Hikikomori/NEET Thread

[freedompass]

I've been a neet on disability for 30 years, I'm 61 now. I'm grateful not to be in poverty in my country (U.K.) and that I have really lovely social housing. The biggest downside of the lifestyle for me is boredom. I have a pessimistic outlook on life generally so I honestly don't envy those with jobs, families, whatever. Who is 'happy'? I don't see a bunch of 'happy' people. Pretty much everyone has their copes. I prefer the company of those that don't buy into how great life is supposed to be. Or mask how they really feel inside. I do know people who seem to genuinely enjoy life…that is fine, all power to them. Even their nice life is only one bad accident or illness away from turning to shit. I suppose this philosophy in itself helps me cope. 'Yes, my life may suck but yours doesn't seem great either'.

 

[Luchs]

I wish I could just live without ever having to see another person again. All I need are my cats and stuffed animals. Was a NEET for most of 2022, but now I've been working a few months and my parents are trying to presszre me into uni. Idk how I can cope with that. I just wanna game and chill in nature all alone.

 

[Archness]

I dunno how people only feel the emptiness of NEET after years, I've been NEET for almost 2 years. I'm already considering ending my NEET life by a noose.

I'm naturally a homebody. Sure I can venture out when there's a "need", but overall most life is at home and in room. Not much really happens in life.

I'm working with an agency to help get myself a job. They can handle that stuff much better then I could. Tho it seems they're either busy with many like myself, and/or having some serious difficulty finding a "real job" for me. Not to mention I'd be the prime target of the coming recession.

There's also the issue that It'd be the same, just that I go to work regularly. It'd pay the bills, but I won't rly bother using the excess $$$ past treating myself on occasion. I don't think I could ever really be a part of "society" now, at best I'd clock in on Mondays to earn the right to fuck off to my room anyways.

Well as long as I ain't N.E.E.T. I'm apparently a full and functional member of society. I mean, with NEET it feels like I'm already dead, just throwing in an occupation would make it like a zombie or something.

 

[unnormal9]

We usually get money from our parents or are on welfare.

Someone of us have neither. Imagine that pain; it's all you can do.

 

[Hikikomori1]

Someone of us have neither. Imagine that pain; it's all you can do.

How does that work? Without welfare or parents money/support a NEET or hikki cannot survive.

 

[loyalskateboard]

I don't work or study. I still live with my mother. I leave the house maybe once every two weeks for a medical appointment. I've been extremely socially isolated since I was a kid. I developed agoraphobia as a teenager. I feel very alone in this world. I don't see a way out.

 

[unnormal9]

How does that work? Without welfare or parents money/support a NEET or hikki cannot survive.

I'm wondering the same—why I am not dead yet.

 

[freedompass]

It's basically 'living' or shall we say 'existing' by default isn't it. I don't envy others. Never had the normal goals and dreams so never experienced the sense of loss or disappointment some describe. In some ways I got lucky considering my situation. Certainly in a material sense. We all find our copes. One is to look down on those who seem happy, 'well adjusted'. For all I know it may be 100% genuine. I can't read minds. Good for them.

And regarding the reason we're all here…the brutal, yes brutal, mechanics involved in any, yes any, ctb attempt no matter where it scores on Exit's 'peaceful and painless' scale ensure that until things become truly unbearable this theoretical, in name only 'life' will go on.

 

[murmur]

ive been a neet for about 6 months now, it was by "luck" that I checked off all the boxes for welfare, had they seen I can bare working for more than half a year I probably wouldn't have qualified, I unintendedly worked mostly under the table from the age I could work till all my motivation working shit jobs had dropped after realizing i not only dont want to live, i strive to die, I think it was also the fact that I've had unstable housing and intensive therapy for the entirety of my teenage years so, they had cold hard records dating years of my living conditions, it is strange, it is like a backhanded accomplishment, to be so "lucky" to have lived through enough shit on paper that i can be granted this aid, i didn't mention i was suicidal, i just knew that if i didn't qualify i would desperately end my life upon receiving their notice of rejection.

 

[axxxu]

Don't know if I qualify as neet, since I go to a educational program, but compared to others I've seen, people around my age have been working part time, already graduated into college, or have a social life, then I assume I am a neet. Other than having to continue my education I'm in my room all day playing games or watching videos. I rarely go outside or leave my room. I constantly feel the pressure for conforming bearing down towards me..
What's it like for you?

 

[bed]

never had a job in my life. graduated from high school in 2013 and I've been a NEET ever since. Been on disability for the majority of it. Wild to think a decade has gone by. I had no intentions of living after I graduated but alas I'm still alive. My reasons for continuing as a NEET for the past 5ish years has been primarily health related though. Have chronic wide spread pain and can't do much most days. I miss not being in physical pain every waking second.

 

[ForgottenTomb]

I dropped out of high school and became a NEET afterwards. I am currently trying to leave this lifestyle behind without much success thus far. I will keep trying to find my place on this world, because there is a person inside of me who truly does want to achieve and make a positive impact on this world, she just hasn't come out yet because of laziness, personal flaws and limitations. Staying a NEET 5 years later is NOT the path I want to be on.

 

[GlassAlwaysEmpty]

I've been a NEET for almost 2 and a half years now.
When I was in my last job I constantly thought about leaving as I struggled to balance work and my mental health. As a whole my life is worse now than it was when I was working.

I don't have the pressure to perform at work, or put force myself to talk to my coworkers when I really didn't want too. I don't have to force myself to wake up every morning.

