Discussion Does anyone feel like they must lie no matter what?

[oneess]

Most of my life I was a liar, I lied sweet little lies to everyone around me, at one stage of my life I could say I did it so people would accept me. today I think it's more like "If I don't lie I must be a boring person"

Most of the times I lie about things in conversations without even having any control over it, feeling guilty afterwards and that I must be a very empty and boring person. Like I'm just a body with no matter inside of it, even tho in reality I'm the opposite. Anybody feels like that sometimes?

 

[Oyoy]

I am a terrible liar. I confess to everybody and it's way too much reality.

 

[BlackPoppet]

I've lied before as well, to make myself seem more interesting. Hoping that people would except me, when I was a teen. So I could blend in, and not stand out.
Now I tell the truth a lot more often. I don't look for people's approval as much. It doesn't do a thing for me. I can lie well when I want to, and not so well when I don't want to, if you know what I mean. I always try to be more honest now.

 

[oneess]

I've lied before as well, to make myself seem more interesting. Hoping that people would except me, when I was a teen. So I could blend in, and not stand out.
Now I tell the truth a lot more often. I don't look for people's approval as much. It doesn't do a thing for me. I can lie well when I want to, and not so well when I don't want to, if you know what I mean. I always try to be more honest now.

I get what you mean. Most of the last year I had the chance of being more honest most of the time, I think the reason of that was because of my friends from my recovery group, but since the quarantine in my country and the loneliness that came with it I'm pretty regressed with being honest. I so try my best, but I'm pretty sure you know it's hard as well

 

[BlackPoppet]

I get what you mean. Most of the last year I had the chance of being more honest most of the time, I think the reason of that was because of my friends from my recovery group, but since the quarantine in my country and the loneliness that came with it I'm pretty regressed with being honest. I so try my best, but I'm pretty sure you know it's hard as well

Yeah it is hard. You can always PM me if you feel isolated and need a friendly ear.
I guess I don't lie as much anymore because I realised I was losing a part of myself and I didn't like the way it made me feel. I felt like a fraud in the end, plus as I got older I decided to be more upfront and assertive with people. That included saying no to peoples demands a lot more. It boosted my self confidence and I felt in control for the first time in my life. I still tell the odd white lie though, so long as I don't harm with lies, it's ok.

 

[Mr2005]

If I was a liar I wouldn't admit to it

 

[one4all]

If i were to say No.. but i felt i had to lie, that would mean Yes then. But if i didn't feel i had to lie then that would be No.

 

[blanketyblk]

I lie to people a my work about my social life. most of the women at my place of work are social butterflies and i really never fit in with them. but i don't want to be seen as the single lonely cat lady. so i have invented a life for them if they ask.. which is very very rarely.

 

[Yomyom]

In My lies usually have a lot of truth in them, so they sound very Reliable (to my family at least)

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I always lie. I'm lying now.

 

[Epsilon0]

I always lie. I'm lying now.

This statement cannot be falsified and is therefore meaningless, according to logical positivism.

I lie now. = if you lie it means you lie when you say you lie, so you tell the truth. If you tell the truth is means you lie.

And so on... (but I know you knew that).

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Most of my life I was a liar, I lied sweet little lies to everyone around me, at one stage of my life I could say I did it so people would accept me. today I think it's more like "If I don't lie I must be a boring person"

Most of the times I lie about things in conversations without even having any control over it, feeling guilty afterwards and that I must be a very empty and boring person.

Don't people catch on that you lie, at least some of the time? Don't you find that people recognize that you lie, and so they don't trust you? Is it stressful to keep up with your lies, or are you able to remember them?

I'm curious because it's so foreign to how I function. I lied a lot as a kid, but only with my parents and sometimes teachers, either to keep from punishment, or to be able to do things I wanted to do. My mom was very controlling as well as over-protective, and punished me physically, so lying was a survival skill at home.

 

[oneess]

Don't people catch on that you lie, at least some of the time? Don't you find that people recognize that you lie, and so they don't trust you? Is it stressful to keep up with your lies, or are you able to remember them?

I'm curious because it's so foreign to how I function. I lied a lot as a kid, but only with my parents and sometimes teachers, either to keep from punishment, or to be able to do things I wanted to do. My mom was very controlling as well as over-protective, and punished me physically, so lying was a survival skill at home.

In the last 3 years, which been the craziest with compulsive lying, not one person ever doubted me. I can see what you mean by a survival skill. You see, my memory is not pretty good about alot of things, but I remember every single lie that came out of my mouth, I guess it's because I'm afraid of the consequences of being caught. Most lies I told people I knew, or know currently are lies that are based on lies I told before, so I have this huge life stories that actually are not real, the lies themselves depends on the place I am at, or at anything related to the people there. At one point I felt like I'm lying all the time for some interest, to get something from people, really thought I'm a psychopath or something, I know today that I only wanted to be accepted but the real "me" is to ashamed and vulnerable to be in front and upfront to people, last year I was honest most of the time, but it's as you said, like an survival thing, like an instinct, sometimes I can't control it.. lying of course started at home, I feel you and I know that pain too, my mother is the same.