How do I cope with loneliness?

[noonipie]

I do like being alone, but not when it's because i've just lost a friend. nobody really listens at all when i speak and definitely think im annoying. im really just down now that i see no good prospects with my boy. how do you guys cope with being lonely? or being newly alone??

 

[Nortu]

How I cope is just numbing down either with substance or convincing myself it was going to happen anyways (usually stop feeling after a while though). Don't have any good answers for it really.
Distracting if possible is also a way, trying to forget my loneliness by occupying my attention on braindead things

 

[noonipie]

:/ sometimes i wish i did but i dont do any drugs or drink. ever. so i feel like it makes it harder to forget sometimes

 

[WorthlessCoward]

I only feel lonely when I'm around people. When I am truly alone in my room I am the happiest clam in the cosmos.

 

[noonipie]

I only feel lonely when I'm around people. When I am truly alone in my room I am the happiest clam in the cosmos.

HAHAHAHA love that wording

 

[PoisonousPotato]

you can always make a tulpa

 

[asterisk3]

do you work/study in a social environment? for me usually that makes the social need mostly go away and i can appreciate thing like

I only feel lonely when I'm around people. When I am truly alone in my room I am the happiest clam in the cosmos.

more.

ive been a shut-in for a while so clearly that is not the case with me lol. and by how to cope with loneliness... i dont know if there is a very good, down to earth answer for people who have difficult means of cultivating strong connections (what actually makes someone feel the unbearable alienation and loneliness). in theory we'd have our families and maybe some close people but clearly nowadays thats increasingly more difficult.

perhaps substances are the better way or just trying to meet likeminded people irl somewhere or even online (really). i used to feel better and not in any way lonely when i had some really close online friends i shared a lot with. but i always get to a point where i break down because of irl things and just isolate in my shell again so ive lost dozens of friendships i wish i hadnt.

maybe one day we'll have a good pill for that! meanwhile drugs it is... or coping with hobbies or things like videogames, but imo after a certain while you lose some capacity to do this, especially if youve been lonely for a good time.

a pet, like a dog, is a good idea too and something im really close to experimenting out. some guys i know got dogs when in dark places and it helped them immensely. if i had one he'd sleep in my room because im a needy fuck

 

[wastingpotential]

distracting yourself as much as possible helps me, loud music, video games, even reading as well.
if it's possible i'd suggest adopting a pet if you like animals, they make for good company that doesn't tire you out socially so much but also makes you feel less alone

 

[kunikuzushi]

I think about why my loneliness hurts so much then try to soothe whatever it is with media (music, show, reading) that targets whatever is missing. or when I'm desperate at night I talk to ai, but keep in mind that might make you feel even more lonely when you realize you don't even have a real person to talk to

 

[innominesatanas44]

Avoid using social media. Talk to yourself. Any form of distraction. If you can relate other people to negative feelings rather than positive ones that will make it easier. The thing is you can ignore it but that feeling is always going to be there, we're wired to be social.

 

[Pengu]

I don't have any friends and if I make some I lose them very quickly due to my depression. I cant stay with the same people for a long period of time so I have distanced myself cuz I don't want to hurt others or get hurt by them. Loneliness is a mix of emotions at first u feel desperate and u get impulsive then u get sad and it's so painful it feels like u will have to live with this pain forever then u get numb. U can no longer smile but the pain is gone. I used to have nightmares when I lost the person I was close to the most. I still cry I still feel the pain but I am starting to get numb which is both terrifying and consoling at the same time.

 

[Kundalini Guy]

Occupy your mind with something like gaming, anime/netflix or reading. I have not had a single friend in an embarrassing amount of years, I just use escapism to fix it. Pets can also help.

 

[noonipie]

Occupy your mind with something like gaming, anime/netflix or reading. I have not had a single friend in an embarrassing amount of years, I just use escapism to fix it. Pets can also help.

my main issue right now is that i have to study a lot atm so im not really able to do the things i enjoy like playing games or watching movies. i do have pets tho :3

Avoid using social media. Talk to yourself. Any form of distraction. If you can relate other people to negative feelings rather than positive ones that will make it easier. The thing is you can ignore it but that feeling is always going to be there, we're wired to be social.

i do think my life would be significantly better if i used social media less. i just hope when school's out ill be able to do stuff i enjoy rather than just studying or going on my phone

 

[Jezzibell]

I moved far away from my house of 25 years. I moved somewhere I'd never been before and know noone. I have no friends, I've cut myself off from everyone. But I'm not lonely.