I miss the routine and the feeling of contributing to something, I generally dislike social interaction but I have virtually zero social interaction now with anyone which can be lonely at times.

There's positives and negatives of both being in work and being a NEET.

 

[toro]

i used to be! nowadays i cope with being outside way better, but i used get panic attacks when i even thought about being in my own backgarden, i was terrified of being looked at. i still struggle occasionally with that sort of thing, but nowhere near the degree i used to be.

if youre looking to recover, you can, this isnt a lost cause! im not gonna sit here and say it'll fix all of your problems, but i cant deny how much better i feel when ive had a good day out :) having a job and leaving the house for it kinda sucks, but when you get the money... buying stuff online isnt as fun as getting to hold it in your hands immediately after buying! i went to a con recently in my shitty little town and got to buy a ton of anime stuff, theres people just like you everywhere

 

[StarMessenger]

Yeah... Finished high school two years ago and i cant seem to go to college, or get a job, im too socially anxious and inept, also have a big fear of failure. I don't have many friends, so i spend most of my days alone in my room. It's hell, the only thing keeping me sane is my cat

 

[Illidan77]

i've been a NEET for many years long time ago due to anxiety.. and 2023 i kinda choose to be one.

 

[sulli]

at least hikki makes it sound cute *copes*

 

[Crystal]

Being a NEET for almost a decade now after graduating from college studying art, never worked a part time job I feel ashamed like a failure in life/want to restart it all compared to everyone else I know of have gotten married or settling down at this age. I always thought I had barely anything to write on a resume and being anxious over job interviews with social anxiety which these issues should've been addressed long ago, things would've been easier to deal with in the past and less competition back then with less people around. I should've kept in contact with my last female college friend to keep me in reality check.
The longer I stuck around the harder it is to get out of this hellhole I dug myself in, my parents offered me to study further education in university years ago but I didn't have the confidence to do so and even stopped drawing back in 2016.
I only have a handful of online friends than real life ones, one of them actually chose to be a NEET since 2013 for his weeb interests though and doesn't feel ashamed or sad about it so he's like an optimist compared to my pessimism.

 

[leloyon]

I have completed school, so it looks like I am a NEET again.
I see no job prospects for me due to my mental state, and in any case I do not plan to live for much longer (I will CTB at the end of next year at the latest). I will likely go back to my hikikomori ways for the time being. As I said, despite getting back into school my mental state hasn't changed and things have only gotten worse if anything.

 

[Remeer]

what an interesting post
I can currently confirm myself as a neet, and I must say that I love it, the pace of life is very calm
I still have to say that the first times I found myself being a neet seemed chaotic and suffering.
therefore I see it as a different process depending on the stage in life in which one is, prejudice itself being one of the big problems of not enjoying being a neet in my case
greetings, grateful for your post, it led me to answer ;)

 

[internetgirl]

rot and play. learn to code so I can stay at home and still get some income. I used to feel bad about the constant spewl of content and instant dopamine. Twitter, Instagram, games, videos, movies, music. go! go! go! you've permanently ruined your attention span. but I don't really care anymore.

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

Im hikikomori, in total its probably more than 10 years..
No work or school

 

[LadyAlastor]

Im hikikomori, in total its probably more than 10 years..
No work or school

How have you survived?
I've been working part time and in food stamps just to live.

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

How have you survived?
I've been working part time and in food stamps just to live.

We are extreamely poor, but i don't know how to say in english my mother have the pension, and some money left by the grandmother, also here in italy you can get money from governmant if you are poor and didn't work ("reddito di cittadinanza")

 

[ehhhhh1333]

funny how i found this song and watched welcome to the NHK around 5 years ago, relating to them more and more each year that has passed

 

[Ambivalent1]

God was made flesh and dwelt amongst us as a neet. We will inherit the earth

We are extreamely poor, but i don't know how to say in english my mother have the pension, and some money left by the grandmother, also here in italy you can get money from governmant if you are poor and didn't work ("reddito di cittadinanza")

Italy is fancy

 

[theslasher]

I guess I am technically a neet rn to a degree since I dropped out of college last year and quit my dead end job recently. But I need to start working again bc I'm broke. And I'd rather not attach my identity to anything like this or else i'd never be able to change.

 

[Brown-Jacket Revy]

Oldest neet on ss probably. I have had to accept it, because although I've tried to work a bit throughout the years, I am now deteriorating so badly due to my condition that struggling against it is just wasted energy that I don't have. I can't work anymore, and my brain doesn't work well enough to study, so that only leaves mindless entertainment. I barely even go outside anymore.

I relate to this a lot.

I'm 36 and have pretty much remained in reclusion since 2009, with very brief intermittent periods of holding jobs or "living life".

I can't focus on shit, either, so learning new complex skills seems out of the question.

All that's left is the zombified scrolling of social media which only fuels my rage towards humanity and life in general.

 

[Sweet Tart]

100%
i spend my days on my computer, playing games or sleeping cuddled up with my cat and calling it "recovery"
in reality that recoverys been going on for 3+ years and i dont wanna get better because im comfortable with my uninteresting schedule lmao

This sounds a lot like my recovery. It's what I can do right now. I wish my cat were a bit more cuddly, tho she is at least a very engaging and social creature.

 

[sp4rk]

I am in no words a NEET/Hikikomori but I am curious how you all are able to continue with your ways with no job. I know being a NEET/Hikikomori is not all that from what I have read but I remember thinking of becoming one until I realised I have no source of income whatsoever and getting a WFH job is impossible for me.