Have you ever kissed/had sexual relations with someone you did not find physically attractive?

[RobynHood]

What was your experience like? I used to do this a lot. I had a hard time figuring out if I was sexually attracted to those I "connected" well with. I used to be captivated by the idea of someone being attracted to me and failed to realize if I even liked them in return. I've been thinking a lot about it these days and considering how sick I am.

 

[aviator8]

nope ive only kissed once and never had sex...thanks for asking.
but this sie will give you some interesting ansers to the question if this thread isn't buried

 

[TowerUpright]

Yes, sadly. I'm married to her. For just shy of 15 years.. I won't go into details publicly, but let us just say as her libido dramatically increases as she gets older, my desire to CTB rises even more.

What I wouldn't give to just fall asleep next to a woman (no sex) that I found sexually attractive. Even for an evening.

 

[RobynHood]

Yes, sadly. I'm married to her. For just shy of 15 years.. I won't go into details publicly, but let us just say as her libido dramatically increases as she gets older, my desire to CTB rises even more.

What I wouldn't give to just fall asleep next to a woman (no sex) that I found sexually attractive. Even for an evening.

Thanks for sharing. May I ask why you find it so appealing to just be around a woman that you find sexually attractive?

 

[aviator8]

Yes, sadly. I'm married to her. For just shy of 15 years.. I won't go into details publicly, but let us just say as her libido dramatically increases as she gets older, my desire to CTB rises even more.

What I wouldn't give to just fall asleep next to a woman (no sex) that I found sexually attractive. Even for an evening.

why do you no longer find the person attractive though? now she is older but that doesn't mean she is any less herself than she was when you married her.

 

[TowerUpright]

I suppose the appeal is buried in my past, when I was romantically involved with people, just not those I was very attracted to. Not that I didn't have the opportunity to, though. I just ran from that bunch, thinking I'm not good enough for Jennifer. Tracy is better off with someone else. Let's say I have issues..

I'd love, for one time, to just fall asleep holding someone smart, interested (even witty), and even just modestly attractive.

Thats just a fantasy though. No way that would happen IRL.

Hope that helps. It not that I'm a perv, or something. I'm just perpetually depressed..

 

[Alchemist]

I haven't, but I wouldn't mind it at all. At least that way I could feel a bit of affection.

 

[MerrySkeleton]

Plenty of times. I find that depression/boredom either spikes my libido to the point where I'll go out and try to pick up anyone or kills it for weeks (if not months) at a time.

 

[Help_Me]

Only kissed some person which was ugly enough for me only because she smoked like hell.

 

[Empty Smile]

Only when I was pretty damn drunk.

 

[bunny]

yes, with two different people. i have a need to please, i guess. i don't really care about my own needs...

 

[Rocksandsand]

Hahahaha I was a prostitute. I made a living out of shagging people I didn't find attractive

 

[Boonks]

Yes...and I had to stop. During the act. I had to rip out his squiggly piggly, bolt to the bathroom to puke. Ended up puking all over myself in the tub.

I did that once. I have no intention of repeating that experience.

Also, I fell in love with my husband online before meeting him in person. I was disappointed to discover he looked nothing like his pictures. I was kind of screwed there. Ended up marrying him anyways.

 

[TowerUpright]

why do you no longer find the person attractive though? now she is older but that doesn't mean she is any less herself than she was when you married her.

Forgot to hit send last night... Ugh..

I honestly never thought she was sexually attractive at all. But, it was her, or no girlfriend at all. And, really, I had this need to be with someone.
Fast forward, and I'm mentally far worse than where I was. And with kids as well. The only thing delaying my departure.

 

[bea1974]

Yes I have. Many times. It was my job. I was an escort aka prostitute, I offered "the girlfriend experience".

 

[Rocksandsand]

Yes I have. Many times. It was my job. I was an escort aka prostitute, I offered "the girlfriend experience".

I hated offering that. So much bad oral sex urgh

 

[bea1974]

I hated offering that. So much bad oral sex urgh

Ha ha yeah I became a very good actress indeed :)

 

[Alchemist]

Yes I have. Many times. It was my job. I was an escort aka prostitute, I offered "the girlfriend experience".

It's funny, reading that hits like a truck because I know it's true. Fornmany of us sex workers are the only way we can at least know what human contact feels like and thanks to those acting skills actually is something you get to believe even though deep down you know she cares about you as much as the barista from starbucks.

It feel bad knowing you won't be ever get the genuine stuff, but a someone skilled and enough self delusion help. Just like how you can believe you saw Mickey at Disneyland and forget it's just a sweaty teenager in a costume.

Now I'm crying at work but I think I should thank you because even if it was something you didn't enjoy, at least you made someone happy at least for a while.

 

[Rocksandsand]

It's funny, reading that hits like a truck because I know it's true. Fornmany of us sex workers are the only way we can at least know what human contact feels like and thanks to those acting skills actually is something you get to believe even though deep down you know she cares about you as much as the barista from starbucks.

