ForWhomTheBellTolls
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OP mentioned it above. She could pay for it herself, and doesn't necessarily need a partner.
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OP mentioned it above. She could pay for it herself, and doesn't necessarily need a partner.
actually, having a child would turn my life around. i wouldn't touch drugs again. my life would have meaning again. i certainly am in no form of poverty, i have an excellent job, i own my own home and my work comes with with a year of full maternity pay. you know nothing about me. yes i have depression - are people with depression not allowed kids?
My mother always said children were the biggest mistake. And meant it.No, you would do more drugs. Its extreamly stressfull to be pregnant and having children. You have no idea whats going to happen and you becomes more vulnerable than you ever have been.
I have two, they are adults now, and i regret everything. My decision to have kids has only generated more suffering. Now they have children of their own and the suffering continues..........
Its also another child that doesnt have to be raised by a "drug addict with serious mental health problems". This desire is very short-sighted and the diagnosis has a very thick silver lining. Having a child isnt some whim that you fulfill or some craving/desire to satisfy to make yourself feel better. Just go to burgerking and get some funnel cake fries or hey go to therapy but please dont have a kid specifically just to make yourself feel good. I dont underatand what is so offensive about being upset at things like this.
A very selfish statement often made. If you want the best for your kids simply don't bear them.Their "judgment call" is nothing but submission to societal expectations. You have no autonomy, no objective happines, no way to live a life without being enslaved by someone else. Humans want control and somebody is always going to be at the other end of this, getting hurted. Relationships are pure cohersion. And that is just a thing that happens on the day-to-day, "trivial" scale.
Want a example of humans desperate need for control over others? Just look at how you ignored my question for you to explain your view on the matter. Empty questioning ontop of withdrawing of showing your own arguments are easy ways to express control over me in a debate. You don't want to grow from this discussion, you just wanna be right.
This is exactly how a parent feel. They don't want "the best for their childrem", they just want to have someone to control.
So you're a drug addict with serious mental health problems and a history of attempting to ctb via OD and you think you're anywhere near fit to bring a child into this world and be an halfway decent parent to them? Has the thought even crossed your mind that parenting is extremely difficult for the best of us and kids from broken homes/unstable parents usually end up suffering immensly?basically, fuck you. don't take out your anger on your lack of funds on me. great - you sold your car. irrelevant. the trauma this has caused me is immense. just back the fuck up.
Yeah the car thing got off topic but still the money part is important because it´s cruel to put a child in the world in the first place and then also expect stuff of them, there was even a thread about a man who sued his parents because he never consented to being born and he made a lot of valid points, one of them being they expect too much of him, mine doesn´t but still every parents expect their children to at least be able to get a job to get money to survive but a guy like me can´t do that and a lot of other people can´t so money is very important.basically, fuck you. don't take out your anger on your lack of funds on me. great - you sold your car. irrelevant. the trauma this has caused me is immense. just back the fuck up.
on my birthday last year i found out i had contracted pelvic inflammatory disease, caused by chlamydia from my boyfriend i'd only been with for 4 months (i know i was 'clean' before then, i always get tested) and since then i've had multiple scans etc and the damage is far worse than first thought. i am essentially infertile without IVF.
i've now also been told i have PCOS and they want to remove my fallopian tubes entirely, that will happen in march.
all i ever wanted in life was to be a mum. i have no hope left. nobody wants me and certainly, no man would want to take on a drug addict with serious mental health problems. i've OD'd twice but failed since my diagnosis. spent a week in a psych ward also which was hell.
i'm finished with life now. i have a huge amount of xanax, diazepam, zopiclone, zolpiderm & such. i'd like the 'night night' method if possible but as i said before, it hasn't worked.
i have a high tolerance to benzos now so i'm not sure where to go or what to do. i've got gorilla tape also so it's an option but i'd rather just get high, fall asleep and never wake up.
any suggestions of mixtures of benzos/opiates? what have i been doing wrong?
OP mentioned it above. She could pay for it herself, and doesn't necessarily need a partner.
It's not a perfect world. Everyone pretty much came in here and put OP down. Even with a partner, doesn't mean that they would remain in their life. Who's to say that OP would want that sort of situation anyway? It was just a point not to assume that someone of the opposite gender would have to fund IVF, and that OP could. Women work and can pay for things on their own. Some people want to be single parents.She might not need a partner but the child will need a father(not saying mothers are any less important). Take look at statistics on how children raised by single parents turn out to be. (Spoiler: not great). I expect a rational reply from you if you are gonna reply.
On top of everything else? Jesus...Some people want to be single parents.
Not my cup of tea, but they're out there.On top of everything else? Jesus...
Not my cup of tea, but they're out there.
It doesn't make it moral or right, but, hey let's gamble with yet another human life because I WANT TO-it's all the justification you need. Kids don't need Fathers, and who cares if the Mom is a drug addict, or a manic-depressive, and is using her offspring to save herself—keep the whole procreational beast going...because I WANT TO. Be damned the consequences for a child who didn't ask to be here, and was given the short end of the stick from the beginning via a mentally ill Mom and no Father.
It's MY RIGHT to have a child.
God damn. I must be losing my mind to not see the OPs points from HER perspective.
@opiategirl - here are some forums that might be helpful to you.
Infertility:
https://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/infertility/
https://www.mothering.com/forum/179-infertility/
https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/becoming-mum-ttc-64/fertility-problems-39/
http://www.madeformums.com/forum/co...cos-forum-question-about-metformin/95035.html
(You can also google search "infertility forums" and have a look around.)
Depression forums:
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums
https://support.therapytribe.com/depression-support-group/
https://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forums/depression-forum.366/
(Or again, use google as a tool and search for "depression support forums")
Drug recovery forums:
https://www.recovery.org/forums/
https://drugs-forum.com/forums/drug-addiction-recovery.424/
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/
(Just search the term "drug recovery forum" or similar keywords in your search engine.)
I hope these resources can help.