Discussion Does anyone else feel like they missed out on their full potential in life?

[Singing In The Rain]

I feel i could of done so much more with my life. Being 31 now I feel like my mind just hit a brick wall at around 25 I just gave up on life. There's just no point in carrying on. Dad won't listen but he keeps asking how I am, so I give a fake yea I'm OK response just to keep them happy. Never had a partner never done shit.

 

[NotWorthLiving]

I'm not as old as you, and people would say I haven't had much of a life to miss out on much but yeah. I feel the same

 

[Comatose11]

Sort of. I'm 21 and there are some very successful people my age. But at the same time, I've never really had potential. I'm lucky I have the parents I do, otherwise I'd be homeless.

 

[TAW122]

Actually I do. My family expected a lot more out of me, so did my peers and the people who know me IRL. They see an well-educated fuck (referring to myself -- yes I self-deprecate a lot just because I have low self-esteem at times) with a lot of potential and hope, but some are disappointed, if not surprised at why I am not "successful" in life. Basically, they see me as someone who comes from a middle class family, who went and got a lot of education, had good opportunities (albeit my childhood and adolescent years were hell), and is intelligent and capable, should end up with a successful career, good social life (with relationships and what not), and just being successful in general.

Instead, I'm just a fuck twit, jobless college graduate who is suicidal and would rather die than wageslave or live through life until I'm old and then die that way.

 

[bigj75]

Yes. I know for a fact i did.

 

[Singing In The Rain]

Actually I do. My family expected a lot more out of me, so did my peers and the people who know me IRL. They see an well-educated fuck (referring to myself -- yes I self-deprecate a lot just because I have low self-esteem at times) with a lot of potential and hope, but some are disappointed, if not surprised at why I am not "successful" in life. Basically, they see me as someone who comes from a middle class family, who went and got a lot of education, had good opportunities (albeit my childhood and adolescent years were hell), and is intelligent and capable, should end up with a successful career, good social life (with relationships and what not), and just being successful in general.

Instead, I'm just a fuck twit, jobless college graduate who is suicidal and would rather die than wageslave or live through life until I'm old and then die that way.

Hey don't beat yourself up. You've just decided to not go down that path. There's a lot more to life than being a wage slave. We should stop worrying about other people's expectations and do what we want to do. Don't live your life for anyone else. Embrace the days we have left.

 

[TAW122]

Hey don't beat yourself up. You've just decided to not go down that path. There's a lot more to life than being a wage slave. We should stop worrying about other people's expectations and do what we want to do. Don't live your life for anyone else. Embrace the days we have left.

True, I guess I'll just do the bare minimum to get by, and when things become too hard, enjoy what pleasure is left and then finally ctb at the very end.

 

[J Tizzle]

I really, really do. I was a smart kid; I loved school and always did well. Got a scholarship to college. But I got a weird infection when I was 16 and never finished school. I'd go for a couple of semesters and do really well, and then some new health crisis would come up and I'd be out for a year or two. Then I'd be all excited to go back and have to leave after another couple semesters. I've never been able to keep a full time job for more than a couple of months for the same reasons. So, yay, what a pointless life.

 

[Cody111]

Im 29. I dont feel like ive missed out on anything. Ive had a good life, traveled, had a large and supportive social group, met some great people, gone on some weird and amazing adventures, made memories that ill never forget, had love and lost it.
I guess im in a bit of a different boat to some of you. I just feel as if ive forfilled my purpose in life and now im just waiting for the end.

When i was a teen a realised that the only thing i want to accomplish in life is to know that someone else will one day look back on their own life and smile because i was a part of it. I know ive done that and now with engagement and enjoyment in life fading with each year im just waiting for the end. There will always be more to do, more to see, but you can never do it all. Im more than happy with the life ive lived. Now its time to let it go. End it while there is some dignity left before it fades to nothing.

 

[Susannah]

I really, really do. I was a smart kid; I loved school and always did well. Got a scholarship to college. But I got a weird infection when I was 16 and never finished school. I'd go for a couple of semesters and do really well, and then some new health crisis would come up and I'd be out for a year or two. Then I'd be all excited to go back and have to leave after another couple semesters. I've never been able to keep a full time job for more than a couple of months for the same reasons. So, yay, what a pointless life.

That's so sad. So sorry on your behalf. Old people always keep talking about the importance of good health. After being injured myself, I now understand why they babble about it..

 

[Mljonzy]

I feel i could of done so much more with my life. Being 31 now I feel like my mind just hit a brick wall at around 25 I just gave up on life. There's just no point in carrying on. Dad won't listen but he keeps asking how I am, so I give a fake yea I'm OK response just to keep them happy. Never had a partner never done shit.

I didn't have a chance from the start i got given awful genetics physically and mentally. I'm 29 and gave up on life when i was 21 and i can honestly say i tried my best but got fucked over from the day i was born i also never had a partner certainly know what that feels like. Never even kissed a girl i am also very ugly, hate myself, short,have social anxiety, people actually laugh at me sometimes just because i look different. I only feel pain, anger, sadness and numbness. All i can say is life is all about luck and not what you make it i can guarantee if i was born with good genetics i would never developed social anxiety and would have felt good about myself also would have had relationships and a better job. It's all about genetics and luck sorry you feel the way you do.