It feel bad knowing you won't be ever get the genuine stuff, but a someone skilled and enough self delusion help. Just like how you can believe you saw Mickey at Disneyland and forget it's just a sweaty teenager in a costume.

Now I'm crying at work but I think I should thank you because even if it was something you didn't enjoy, at least you made someone happy at least for a while.

I never had a client say anything as sweet or kind as that in person. As much as I poke fun at my experience in the industry, it's kind of a privilege getting to know people on the most intimate level, even if the work itself can be stressful. You sound like you would be a very kind and respectful man and those clients stick with us

 

[Alchemist]

I never had a client say anything as sweet or kind as that in person. As much as I poke fun at my experience in the industry, it's kind of a privilege getting to know people on the most intimate level, even if the work itself can be stressful. You sound like you would be a very kind and respectful man and those clients stick with us

Well, I try to be just decent and treat the way I'd like to be treated. Though I would probably wouldn't be able to say all this in person. I'm too awkward and I have trouble opening up irl. It's the least I could do for someone who's putting up with me.

 

[bea1974]

It's funny, reading that hits like a truck because I know it's true. Fornmany of us sex workers are the only way we can at least know what human contact feels like and thanks to those acting skills actually is something you get to believe even though deep down you know she cares about you as much as the barista from starbucks.

It feel bad knowing you won't be ever get the genuine stuff, but a someone skilled and enough self delusion help. Just like how you can believe you saw Mickey at Disneyland and forget it's just a sweaty teenager in a costume.

Now I'm crying at work but I think I should thank you because even if it was something you didn't enjoy, at least you made someone happy at least for a while.

Actually I did care about some of my clients, and wasn't always acting. Of course not all, but definitely some, who I still remember fondly.

 

[Wayfaerer]

Hahahaha I was a prostitute. I made a living out of shagging people I didn't find attractive

Thank you for your service!

 

[Mr2005]

Yes but it's worse when you don't even respect them as a human. Really sold out that day.

 

[a_strange_day]

yes I have, I've always been attracted to people that the vast majority would call unattractive, not really ugly but definitely far from being seen attractive from a conventionnal pov
maybe it's because I'm broken myself but I've always felt more connected with that kind of people, there is a "je ne sais quoi" that makes sex much better

 

[Alchemist]

Actually I did care about some of my clients, and wasn't always acting. Of course not all, but definitely some, who I still remember fondly.

That's true, even if you mantain some professional distance is impossible to not grow somewhat attached to some people.

 

[Laststop]

Once. When I first moved to where I am now back in the early 2000s I got my first Internet. Back then, as many of you will remember, chat rooms were a big thing. Guys were like, "A/S/L??" That's age, sex, and location, for you younger kids, lol. I met a woman who lived about an hour away. She was much older than me. We both were honest about who we were. But she was dishonest about one thing. Socially I've always been very unskilled, and don't really like being around people. I was very upfront about this with her. I made sure, over and over, she understood that, although I like me some sexy time like everyone else, I was unable to function in a normal relationship. So we got together and started "doing it." As soon as that happened she started trying to groom a relationship where I was going to fulfill the role of life partner for her. She would get after me about it, then back off when I reminded her we had an understanding. She wasn't attractive to me, but she was very kinky, and into it. I got to do things with her I never had before, and she was up for it. I would have never done those things with someone under false pretenses. She even offered to pay all the bills if I would move in together. Eventually, she accused me of using her. I got really angry, and told her I had always been very honest, and even turned down letting her support me. I never took anything from her. It's the last person I had sex with. I'm done with people.

 

[Soul]

Many times, with people I liked and had fun with, people who intrigued me, people whose imaginations lit them up inside. I have nothing against physically attractive people except when they haven't bothered to develop interesting minds or intriguing personalities.

 

[coma-baby]

When I was in middle school, I stripped for a neighbor boy. He asked my friend to strip for him down by the creek. He was an ugly mother fucker. My friend was really pretty. I didn't know what to expect, but I had such a big crush on her. I figured if I got naked with her, something might happen. Even though it was the neighbor boy that was getting an eye full of both of us. I don't know. People do weird things.

A year or so later, I was at a party at one of my friends' house. They were all older kids and they were playing truth or dare. One of the girls was dared to kiss me. I wasn't attracted to the girl at all, but I thought she was a cool friend. I didn't like the kiss. She smelled like my mom. Her lips felt like my mom's but more forceful. I've had some weird dreams here and there since then.

Again, kids are just weird.

 

[kkatt]

Yes. Unfortunately more times than I care to think about. I've made no secret in this group of the years I spent working as an escort.
Unlike girls who work on the street and have to just get the deed over with as quickly as possible, escorts charge by the hour, allowing you time to relax, chat, offer a massage and generally get to know your client. Somehow, this makes a not so good looking client much more attractive

 

[YukiFox]

Hell yes. Two of my ex boyfriends are ugly from my today's perspective. And the saddest part that with ALL partners I couldn't reach the one year of relationship.
I'm a really low libido person. Perhaps the future estrogen helps me with that.