how did cutting everyone out of your life work out for you?

[fracturedviolence]

just wondering to everyone that has cut everyone out of their life how did it go? did it make you feel better ? worse ? how did people react?

 

[Pluto]

I progressively cut off my abusive family starting in teenage years, which was great because I was finally free from abuse. But then I started to crumble from isolation. I tried to achieve high quality friendships, but all my friends themselves had family, making me a 3rd wheel in one-way relationships. I came to realise that a genuine solution to this problem is not so easy.

 

[fracturedviolence]

I progressively cut off my abusive family starting in teenage years, which was great because I was finally free from abuse. But then I started to crumble from isolation. I tried to achieve high quality friendships, but all my friends themselves had family, making me a 3rd wheel in one-way relationships. I came to realise that a genuine solution to this problem is not so easy.

when i meant everyone i mean everyone like even friends. close off all relationships with all people kind of thing but regardless thank you for the response

 

[flyingtopluto]

I used to isolate myself from everyone (close friends and family included) and it gave me some confidence to CTB because I thought I severed my ties enough to leave the world without leaving anyone with too much pain. However, I'm still here so that plan failed and now I'm stuck in this world until I muster the courage to CTB.

 

[SarRy]

It's rough. It's great. It's tough to not have people around you to help deal with problems. But, it's great to not have people around to cause problems. It's not a bad idea when the people aren't very helpful to begin with. I guess I don't fit in with your "everyone" scenario, but I'm only in contact with about three people and barely at that. Honestly, It's nothing new to me as I like being alone and have never really had friends very much.

 

[darkcirclesunder]

I never had much family or friends to cut off, me and my dad were not really close in a parental sense at all, just someone i hung out with when he was not drunk, i guess my mom is the closest person im with and i havent cut her off. My friends were kind of just there, we didnt have emotional talks or anything. Now only have mom left and thats the only reason i havent ctb.

 

[almaranthine]

it didn't work... after many months my family ended up contacting me anyways, concerned, asking how I was, telling me to come visit them etc

as for friends, I didn't have to worry about that. I only had one and once I stopped texting her I never heard from her again.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Ha. Everyone in my life cut themselves out of my life. They all died. If that isn't some kind of cosmic message, I don't know what is.

 

[savoytruffle]

cut off all my friends in preparation, made me feel shitty for a long time but now i just feel nothing. whenever something happens to me i just have nobody to tell, that's it

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

just wondering to everyone that has cut everyone out of their life how did it go? did it make you feel better ? worse ? how did people react?

Really isn't anyone to cut out.

 

[Silent.Tears]

Have I cut everyone out of my life? or have they distanced themselves from me? I don't really know anymore.....
How does it make me feel? Well, it has its pros and cons. I'm lonely but atleast I'm not misunderstood or called "reserved, not optimistic, overreacting, lazy" etc etc.
My presence or absence doesn't make any difference in their lives so I guess people don't really care, idk. There's one person though who makes me feel valued and I guess they enjoy my presence. But, I really think that they are better off without me. I don't want to bring them down with me.

 

[Spyware]

I don't miss them, even though some of them were good people

 

[Unending]

There's definitely some longing for connection inside of me but ultimately the pain of scrutinization, perceived or real, is just too much for me to bear. Furthermore, the fears of scrutinization and damaging gaps in perception follow me even on the internet but not nearly as bad. I find also that it is pretty hard for me to be around others in recent times without completely shutting down mentally out of nowhere. I don't know why this happens but these heavy waves of fatigue and apathy just wash over me mid conversation and it feels painful to not just curl up in a ball. Overall, I'd say that I'm better off alone for now. Pen pals and internet discussion suffices for me.

 

[Prescott241]

The only people I ever talk to are my boss, and a few members of the lodge I'm a part of. I have an obligation to talk with my boss in order to keep my job, and I very rarely ever talk to anybody from my lodge, and when I do, it's only for things related to lodge activities. Ok outside of this, I have nobody to talk to. I never got to the point of cutting people out of my life because there is nobody to cut out from my life. I used to have like three very toxic and annoying friends, so it made sense to cut them out. People in the general population (non-suicidal) really don't care at all about suicide until it happens to someone they know. If someone is generally disliked, is a "nobody", or has done things that would make them undesirable, then nobody cares if they commit suicide. The entire system and world we live in is a farce and the cycle of people being unforgiving towards each other (especially within their own level/echelon of society and those beneath them) was created on purpose to keep people divided. I refuse to take part in a world so evil and demonic.

