Venting Holidays suck

[divinemistress87]

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

 

[ma0]

And then they get all in your face about it, acting as if it's the happiest time of the year and you're a horrible person if you so much as look slightly unhappy during the so-called "Christmas Cheer."

All this to say that I completely agree, and that people need to shut up.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

100% agree. I do my best to see Christmas as just any other day as celebrating it is too painful. The most we do is prepare a better meal as eating feels good and is a way to forget.
It's also a time when people buy small animals as a Christmas gift to kids, which are then put up for adoption or abandoned in January. Worse are the backyard breeders who sell them. Every year is a never ending battle. I hope for the day when animals aren't seen as objects to be gifted and discarded.

Even if you adopt said animals, you can see the damage that was done. My current hamster was overweight and depressed, unwanted for being "too old", would spend the day laid down awake. It took me months to rehabilitate her and make her enjoy life.

 

[divinemistress87]

100% agree. I do my best to see Christmas as just any other day as celebrating it is too painful. The most we do is prepare a better meal as eating feels good and is a way to forget.
It's also a time when people buy small animals as a Christmas gift to kids, which are then put up for adoption or abandoned in January. Worse are the backyard breeders who sell them. Every year is a never ending battle. I hope for the day when animals aren't seen as objects to be gifted and discarded.

Even if you adopt said animals, you can see the damage that was done. My current hamster was overweight and depressed, unwanted for being "too old", would spend the day laid down awake. It took me months to rehabilitate her and make her enjoy life.

I forgot all about all the animals that get sold on Xmas and will probably end up in shelters :(

 

[NoPoint2Life]

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

You definitely aren't a grinch. Everything you said is right on point even for people that do have better situations than some of us here.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I agree about the materialism being obnoxious. I'm also annoyed by the endless cheesy holiday parties. I prefer intimate family gatherings, not a bunch of shallow small talk with people I barely know. This year I'm living with my parents and they are obsessed with holiday parties, so I'm staying in a hotel for 2 weeks just to escape it.

 

[divinemistress87]

I agree about the materialism being obnoxious. I'm also annoyed by the endless cheesy holiday parties. I prefer intimate family gatherings, not a bunch of shallow small talk with people I barely know. This year I'm living with my parents and they are obsessed with holiday parties, so I'm staying in a hotel for 2 weeks just to escape it.

Oh thats a good idea I may go book hotel for a bit to

 

[Tig]

No doubt, the holidays suck big donkey balls,
I'm glad I'm never going to go through them again.

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

Couldn't have said it better.

 

[AleTurk]

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

Suicide rates are higher during holidays and birthdays for a reason!

 

[Cavalcade]

They are really stressful. I hope that you're able to find some time to do something kind for yourself during them. I struggle a lot with the feeling of loneliness around Christmas- my brother always has a full house, makes a fantastic dinner, and is generally very cheerful around this time of year, which makes the distance more difficult. I dislike the feeling of infringing on other people's joy during this season. The commercialization of Christmas and the total cashgrab it becomes exhausts me profoundly. The sales can be nice for hobby stuff, at least.

I do like New Years, though- it makes me smile a little at how hopeful people are, how ambitious they are with their goals: it makes me happy to see how glow-y and happy they get when daydreaming about what they'd like to do, what they're looking forward to. Kind of gives me a second hand hope.

 

[tbh2023]

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

Well talking about Grinch, we saw him today at target … he was shopping too. I don't celebrate any holidays. It's a waste of my time. Celebrate what exactly?? Santa ?! I can't even believe it's 2025 already and people celebrates stupid nonsense holidays. it's very stressful to me too and I'm hoping to get myself together and go through with my initial CTB plan. This whole existing and fucking toxic fake society is making me even more sick.

 

[bubo]

Couldn't agree more. The holidays feel like they get more depressing each year. It's to the point I physically can't stand it, the holidays make me want to destroy things at this point. People act like it's the best thing ever, like I'm glad *they* can be happy but it's miserable for anyone with common sense. It's just a capitalist holiday, there's nothing special about it. It might have been fun when we were kids but now that we're adults and can understand what's happening around us better any 'festive spirit' in the air has turned into lead.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

This used to be the one time of the year where I could feel like a human being. But past 2 years, (this one and the last,) I feel more like a completely garbage human being. All my family lives around here, yet, I get no invites anywhere although they are definitely doing things with other people. It's a stark reminder that I am truly, truly a garbage individual.

 

[mango-meridian]

Today I was completely ready to just ditch my family and drive home. I had planned to stay till the 26th but I just can't.

All of our modern holidays are completely pointless and devoid of anything approaching interesting, heartwarming or spiritual. They're just an excuse for corporations to milk the populace for an extra 5% after already sucking them dry for 11 months straight.

I never had any connection with anyone in my family. Now that I'm an adult, I can easily go into autopilot when I'm around them during holidays and act like everything's fine and cool, though deep down I can't stand it. I don't feel safe telling any of them anything about what's really going on in my life, and I feel inauthentic pretending to even be one of them when I never even felt properly accepted to begin with.

I have been surviving at my parent's but tomorrow we're going to go visit three different sides of my family all in one day, and I absolutely cannot do it. I don't know what I'm going to do. I cannot take the comments about my weight, my appearance, and my diet. I cannot take the completely dumb banal pointless questions about my career which is going absolutely nowhere. This is all people seem to be able to do when it comes to small talk, is to ask me about work or to comment on my weight, appearance or dietary choices, because anyone attempting to seriously better their health with diet is apparently a freak deserving of ridicule.

 

[8leveloquenfrn4evr8]

The holidays always make me more suicidal. I hate xmas and nye the most. I have no real family and hardly any irl friends. I have been a recluse for years now but when I know that others are cementing their relationships again through family gatherings it just sticks the blade in deeper than it already was. I always feel so lonely and isolated and nothing will ever fix that. I try to have online chat friendships but they are always a fucking joke. They are not real. There is no way of even knowing who you are really talking to. You get a bit closer to a real friendship if you have video calls but even that isn´t the same as in person experiences. It is all just a sick, vacuous joke. I waste time typing words but it is just a cope and like all copes, it doesn´t actually work. Limping along the side of the road is not living. Not living ought to be death but instead I am here or typing to anonymous people who I will never actually know. They are all worthless to me in the end and vice versa. This is a hellish realm!! Kill us all! Kill us all!! We have to get the fuck out!! Let us out!!

 

[CogitoMori]

Holidays make me want to ctb even more. Sorry to sound like a Grinch but I cant stand how materalistic they are. People will go in debt over Christmas or spend to much money on shit that kids and most people will forget about the next year. People will get even more depressed if they dont have family to be with around this time or being around their family makes them more depressed or cant afford to buy gifts which is sad. It seems holidays just bring out more stress in people than its worth

Most people don't even know why chocolate oranges are a US tradition now. If it was actually about giving what you could and things that are essential instead of consumerism it'd be different.