Does your biological clock tell you to have kids despite being suicidal?

[blueclover_.]

I am a highly affectionate guy so I would love a relationship, but I have always had zero desire for children. The natural instinct to produce children is missing from my brain. I do not mind the frequent practicing of the act of making them though.

Finding sweet guys who don't want kids is so hard irl. I'm tired of the dating cycle of getting close—ask about kids—leaving. How do we antinatalists find each other irl?

 

[GrumpyFrog]

If the biological clock is a real thing mine sure must be broken.

 

[freedompass]

This post is kinda close to the bone for me as my situation is somewhat unusual and complex. I gave birth to a child who was conceived and carried while I was psychotic. So it was never really my choice as such. I had no support from the dad or any relatives in my city. I lapsed into mania several times while he was still an infant so he had an unstable first 3 years. I've struggled with a lot of guilt and self loathing for feeling that I totally failed as a mother. He's 26 now. Hindsight is a great thing, but yeah with mental illness like I had having a co parent or relative to share the load with was essential. I thought I had that but it didn't turn out that way.

 

[CogitoMori]

I'm a trans guy, on T for 1.5 years, and about this age now. I don't know if it's a "biological clock" thing, but even with every logical thought I have about not wanting or not being able to have kids, there's some small urge to get pregnant. It could just be seeing people my age with their kids, but I figured if it was that my drive to adopt would've been strengthened rather than my urge to reproduce.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't have a biological desire to have children. I don't know why or how but I guess I'm lucky in that regard since I'm an antinatalist

 

[Namelesa]

I do think I have a small biological desire to have children but I am anti-natalist so I think its wrong to procreate and even if I didn't think that way, I still won't have children as I know I won't be a good enough parent due to that I can't even take care of myself and my mental problems would get in the way. I also don't want to give that child any mental illness or become trans through my genetics. I think I am just going to stick looking after my dog and being a caregiver to my friend who age regresses as a way to fulfill my parental desires as those won't create new life or cause too much stress on me as I do find purpose and joy in being able to look after and take care of someone.

I'm a trans guy, on T for 1.5 years, and about this age now. I don't know if it's a "biological clock" thing, but even with every logical thought I have about not wanting or not being able to have kids, there's some small urge to get pregnant. It could just be seeing people my age with their kids, but I figured if it was that my drive to adopt would've been strengthened rather than my urge to reproduce.

I am a trans girl and I am something similar with having a small urge to impregnate someone for some reason even if I know I would feel very dysphoric if I actually did it and have a lot of emotional and logical reasons to not do that.