 

[okyeah]

Lol interesting I am 25 right now OP and I have officially given up. I was working a semi decent job for 30k a year and thought about suicide everyday. That's when I knew it was over. My life is complete dog shit. I have no friends, nothing. The worst part is I know I was capable of being so much better at school but I made bad choices.

Now I face a choice of spending thousands to take a few courses and beg the professors to give me references for grad school and then roll the dice and pray to god that I get into one. Why don't I just commit suicide instead? This is so stupid and pointless. Nothing is in my control and it's all a bunch of shit. Not to mention I will likely never find a girl now because I've wasted so much of my life. It's fucking over!

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Absolutely. My toxic family have turned me into a shell of a person. Any potential I had caught the bus a long time ago. I could have had my health, a career, a relationship, friendships, enough money, etc. Instead, I'm just a broken and numb underachiever with only my CTB to look forward to.

 

[Retched]

My potential started fading this year in January. From there I have had a hellish drop into the abyss and I just want this all to be over. I can't face another year of this.

 

[ausboy96]

I feel i could of done so much more with my life. Being 31 now I feel like my mind just hit a brick wall at around 25 I just gave up on life. There's just no point in carrying on. Dad won't listen but he keeps asking how I am, so I give a fake yea I'm OK response just to keep them happy. Never had a partner never done shit.

I had so much potential up until around age 12. Then I started slagging off from laziness and basically ruined any chance of getting what I want out of life. I've ruined my life, there's no going back from the stupid mistakes I've made and I plan on ending it as soon as I can. There's no point living when you've fucked up your chances in life and burned too many bridges.

 

[Final Escape]

Actually I do. My family expected a lot more out of me, so did my peers and the people who know me IRL. They see an well-educated fuck (referring to myself -- yes I self-deprecate a lot just because I have low self-esteem at times) with a lot of potential and hope, but some are disappointed, if not surprised at why I am not "successful" in life. Basically, they see me as someone who comes from a middle class family, who went and got a lot of education, had good opportunities (albeit my childhood and adolescent years were hell), and is intelligent and capable, should end up with a successful career, good social life (with relationships and what not), and just being successful in general.

Instead, I'm just a fuck twit, jobless college graduate who is suicidal and would rather die than wageslave or live through life until I'm old and then die that way.

I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, there is a war on masculinity in first world countries anyway. Men have not been doing as great since you get punished for being male and all that comes with it. Feminism pushing fathers out of the home, women teachers in public school and expecting boys to be able to sit there and if they can't just sit there then they make u get on stimulant medication. It's a rough time for men right now because women are being turned into second rate men and also given rights over men in many ways. As a result of all this men are not doing well as a whole. It's by design, by the political elite to ruin our civilization. The nuclear intact family is a threat to state power so they are working to destroy gender roles, marriage, and basically everything that kept society functioning and civilized.

 

[okyeah]

I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, there is a war on masculinity in first world countries anyway. Men have not been doing as great since you get punished for being male and all that comes with it. Feminism pushing fathers out of the home, women teachers in public school and expecting boys to be able to sit there and if they can't just sit there then they make u get on stimulant medication. It's a rough time for men right now because women are being turned into men and also given rights over men in many ways. As a result of all this men are not doing well as a whole. It's by design, by the political elite to ruin our civilization. The nuclear intact family is a threat to state power so they are working to destroy gender roles, marriage, and basically everything that kept society functioning and civilized.

I think feminism fails to understand that men are driven by sex primarily and when you give women too much freedom and power then they have unbalanced amounts of power naturally just due to how much power they have sexually already.

I predict male suicide rates will skyrocket and divorce rates will increase even further than they are. Also the economy will tank eventually as social media exacerbates this gender problem.

 

[creationisdeath]

I think feminism fails to understand that men are driven by sex primarily and when you give women too much freedom and power then they have unbalanced amounts of power naturally just due to how much power they have sexually already.

I predict male suicide rates will skyrocket and divorce rates will increase even further than they are. Also the economy will tank eventually as social media exacerbates this gender problem.

I'm absolutely not driven by sex. I had the chance to be a man-whore multiple times and declined. I hate this stereotype.

But I agree with the power imbalance. Worst possible combination today is being white/male/poor and it shows in the suicide statistics. Suicide is the number 1 cause of death after the usual "natural" causes. (Natural in quotes because a big chunk is because of obesity)

 

[okyeah]

I'm absolutely not driven by sex. I had the chance to be a man-whore multiple times and declined. I hate this stereotype.

But I agree with the power imbalance. Worst possible combination today is being white/male/poor and it shows in the suicide statistics. Suicide is the number 1 cause of death after the usual "natural" causes. (Natural in quotes because a big chunk is because of obesity)

You might not be but most men are. Unconsciously if they won't admit it.

