Venting Gf keeps gaslighting and blame shifting

[bipolar22]

I have bpd and my gf won't stop gaslighting and being general neglectful even towards my fish.
like getting a fish for me in a small bowl which is too tiny and doesnt wanna get a bigger one so the fish doesn't have to suffer.
Also mskes false promises and then engages blame shifting as if its my fault she didnt loose her obese weight and that dhe didnt make sn effort learn german so we cant go to germnsy .
She has dpd and some toxic behaviors, learned by her abusive upbringing.
I feel bad for her but also I get triggered by manipulative behaviors. and it makes me splitt on her. What you und think? can we work this out eventually?

 

[bipolar22]

Ah I see. I need to set clear boundaries and ans work on my bpd patterns to reduce the impact of it.
Intersting how just a bit of self reflection can lead to great insights especially while intoxicated
Intersting how just a bit of self reflection can lead to great insights especially while intoxicated

 

[bipolar22]

I like this place its kinda like a blank space for reflection and introspection.

 

[h i]

when she gaslights a blatant lie, keep a calm tone and say "i didnt say that". also she doesnt care , she clearly has will power to lie to you about anything, she doesnt deserve a kind person like you who gives her the benefit of the doubt. if she wanted to, you would feel it