NSFW Do you have the feeling it would make you (more) happy being able to have sex with anyone you want whenever you want?

[noname223]

The answer of David Foster Wallace is the following-

He consistently argued that the pursuit of instant gratification including the "bizarre adolescent idea that getting to have sex with whomever one wants whenever one wants is a cure for ontological despair"—is actually a source of profound loneliness, emptiness, and self-contempt.

The irony is DFW always talked how lonely sex with strangers was. But he had a lot of sex with strangers.

I think a personal relationship would be more important to me and an emotional bonding. I am a man by the way. Lol. The thought of being able to sleep with anyone you want (I think one should emphasize in this scenario there is obviousyl consent) is thrilling. But it might become boring and meaningless after a while. But I am not fully sure.

 

[Dejected 55]

If you were truly able to have sex with anyone at anytime, it might not cheapen the act of sex itself or even make you disrespect those people... but it would mean more superficial satisfaction. You would have your moment of instant gratification with nothing meaningful to linger after. You'd be constantly chasing that high like a drug and need more and more to come close to satisfaction.

Whereas a deep meaningful connection gives you so much more than sex... and, oh by the way, it would make the sex way more intense and meaningful too. Somehow in modern society we have all but abandoned meaningful connection as far as I can see. Nobody wants to put time or thought into anything or anyone.

 

[Lamentice]

I don't and never have experienced sexual attraction and lean sex negative (although, strangely, not sex repulsed).

Anyway, this would not make me happy but does sound like the concept of a nightmare to me.

 

[violetforever]

i just want to be able to talk to whoever i want whenever i want…im so sad lol.

Whereas a deep meaningful connection gives you so much more than sex... and, oh by the way, it would make the sex way more intense and meaningful too. Somehow in modern society we have all but abandoned meaningful connection as far as I can see. Nobody wants to put time or thought into anything or anyone.

i really dont understand how people dont value it at all. lasting connection vs short term pleasure. idk.

 

[Aknu132]

it would be more happy for me for sure cause i'm still a virgin and my sexual desire is strong, but it won't fix my depression, and i prefer so much one single person that i can trust and love and have similar mentality than various strangers.

 

[Dejected 55]

There's also a faction of people that views monogamy as boring. I understand to some extent that human beings aren't necessarily naturally wired for monogamy... but to me, there's something amazing about the idea of loving someone so much and having her love me and we have no interest in anyone else because we are each other's home... and if you really love someone you could spend a lifetime learning everything about them and still not have enough time to learn everything and experience everything... so the boredom thing just doesn't hit me. If you get bored with someone, then they aren't your person or you aren't theirs and you were mismatched... I think with the right person, commitment becomes natural and relatively easy because you want them that much.

But what do I know. I've never been in a relationship, no one ever loved me, and it's all just theory in my mind of how it could be.

 

[froggirl9000]

Not really. I want to be loved more than anything, and I don't even think that would really save me.

 

[extremelyugly]

I've been considered hideous by women for so long now that the only way to "revert" the damage is exactly this one, or in other words, to become an extremely attractive guy. It's not going to happen, and I became a zombie for it.
So many unwarranted aggression against my face, subtle, and very not subtle and vocal, as if I didn't exist. I'm very (sadly) resentful because of it, so I would do exactly what they have done to me if I were to magically be attractive, and it's the embarrassing and honest truth, I can't hide from that; I'd be the exact monster they have but just from the other side. I hate this aswell. It's not happening though. I'll be seen as ugly and be as such until I CTB.

So the answer is yes, but for compensating and for resentment, not pretty I know