 

[Smashingairwaves]

I've had so many mental health issues and sleeping issues, and now I'm nowhere where I want to be in life. I'm just so tired

 

[ReadyasEver]

I wouldn't be so hard on yourself, there is a war on masculinity in first world countries anyway. Men have not been doing as great since you get punished for being male and all that comes with it. Feminism pushing fathers out of the home, women teachers in public school and expecting boys to be able to sit there and if they can't just sit there then they make u get on stimulant medication. It's a rough time for men right now because women are being turned into second rate men and also given rights over men in many ways. As a result of all this men are not doing well as a whole. It's by design, by the political elite to ruin our civilization. The nuclear intact family is a threat to state power so they are working to destroy gender roles, marriage, and basically everything that kept society functioning and civilized.

We had a huge study done in the US nobody wants to talk about. Going back on data for 75 years. Statistically, children raised by two parents that were both college educated have by far: less mental illness, stay out of crime, much greater chance of going to college and graduating high school, lower suicide rate, higher marriage success rate ( less divorce ). There are always many exceptions. I have a hard time with this, but in some ways it makes sense

 

[creationisdeath]

You might not be but most men are. Unconsciously if they won't admit it.

Advertising and society drives this in my opinion. Profiteers want it because they can capitalize on it. Society "wants" it because it allows for easy categorization and is hashtag friendly.

I never met a single guy who was into this oversexualization everywhere. Not a single man-whore. This stereotype is frankly ridiculous.

Just like men not having feelings. Fuck, my very traditionally masculine friend has no trouble with crying even.

 

[J Tizzle]

That's so sad. So sorry on your behalf. Old people always keep talking about the importance of good health. After being injured myself, I now understand why they babble about it..

I'm sorry you know the feeling too! Yeah, when you're a healthy kid or teenager I think its really hard to conceptualize what it's like to be unhealthy. I didnt understand why people emphasized how important it is to be healthy, but unfortunately, I get it now.

 

[Final Escape]

We had a huge study done in the US nobody wants to talk about. Going back on data for 75 years. Statistically, children raised by two parents that were both college educated have by far: less mental illness, stay out of crime, much greater chance of going to college and graduating high school, lower suicide rate, higher marriage success rate ( less divorce ). There are always many exceptions. I have a hard time with this, but in some ways it makes sense

Yea kids from single mother homes especially are at 3200% higher risk of abuse. That's pretty significant. It benefits the government for people not to be aware that they are disadvantaging their kids by not waiting to have sex till u find a man willing to marry and provide for you so that you and your kids are less likely to ever end up on welfare. Men still tend to be much better in the provider role and women staying at home caring for the kids and home. Unfortunately things are so messed up, it might be harder to find a husband who earns enough so that u don't have to work outside of the home and only have to focus on being a stay at home mother and taking care of the home primarily. All the government intervention makes men more hesitant about marrying because women benefit a lot more in the event of a divorce these days.

 

[azucaramargo]

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I feel i could of done so much more with my life. Being 31 now I feel like my mind just hit a brick wall at around 25 I just gave up on life. There's just no point in carrying on. Dad won't listen but he keeps asking how I am, so I give a fake yea I'm OK response just to keep them happy. Never had a partner never done shit.

Oh Singing in the Rain, you're just a cub! I don't think there's anyone on this earth who feels that he/she has fully maxed their potential. My parents do the SAME thing: ask how I am, but are only interested in hearing good stuff. I think it's AWESOME that you haven't had a million partners. You are just getting started! I wish I were in your shoes. I think you are doing just fine. I hope you have a way of meeting people. We are your friends!

 

[azucaramargo]

I had so much potential up until around age 12. Then I started slagging off from laziness and basically ruined any chance of getting what I want out of life. I've ruined my life, there's no going back from the stupid mistakes I've made and I plan on ending it as soon as I can. There's no point living when you've fucked up your chances in life and burned too many bridges.

Ausboy!!! I don't believe you! I've made dumb mistakes, too. But, we are not our mistakes. And, you can't get mad at yourself for going through puberty. The teens are some damned hard years! Please don't think that you have no prospects in your life. If I have hope for the future, than you CERTAINLY should. I just can't bear for you to flog yourself over stuff you did during puberty.

 

[Hunter]

I bet every single person on this forum has unresolved dreams and hopes.

 

[Aesthler]

This was something I'd get mad over for myself feeling like I wasted time doing other things and not mastering a skill, or maybe being more healthy and not having certain issues. It's easy to want a time machine to unleash the could have, would have and should haves however, I try to focus on the potential that's left over anymore.

 

[Jodes]

This was something I'd get mad over for myself feeling like I wasted time doing other things and not mastering a skill, or maybe being more healthy and not having certain issues. It's easy to want a time machine to unleash the could have, would have and should haves however, I try to focus on the potential that's left over anymore.

I was exhausted after reading that! Not because it's long (it's not) but all that exercise and positive thinking! Lol

 

[Aesthler]

I was exhausted after reading that! Not because it's long (it's not) but all that exercise and positive thinking! Lol

Haha, I kinda felt like the positivity was a little too intense with this post. I'll try and tone it down a bit :)