@bukowski - watched it! that was very intense & emotional for me!, esp, as I my upbringing was so so awful and I WISH I had been adopted- though not in the same way that these guys were of course. Lots to think about/consider.
I felt like it was frustrating that it was never conclusive whether it was study on mental health (as many of the original parent had mental health- was that jut coincidence and a matter of conveninece as these people were more likely to give up there child-or was it indeed one of the focal points of the study) OR if it was a one of them suggested purely a study on variable in parenting style.
If it was a study in hereditary factors in mental health-then it is problematic-failing as it does to take into account seperation anxiety from not only the blood maternal figure at a very young age but also in their very closely genetically linked siblings- as they had said they all hit their heads and did strange things like that even as babies- so in fact the study in and of itself could certainly be said to exacerbate any innate mental health issue anyway, possibly even be the initial caue of them- so in that way - it is already flawed and bias, that before even taking into account finding out later on that you have essentially been a lab rat for your whole childhood & been lied to all that time- even if you had ok mental health before-thats gonna be a major head f**k.
I felt a little bad for the dad of the one who ctb- as at that point in the docu the suggestion was that it was largely a study on parental style- so in that case the implication is-why was he the one to ctb & not his brothers-but even though that dad did express remore I found it quite revealing that he said 'he didnt discuss his problems with me' & 'we didnt tell our problems to one another' whilst in the next breathe saying 'we protected each other-we were a nice family', something of a dichotomy there-IF they were so protective-why couldnt they share their problems- who could he go to, if not his adopted parents? still was sad though as it was clear he still loved them-but the film made it look like the other two did have more love and attention shown to them.
I did not like one of the researchers near the end-almost laughing about how he didnt want to slip up and say to one of them, ive just been with your identical brother! that pissed me off.
I was glad that they highlighted at the end that many of their similarities were exaggerated and overly focused on, even they admitted they played up to it to a certain extent- as they did kind of become sort of celebrities-it almost became a bit of an act- and the media only focused on the things that were alike-like smoking a very common cigarette brand-rather than acknowledging or allowing them the scope to be their own people and let their own personalities come through. That in itself may have been quite destablising for their sense of identity as they 'morphed' into one- where as they had previously not even known they had a brother till a v. late age.
Why did they want to meet the blood mother but not the dad I wonder?
Would he have still been alive if they had all been adopted into one family and grown up together& not been part of a very unethical study? Would it in some ways have been better if that had never found each other and the truth of their adoption? that would be sad in theory-but would it in some ways have protected the most vunerable one of the three? Would he have been ok if he'd been placed with a family that was a better 'fit' for him? That's the sad thing about a film such as this (and potentially any suicide) perhaps no one will ever know the true cause and at one point it could have been prevented, there are too many variables and too many different factor at play for there to be a conclusive answer. Definitely a very f**ked up experiment though- that should never have happened- it makes you wonder what other 'scientific' studies could be taking place right now-that wont come out untill a documentary is come out in 60 yrs time!
thks for the recommendation