I was but my eating disorder keeps me alone. Other people would interfere.

Plus I'm not willing to establish a relationship with anyone as I want no ties to this life.

 

[lumipallo]

No clue how to cope. That's a horrible feeling tbh, being alone with no real way of fixing it.
The silence in my apartment is deafening, I often just go on walks so I wouldn't be alone inside.

 

[noonipie]

No clue how to cope. That's a horrible feeling tbh, being alone with no real way of fixing it.
The silence in my apartment is deafening, I often just go on walks so I wouldn't be alone inside.

i do the same thing. im scared to live alone for that reason. i think ill ctb really quickly if i do

 

[lumipallo]

i do the same thing. im scared to live alone for that reason. i think ill ctb really quickly if i do

Valid. Living on my own was very very hard for the first time. I spent 1 night at my new place and 1 back home until I got used to it. Still unpleasant but at least I can fall asleep now.

 

[noonipie]

Valid. Living on my own was very very hard for the first time. I spent 1 night at my new place and 1 back home until I got used to it. Still unpleasant but at least I can fall asleep now.

aww so you didnt move very far? how old are you ? ill be going into uni

 

[lumipallo]

aww so you didnt move very far? how old are you ? ill be going into uni

Hours drive or more. This was years and years ago.

 

[JJMaynard97]

I do like being alone, but not when it's because i've just lost a friend. nobody really listens at all when i speak and definitely think im annoying. im really just down now that i see no good prospects with my boy. how do you guys cope with being lonely? or being newly alone??

That's a good question, it's a question I'm not sure on at the moment. At this current time I feel alone. For me I know I should be. Everyone who in my life will leave me eventually. I have a imaginary friend. . That's how alone I feel.

 

[noonipie]

That's a good question, it's a question I'm not sure on at the moment. At this current time I feel alone. For me I know I should be. Everyone who in my life will leave me eventually. I have a imaginary friend. . That's how alone I feel.

dont worry, i do too. we can tlk if you want tho :3 semi-real life friends

 

[Ambivalent1]

By realizing feelings aren't real. A person walking past you would be feeling something different. Who's feelings are accurate? Feelings also shift a lot so you just ride it out like a thunderstorm

 

[Untimely]

I do like being alone, but not when it's because i've just lost a friend. nobody really listens at all when i speak and definitely think im annoying. im really just down now that i see no good prospects with my boy. how do you guys cope with being lonely? or being newly alone??

i get that a lot. i think it's mainly social anxiety which bothers me a lot because i overthink everything. i'm sorry i don't have a solution or anything but it happens to me too

 

[noonipie]

i get that a lot. i think it's mainly social anxiety which bothers me a lot because i overthink everything. i'm sorry i don't have a solution or anything but it happens to me too

you mean it bothers you as in when you interact with people? or that it's the reason that you don't?

 

[Untimely]

you mean it bothers you as in when you interact with people? or that it's the reason that you don't?

kind of both. i think that everyone hates me whenever people talk to me so i understand what you mean about being lonely.

i try to keep myself busy with things that used to make me happy but it doesn't really help that much anymore

sorry i feel like i'm not really helping that much. i think that i just wanted to say that i understand what you mean with the loneliness. lm here to talk more about it if it will help :)

 

[noonipie]

kind of both. i think that everyone hates me whenever people talk to me so i understand what you mean about being lonely.

i try to keep myself busy with things that used to make me happy but it doesn't really help that much anymore

sorry i feel like i'm not really helping that much. i think that i just wanted to say that i understand what you mean with the loneliness. lm here to talk more about it if it will help :)

literally same lol. ive stopped talking to people mostly aside from a few people because of it (i used to be super talkative). also, im here for you too :3 wanna pm?

 

[Mirrory Me]

By realizing feelings aren't real. A person walking past you would be feeling something different. Who's feelings are accurate? Feelings also shift a lot so you just ride it out like a thunderstorm

Why do all things exist even though nothing is true.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Why do all things exist even though nothing is true.

Because we live in an absurd universe

 

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[Untimely]

literally same lol. ive stopped talking to people mostly aside from a few people because of it (i used to be super talkative). also, im here for you too :3 wanna pm?

yes definitely feel free to message me :)