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JustSwingingTheD
Experienced
- Jan 31, 2022
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I (male) was reading this book "come as you are", because i heard its great and I wanted to learn about the female sexuality. I'm about 70 pages in and so far its quite interesting, i've actually already learned something about my own sexuality, which is if possible even more interesting than learning about chicks. That said, I had to stop reading and write this after reading a quote from some anonymous woman, describing her personal sexual "brakes" like this:
"you might have some inclinations and then youre like, -wait a minute you cant do that that guy is a loser-" the quote wasn't noted in anyway as something weird or offensive by the author.
I got a bit pissed off about this. The thing that bothers me about it is that you literally never hear women being described as "losers" or "incels" (no difference really) by men, no matter how broke or otherwise pathetic they might be. Women seem to have this mystical initial worth as human beings that men don't have. I don't remember ever hearing the word loser being used about a woman i knew, women might talk about themselves and other women like this, but i've never witnessed that either.
So to me, it was suspiciously lot like quoting a man saying "you might have some inclinations but then you're like - wait a minute you cant do that, this girl is a total slut-". Think about the scandal that would happen if a male author made a book about male sexuality, and then casually put a quote like that in there. I guess that some toxic "male self-improvement" internet guru might do just that, but nobody takes those clowns seriously anyways. This was supposed to be a greatly educating book.
In the very same book (in some later pages) its made clear how important it is for women to love themselves as they are, no matter how fat or ugly they might be. In fact, there apparently is no such thing as fat or ugly when it comes to women, everyone is beautiful and blablabla yadadada. So i guess it's okay pointing out that there are men out there who clearly are losers, but when it comes to women they can't be fat/ugly/slutty or otherwise unattractive and when it comes to women, no flaw is really a flaw.
The areas in which different sexes are expected to perform in life, and consequently get shamed in, differ. What matters is respect. We all need some of it, the male losers and the female losers. Lack of it, especially coming from the opposite sex can be very harmful.
"you might have some inclinations and then youre like, -wait a minute you cant do that that guy is a loser-" the quote wasn't noted in anyway as something weird or offensive by the author.
I got a bit pissed off about this. The thing that bothers me about it is that you literally never hear women being described as "losers" or "incels" (no difference really) by men, no matter how broke or otherwise pathetic they might be. Women seem to have this mystical initial worth as human beings that men don't have. I don't remember ever hearing the word loser being used about a woman i knew, women might talk about themselves and other women like this, but i've never witnessed that either.
So to me, it was suspiciously lot like quoting a man saying "you might have some inclinations but then you're like - wait a minute you cant do that, this girl is a total slut-". Think about the scandal that would happen if a male author made a book about male sexuality, and then casually put a quote like that in there. I guess that some toxic "male self-improvement" internet guru might do just that, but nobody takes those clowns seriously anyways. This was supposed to be a greatly educating book.
In the very same book (in some later pages) its made clear how important it is for women to love themselves as they are, no matter how fat or ugly they might be. In fact, there apparently is no such thing as fat or ugly when it comes to women, everyone is beautiful and blablabla yadadada. So i guess it's okay pointing out that there are men out there who clearly are losers, but when it comes to women they can't be fat/ugly/slutty or otherwise unattractive and when it comes to women, no flaw is really a flaw.
The areas in which different sexes are expected to perform in life, and consequently get shamed in, differ. What matters is respect. We all need some of it, the male losers and the female losers. Lack of it, especially coming from the opposite sex can be very harmful.
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