 

[trayansh]

I have become more cold and don't care about most things, I didn't use to be like this but slowly cutting friends and family off made me realise no one really cares so yeah..

 

[releasespieces]

It's been wonderful. Abusive friends and parents went bye bye and now I can live without their incessant lame advice. There isn't a day that goes by that I miss any of them. It's a bit of a challenge to explore other means of socialization as a middle aged person, but the relief is well worth it.

 

[ResignationFromLife]

Currently trying to do this. As you'd imagine, i feel pretty isolated right now. I just have to keep reminding myself its for the best and limits who will be hurt when i CTB

 

[Koppite]

just wondering to everyone that has cut everyone out of their life how did it go? did it make you feel better ? worse ? how did people react?

This is weird because this the first post I've read today and I've just this evening cutting people out of my life.
First my gf, who has been less and less interested in me as my bank balance dwindled.
Then my Facebook - which means Messenger too - was deleted. Then my Twitter account (bye, 1274 followers), then WhatsApp, Line, Reddit, Signal.
Then everyone Contact's Number in my address book - so the only calls or messages I ever get won't be social. My 'best friends' can no longer contact me at all - as I live in another country and all our contacts were electronic.

All I have left is my Telgram. And that's not for social purposes.

Feels good, weird and also bad. But it also feels like a significant first step. Those people were not offering what I felt was a minimum of support. I was spending pretty much all my time alone. The very rare occurrences I got texted, we did Skype or WhatsApp or whatever - became more a painful wait to be endured, than the positive human connection I need.

So I don't know how I'll feel when I wake up tomorrow. I suspect I'll feel lonely and isolated - but then I felt like that before I deleted all my social media didn't I? And at least now I'm free of the foolish, daily expectation that any of the people who say they care about me, across a thousand social media and messaging contacts, might actually get in touch.

 

[crimson blue]

I don't want to eliminate everyone from my life, just part of it and it's going bad for me :(

 

[Csmith8827]

i dunno...i just quit caring. My Facebook is pretty small these days. I think the people I knew or my family etc...was very controlling and manipulative. I just had to get away from it.

 

[brokensea]

It's very isolating and lonely. I feel useless and everything I do is pointless because everything I do is just for myself. It's just a slow internal death to be so alone. But all anyone does is hurt you. So at least you're safe from other humans.

 

[Dbd8djddi]

Except my family, I don't really had to cut out any people from my life, because there never really were any.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

It's okay. 2 of my friends messaged me last month and I ghosted them. Another friend wanted to hang out with me this week, but I said I did not feel good, and I had -$20 in my bank account (which is true). Cannot cut out my family since I live with them.

 

[mateodolores]

My friends distanced themselves from me and the ones that didn't, I ghosted them. I can't get away from my abusive family since I'm trapped here, but if I could, I definitely would.

I feel very lonely and empty. I have many things I want to share (music, memes, photos, etc.) but I have no one to share them with, but I don't want to get close to anyone anymore, not like I ever could. I've always felt disconnected from people and now, I'm really disconnected. Not a good feeling.

At least, when I finally die, no one will really give a shit. Most of my ex friends probably forgot about me anyways.

 

[Aya&Dazy]

It works for me because I moved to a whole new country. I have 0 social accounts so no one can follow me, friends or family. I am happy this way.

 

[Rairii]

It was good I cut out my abusive family, they added nothing to my life but more pain. I'm glad I was able to do so but it sure took me long enough to do it.

I barely had friends before. The two I had got really angry at me when I was in the early/middle stages of my anorexia, they thought I was just "acting" depressed to be selfish?? They didn't like how negative I had become which was me finally expressing my true feelings because before they kept complaining that they thought I was hiding secrets from them and never opened up. They also thought that I was losing weight for vanity reasons which pissed them off for some reason and made them think I was just trying to get attention from men which was gross to them?? so I just out right asked them if they even wanted me around and they said no, so i exited out of their life. granted they weren't great friends to me before all that and were already picking on me about other stuff, so I guess it wasn't a big loss.

It has been tough being alone even if the people in my life before were not that great. I feel pretty lonely at times, which I hate admitting. sometimes I cry knowing people have family and friends who love and support them, this is one reason as to why I stay away from social media so I don't see people having that. I also just feel incapable of connecting with people anymore. My mind often goes blank and I want to run away when I try and communicate with others, I think its my brain trying to protect me from getting hurt, which I understand why it would do that but it sucks.