Discussion Does anybody get really mad when their parents talk to them?

[seeweed]

I have this questionable rage stir within me everytime my parents try to talk to me. More specifically, my mom. My dad is eh, hes never been really there. Its just my mom that genuinely makes me go insane everytime. She could just be standing there and id be in a pissy mood for 24H. I guess its because my emotions were always suppressed? Then again, i dont know. Im never sure of anything. Shes just so emotionally abusive. It grew on me. Like, maybe that's why im like this? Or am i just being sensitive again and theyre not bad people? I sometimes feel bad for her that she has a child like me, I feel bad for both my parents. I just feel so toxic, i feel like im too unstable or whatever bullshit my parents probabpy describe me. Does anyone feel like this?

 

[hurb]

Yes , it's pent up anger. They pretend like nothing happened and that its not their fault. Usually living somewhere else is the only solution. Less time with them , less spent thinking of them

 

[Lostandlooking]

It's not weird to feel this way. And I don't think you should blame yourself. Chances are your parents (specifically mom) did things to warrant this kind of reaction from you. You said she's emotionally abusive. And in another post you said your parents were emotionally absent. Maybe you can identify some things that she does or has done in the past that hurt you. I don't have a solution. But I wish you'd experience less self doubt and confusion. Maybe they actually are bad people and you're not too sensitive. (Just a thought)

Personally I can relate. And since last year I decided not to share anything with my mom anymore. Distance myself emotionally. In the past, she directly insulted me or was outright cruel (without realizing this herself) After confronting her countless times she started insulting me indirectly. She doesn't seem to understand she's hurting me, no matter how many times I try to explain. She's probably been abused herself, and this continues in her current relationship. She simply lacks the framework to recognize these things. And as a result also doesn't know how to treat others with respect. So I no longer share things with her. Our relationship is very practical and superficial. And I owe it to myself. It's the best thing to do in my situation. It means I never really had any emotional support from my parents. And that's a difficult thing that has caused me many problems. But cutting the emotional connection is necessary and while it isn't ideal, it's the best thing for me.

Wishing you good luck. I don't think you're too sensitive.

Edit: spelling

 

[Zaphkiel]

Yeah I am the same.
I cant really explain why but we are a dysfunctionnal family and my Sister left home at 18 while I left at 17...

 

[Alpacachino]

Another fan of silent voice ,welcome!

It could just be the anger of being alive as a result of their choice and actions. We're here just like everyone else is here and that's ultimately because all our parents made a choice to have us and we're suffering here as a result.

That being said, I don't blame my parents because they're normal people. My mother's old but loves life. Even with her ailing health and creaking knees and joints she's a race car.So it's just a coin toss I ended up the way i am . I don't hate them for it.

 

[kufajoy]

I really hate to talk to my father. I always avoid him ;)

 

[cowboypants]

I hate sitting beside my dad. I don't hate mom as much but I don't like her either or have connection as one should with their parents