltoomuch2]

I do this with video I only hear the sound. Something like this video

And watch crime stories like this

This is awesome. Gonna put it on my list

 

[UNvisible_]

A comfort for me is music, I keep my headphones on 24/7 coz I hate my home environment and it makes me feel not real for a bit.
Also lately it's been drinking until I don't feel any heart beating and my mind running.

It use to be tv shows and video games but I don't have the attention span for them lately, they don't work how they use to.

 

[L0neW0lf]

Videogames were always a good distraction for me, lately been bingeing ww2 vehicle documentaries on YT.

You can watch this one

this is just what's easiest and when I'm in a bad state I'm simply less likely to do something that takes more effort.

that's true, that's why people think I am lazy. Because I am in bad mental situation all the time.

 

[Oyasumidanny]

i dont try it anymore, i just smoke

 

[Lost Magic]

I retreat to a world of escapism. I did scream into a pillow today

 

[Buh-bye!]

When I was younger, it was reading books. I mainly love fantasy and science fiction. Hours and hours, and like every day.
When I got my first computer, I discovered chat rooms, and, craving positive human connection, launched into that heavily.
Then it was computer games, mostly MMORPGs, also hours on end.
Currently it's just reading stuff from the internet, anything, this forum, research papers on psychiatric meds, psychiatric treatment guidelines, articles about different mental illnesses, med leaflets, anything else I stumble upon and find interesting, crime cases, problem solving, philosophy, I don't even know anymore.

If I stop engaging my brain for too long, my feelings will seep in, and I will fall down into a very very dark hole and somewhere along the way will start crying and start to feel immense and overwhelming pain. I'm not even trying to see if it still happens that way now, like, today, if I stop(*), I just keep going until I'm so tired that I start having trouble to keep my eyes open and concentrate. Insomnia is so bad atm, I have been lying in bed for up to like 6 hours, arrived at the triple initial dose of sleep meds and not even that is working anymore and I'm fighting to keep a semblance of a circadian rhythm.

How curious, I just now, in this moment, realize just how intensely I've been using distraction all along since forever. Idk if that's so healthy ... I think not. I mean it works, but there's something serious that I can't sufficiently contain or process anymore. Also today I'm still agitated and a bit uncollected after waking up to the police at my door. My faut, but very unsettling and disturbing the remnants of illusions of safety. It's not. It's not safe. I'm not safe. Nowhere is truly safe. People still possess my keys. The lock can be lockpicked by a professional. The door can be torn down by the fire department. My home is not safe, my thoughts are not comforting, my feelings are not calming, and no treatment brought lasting relief, and human connections are downright destruction. I don't want to be here anymore and I'm sick and tired of the stream of struggle and loss.
(*) Definitely still happening.

everything you said is downright true

 

[Jon Arbuckle]

How do you manage to comfort yourself or distract yourself when you are at your worst? Or just distract yourself to avoid thoughts, things like that.

I listen to music when this happens and it doesn't always help, now tell me your methods!

lately nothing helps me, i literally just have to ride out the feelings