Discussion Do we define events or do events define us?

[SoulWhisperer]

After some thinking and 9 mood changes in a row I asked myself if my life being shit is my fault, or if the circumstances have forced me into this. I'm not here to "blame" myself or a magic "destiny", I'm here simply to know what you guys think so I can get a general idea. Please don't overthink this poll and don't assume voting the second option assumes you believe in destiny or fate, this post is NOT about that. This post is merely about figuring out whether y'all think we can control our lives or if events and circumstances marked us and turned into what we are now, regrettably or luckily depending on the person.

Sharing your thoughts below is also appreciated.

I personally believe that if my life background was more favourable I wouldn't be in a mental place so dark, it's not my fault I was born here neither...

 

[Ijustcantanymore]

I think we can control and affect some things, but not everything. And sometimes the things we can't control hurt us the most.

I think sometimes an event can alter the definition of ourselves. And other times. We can choose what an event means for ourselves.