Feeling conflicted about a suicidal friend

[hana0]

Sorry for my English.
I met a friend on discord 2 months ago, we've been talking almost daily since then. In the beginning it was a pretty casual get-to-know-each-other chat. But over the past few weeks he's been more open about his struggles. He's been expressing the things he's been through, his self-harm and suicidal thoughts. I've gone through similar things so I emphasize with him, I try to talk to him about it in a calm, non-judgemental manner. I try to not say the cheesy "life's worth living" type of stuff, just more of the "I get it" things, even though I know I can't fully know what he's feeling. But I can't help but feel conflicted. Over the past few months I've become more suicidal myself, making my own plans. I haven't been talking much about my problems because I don't want to risk making him feel worse. When I talk to him, I don't know what to say. I care about him and don't want him to die, but at the same time I wish I could die. Idk if it's a selfish thing to do? I don't want him to do it and would never encourage him to do it, but I don't really have a different solution to offer. Only thing I can do is talk to him, show him pictures of my dog or my plants, wish him a good day etc. but I don't even know if it's helpful in any way.
I wonder if any of you were ever in a similar situation?

 

[FuneralCry]

I think it's best to just listen to them, be respectful and compassionate, don't force any pro-life nonsense onto them as the reality is that it's their decision deciding what to do, there's no "solution" you can offer, just show that you understand as you said that you can relate. If someone wants to die then that should be respected, it would be so hypocritical telling someone else not to ctb when you want to die yourself.

 

[hana0]

I think it's best to just listen to them, be respectful and compassionate, don't force any pro-life nonsense onto them as the reality is that it's their decision deciding what to do, there's no "solution" you can offer, just show that you understand as you said that you can relate. If someone wants to die then that should be respected, it would be so hypocritical telling someone else not to ctb when you want to die yourself.

Thanks. I do feel like I'm being hypocritical, I'll just try to support him

 

[Valky]

'Just' listening can really go an immense way. I would recommend not to push your views on them, be it that you want them to live or to die (I hope you get what I mean)

 

[hana0]

'Just' listening can really go an immense way. I would recommend not to push your views on them, be it that you want them to live or to die (I hope you get what I mean)

I understand, thank you

 

[Valky]

Also, you are a kind soul but please remember to take care of yourself too, it's okay to set boundaries :) I wish you all the best!